My best friends mum is dying of cancer. How can I support her?!


Question: My best friends mum is dying of cancer. How can I support her.?
I'm 16 and my best friends mum has cancer. She was too weak to carry on chemo and the cancer spread, and now she only has days to live. I want to be there for my friend badly but I have no idea how as I've never been had someone close to me die or know someone that has died. I want to make sure she knows that no matter what, I will always be there for her. How can I go about doing this.?Health Question & Answer


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This is a really tricky situation to be in, but well done for having the courage and kindness to want to do everything you can.
My sister's boyfriends mum died this year from cancer, and we learnt from that that there was no set way for people to behave, react and respond to something like this ...Max, the boyfriend, went really quiet and just didn't want to talk about it at all, but his sister, Esther, who was only 16, talked about her mum all the time, and actually has a very open and healthy attitude to her death ... not that she doens't care, she just finds it easier to laugh about it and be happy rather than spend all day moping.

You're gonna have to be really sensitive and intuitive and basically just bounce off what she says and does. Try and straight out tell her that you're there for her, but don't press it if she doesn't seem to want to talk about it. My stepfather recently was diagnosed with cancer, and I don't really like talking about it, but I just keep my friends updated and I knwo that they are genuinely worried about the whole situation and do care, and for me, right now, that's enough ... if I wanted to talk to someone about it, I would probably go to someone that I didn't know or see that much, so don't be hurt if she chooses to confide in someone else. Her mother is probably the most important person in her lfie right now, so it really is gonna cut her up when she dies, but you just have to be really selfless for a while and be there for her whenever she needs you. If this gets tiring, just imagine if you were in her shoes, and your mother had just died. Again, well done for being such a brilliant friend, and I hope this advice was able to help.Health Question & Answer

Most importantly, just be there for her. Make sure she knows that any time she wants to talk, or maybe just get out of the house for a little while, you're always there. Be sure to answer the phone, no matter what time she calls, and listen. Sometimes greiving people need to talk, and sometimes they just want to sit in silence with a good friend. Let them guide you in the direction they need to go. She will need to find her own way through this in order to come to terms with it, but with you by her side, it will be so much easier!Health Question & Answer

let her talk to you...remember that everone handles greif differently...so if she needs to be alone dont take it personally...my husband lost his grandmother while we were dating and he needed some space...nothing to do with me at all but that was what he needed to get through it....some like to go wild..make sure she doesnt do anything dangerous or stupid....be a good listener!! most importantly...an never ever tell her to get over it!!! my dad died 17 years ago and sometimes it feels like it happened yesterday.Health Question & Answer

Talk to her, let her cry if she needs to, and most importantly let her know that you are her friend by being there for her. That's my best advice to you. Health Question & Answer

If its the first stage god can only cure her byt only my god. A pope said im going 2 b a muslim and he had cancer. he knew he was preaching wrong it didnt make sense 2 himself so he changed to a muslim and was cured.Health Question & Answer

Listen to her, give her a shoulder to cry on, and just talk to her and give her somebody to be open with.Health Question & Answer

just let her know that you'll be there for her when she needs someone to talk to. its the best thing for anyone.Health Question & Answer



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