Do i need to go to therapy? Been in a controlling relationship.?!


Question: Do i need to go to therapy.? Been in a controlling relationship..?
I'm 24 and the first and only boyfriend I had was very controlling ( I never had a boyfriend so I didnt know how to react and keep making excuses for his behaviour), even thought it only lasted 6 months, I think it really affected me because I shared with him a lot of things I'd never done with any other guys. also I truly loved him. We work together and I have to see him on regular basis, we don't talk much, except maybe a hello, that's about it. The thing is that after 8 months that the relationship is over I still think about him, and I would like to be his friend.
I know he is not good for me, he always said I wasn't good enough, was really jealous, he checked my phone to see who called me or who I called, wanted to be around me everyday (even thought we saw each other very day at work). After I broke up with him, cos I was done with it, and my family and friends were always telling me he wasn't good for me , anyways i finally broke up, a month after he had a new gf, who didn't lasted 4 months, which made me feel even worse with myself.
I know he is not for me, but why do I still think about him.? Is there something wrong with my self esteem, maybe I need therapy.?Health Question & Answer


Answers:
Consider yourself lucky...

Had you married the bastard you would have likely become a statistic... whether just a battered spouse or a dead one. Controlling people tend to isolate and then abuse their partners.

Now, I freely admit that most Controlling partners are just control freaks or type-A personalities, but a significant percentage do become abusive.

As for being his friend...AVOID him! He will take liberties (even if not sexual) with you.

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hello no you are just fine,you think about only because you really did fall in love,i believe you will all ways have a place in your heart for him,and if you think you need so help,go for it,it ok to reach out for help,no mater what the problem is,good luckHealth Question & Answer

If you feel that therapy could benefit you, you're probably right. Having someone who will listen to you and be objective is useful for almost everyone.

If you have a mental health problem, a counselor will probably pick up on it pretty quick. If you don't, it still helps sometimes to have someone just listen. Counseling is helpful for even the most healthy folks to get over difficult patches in their lives.Health Question & Answer

It's normal to have feelings for someone who you were in a relationship with. Women who generally are in relationships where the other person is controlling want to go back to that person or want to feel as if there is a connection. If you feel this way for a long period of time, I would suggest being more open about it to family, or to see a therapist. Health Question & Answer

No you do not need therapy you only need to stay away from that relationship. I was in one exactly the way you described yours i got out. i did not think it was going to be easy to get over him but what he put me through i now realize he was no good for me and it has benefited me now.It

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