How to cope with the fact I have depression? (More than one question).?!
Question: How to cope with the fact I have depression.? (More than one question)..?
Alright,
How do I cope with the fact that I have depression.?
I have accepted the fact that I have depression (Wasn't easy)
I am on treatment I told myself to take one day at a time and I want to go back to the things that I once loved doing.
Can you please help me with this... Right now I can't think of anything else to help me cope with this.
I was thinking of asking one of my cousin's that I trust to start making a stronger bond and ask him if we can start going out for coffee 1 day out of the weekend :) I think everyone should have a buddy (friend) within the family to talk to and spend time with, I am not playing favourites within my family.
How do I start making a bond with my cousin and ask him if we can go out for coffee or something once a weekend & without offending my whole family.?
I thank all of you for you anwsers and pointers :)Health Question & Answer
How do I cope with the fact that I have depression.?
I have accepted the fact that I have depression (Wasn't easy)
I am on treatment I told myself to take one day at a time and I want to go back to the things that I once loved doing.
Can you please help me with this... Right now I can't think of anything else to help me cope with this.
I was thinking of asking one of my cousin's that I trust to start making a stronger bond and ask him if we can start going out for coffee 1 day out of the weekend :) I think everyone should have a buddy (friend) within the family to talk to and spend time with, I am not playing favourites within my family.
How do I start making a bond with my cousin and ask him if we can go out for coffee or something once a weekend & without offending my whole family.?
I thank all of you for you anwsers and pointers :)Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Coping with depression is a herculean task. While pharmaceuticals and meditation can help, I've found the thing that helps me the most is a strong support network.
You have to do everything that you can to surround yourself with positive influences while minimizing the negative. This could be people, environment, or objects. Creating a positive surrounding can do wonders.
As for bonding with your cousin, I don't think getting coffee once a week is inappropriate. I don't see why your family would be opposed to you two spending time together. If they are that spiteful, they may be negative influences.Health Question & Answer
You have to do everything that you can to surround yourself with positive influences while minimizing the negative. This could be people, environment, or objects. Creating a positive surrounding can do wonders.
As for bonding with your cousin, I don't think getting coffee once a week is inappropriate. I don't see why your family would be opposed to you two spending time together. If they are that spiteful, they may be negative influences.Health Question & Answer
Unless you have a chemical balance...or the "like"....
you should not accept "ownership" of depression.
Many, (if not all)...have suffered with depression...
Even though I believe Doctors are there to help...
the condition is not (always) lasting!
There is something that I call "situational depression".
Sometimes we cannot change the circumstance that we are in.
So we have to find ways to cope.
"Alcoholics Anonymous" has a 12 step program...
(that has a lot of wisdom).
The 12 Step program can be utilized for nonalcoholics...
that just need to beat the blues!
They have a "Serenity Prayer" that goes something like this...
(Paraphrased)...
God grant me the courage to change the things I can.
The serenity to accept the things I cannot change......
And the wisdom to know the difference!
I realize that there is "clinical depression"...
Many have had a "deliverance" through the most "severe"
depression through The Great Physician...Jesus!
There are many that will testify to that!!!
The Lord Jesus will put a light unto the path of all that
humbly and fully surrender their will to Him!
He will help you to reject the things that are not good for you and to accept the things that are...good for you.
He will put the "right" buddy before you!
also He can meet your every need!
Health Question & Answer
you should not accept "ownership" of depression.
Many, (if not all)...have suffered with depression...
Even though I believe Doctors are there to help...
the condition is not (always) lasting!
There is something that I call "situational depression".
Sometimes we cannot change the circumstance that we are in.
So we have to find ways to cope.
"Alcoholics Anonymous" has a 12 step program...
(that has a lot of wisdom).
The 12 Step program can be utilized for nonalcoholics...
that just need to beat the blues!
They have a "Serenity Prayer" that goes something like this...
(Paraphrased)...
God grant me the courage to change the things I can.
The serenity to accept the things I cannot change......
And the wisdom to know the difference!
I realize that there is "clinical depression"...
Many have had a "deliverance" through the most "severe"
depression through The Great Physician...Jesus!
There are many that will testify to that!!!
The Lord Jesus will put a light unto the path of all that
humbly and fully surrender their will to Him!
He will help you to reject the things that are not good for you and to accept the things that are...good for you.
He will put the "right" buddy before you!
also He can meet your every need!
Health Question & Answer
Ask yourself: "Why do I feel depressed, and when did I first start to feel this way: can I associate this with any recent change in my life.?" (if so, it is probably situational depression: counselling, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is indicated). Or, was it a more gradual thing, with no apparent cause.? (nutritional deficiencies, hypothyroidism, environmental toxicity, or reactions to some medications, etc., becomes more likely as the cause).
Antidepressants work quicker than the following; 2 - 6 weeks, but you may have to adjust dosage, or types, whereas St. John's wort is effective for most people, tolerance doesn't develop, and the few side effects don't occur often, and even then are normally not severe.
It doesn't cause sleeping problems, or weight change, but usually takes at least 2, and generally 4 - 6 weeks to become effective, but can work quicker than antidepressants, sometimes. A recent, independent German double blind study showed it to be as effective as Sertraline (marketed in the USA as Zoloft: a commonly prescribed antidepressant) in cases of major depression, with far fewer side effects, and those were generally better tolerated, with a lower rate of discontinuation. Unlike antidepressants, where sexual dysfunction is a common side effect, it happens much more rarely with St. John's wort (I have noticed no effect in this area).
Remember back to a time when life was full of promise, or a day when you felt particularly good, or possibly excited from a good result. Emotional states are associated with memories, and if it isn't major depression, this method can help. A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows. All except for no. (7.) are safe to use with medication, but not St. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor.
(1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it. also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression. Around 30% - 40% of depressed people have low vitamin B12 levels. Depressed females using the contraceptive pill may benefit from vitamin B6 supplements. ~~~ (2.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression. ~~~ (3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain).
(4.) Use daily, a relaxation method* and/or yoga*, and/or Tai Chi. ~~~ (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. ~~~ (6.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule. ~~~ (7.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, (get a German variety, if possible; local ones may vary in effectiveness) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).
If 5HTP is used to boost serotonin levels, (which are low in depressed people) it is best taken with a high carbohydrate, minimal protein meal, like pasta, with tomato & basil, and avoid protein for 90 minutes, before, and after, to maximise the amount crossing the blood/brain barrier. also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www.real-depression-help.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets. Low levels of calcium, and potassium can also cause depression. Have your blood tested, and correct any deficiencies, preferably through improved nutrition.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause. also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops). Try to imagine, as vividly as possible, a time in the not too distant future, when you have overcome this temporary setback, and things are much better. *View section 2, on the first 3 pages, and also pages R, C, I, and section 11, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and young women's depression, page V, teen.? depression, and eventually the rest.Health Question & Answer
Antidepressants work quicker than the following; 2 - 6 weeks, but you may have to adjust dosage, or types, whereas St. John's wort is effective for most people, tolerance doesn't develop, and the few side effects don't occur often, and even then are normally not severe.
It doesn't cause sleeping problems, or weight change, but usually takes at least 2, and generally 4 - 6 weeks to become effective, but can work quicker than antidepressants, sometimes. A recent, independent German double blind study showed it to be as effective as Sertraline (marketed in the USA as Zoloft: a commonly prescribed antidepressant) in cases of major depression, with far fewer side effects, and those were generally better tolerated, with a lower rate of discontinuation. Unlike antidepressants, where sexual dysfunction is a common side effect, it happens much more rarely with St. John's wort (I have noticed no effect in this area).
Remember back to a time when life was full of promise, or a day when you felt particularly good, or possibly excited from a good result. Emotional states are associated with memories, and if it isn't major depression, this method can help. A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows. All except for no. (7.) are safe to use with medication, but not St. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor.
(1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it. also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression. Around 30% - 40% of depressed people have low vitamin B12 levels. Depressed females using the contraceptive pill may benefit from vitamin B6 supplements. ~~~ (2.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression. ~~~ (3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain).
(4.) Use daily, a relaxation method* and/or yoga*, and/or Tai Chi. ~~~ (5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. ~~~ (6.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule. ~~~ (7.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, (get a German variety, if possible; local ones may vary in effectiveness) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).
If 5HTP is used to boost serotonin levels, (which are low in depressed people) it is best taken with a high carbohydrate, minimal protein meal, like pasta, with tomato & basil, and avoid protein for 90 minutes, before, and after, to maximise the amount crossing the blood/brain barrier. also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www.real-depression-help.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets. Low levels of calcium, and potassium can also cause depression. Have your blood tested, and correct any deficiencies, preferably through improved nutrition.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause. also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops). Try to imagine, as vividly as possible, a time in the not too distant future, when you have overcome this temporary setback, and things are much better. *View section 2, on the first 3 pages, and also pages R, C, I, and section 11, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and young women's depression, page V, teen.? depression, and eventually the rest.Health Question & Answer
I think you should see a therapist if you don't already. They are professionally trained and educated on depression and similar issues, and would be able to give you the best advice. A therapist is also someone who you can just talk to, about anything and everything especially when you feel like you have nobody. Remember, some therapists would be glad to go for a walk around the block or talk outdoors, rather than in a boring office.
As for your cousin, you could just simply say "lets go out for coffee" or anywhere else you and they would like to go.
I am not sure of your hobbies, but if you are looking to get out more or find new friends you could join some sort of club or group. Some people like gyms, others are in book clubs.. there is really a "club" for everyone. Health Question & Answer
As for your cousin, you could just simply say "lets go out for coffee" or anywhere else you and they would like to go.
I am not sure of your hobbies, but if you are looking to get out more or find new friends you could join some sort of club or group. Some people like gyms, others are in book clubs.. there is really a "club" for everyone. Health Question & Answer