Have you ever felt like you don't want to get better?!


Question: Have you ever felt like you don't want to get better.?
I am on the start of recovering for avoident personality disorder, very low self esteem and anxiety. My low self esteem comes from not feeling loved by parents as a child even now as an adult. Sometimes i don't want to get better, has anyone ever felt like that.? It is not because i like attention because i don't get any but sometimes i feel great like i am starting to notice feeling better about myself then i think what is the point, i don't have any family to love me or support me so sometimes i don't want to get better i would rather stay at home on my own and die quietly. Do you think this is normal as i am only at the start of recovery.?Health Question & Answer


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I completely understand. The reason you feel like that is probably because you've got so used to feeling that way it's easier to carry on as you are rather than face all of the strain of getting yourself better and that is completely normal.

I have a long history of depression, it's also in my family, I take tablets to help. Recently I couldn't even leave the house because I was so anxious and was having panic attacks, I didn't want people looking at me. But I am finally getting better and it feels so good. Please persevere!! It will be so worth it in the end. Once you have got some confidence you will find many MANY people to love you. And I'm sure you have friends who will support you along the way. Do it for yourself, you owe it to you. Once you've done it you'll look back and feel so proud!! It will make you a much stronger person! BEST OF LUCK!!! xxHealth Question & Answer

I suffer from social anxiety rather than avoidant personality disorder, but sure... I've felt that way at times. I think it's because once you've lived with something for years, it's a part of who you are. Even trying to imagine living without the disorder is hard and seems impossible.

Don't worry, it's normal. I think you might be a little scared of the changes and uncertainty that you'll be going through as you try to overcome your disorder. Once you start to feel like you have more control, I think you'll feel better about the direction you're heading. Good luck!Health Question & Answer

don't worry. There are thousands of people around the world who feels the same thing. There are millions of children who don't have parents. So anyway if your parents do not care about you don't let yourself down. Only word that should be in your heart is "courage". respect your parents as much as you can. If they are not here you also will not be here. work hard and succeed your life and enjoy a better and a comfortable life.Health Question & Answer

You could stay at home and die quietly....

Then again you could get out there, and just by being out and about, you might have a chance meeting or opportunity, Lets face it, if you are actually alive... existing... what's the point of living in misery.?.?

We all want to be something we're not, but you have to make it happen... Do something different with yourself...
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You are as valuable as anybody else on this planet.
Be confdent at home and hold yer head up, try it now, Smile a GENUINE smile.
You will feel better eventually, but again like a lot of things it takes time and there may be a few little setbacks along the way .

DON'T be put off, be strong- when you emerge the other side you feel a whole lot betterHealth Question & Answer

I had ADHD when I was younger, and after a while, I just wanted people to leave me alone about it. I felt that if I wasn't seeing any improvement in my behavior and in my situation that it wouldn't be worth my time to see him. That i my experience with it, and I didn't just give up or anything like that, I stuck to it.

On your case, it is unusual for someone to not want human contact at all. I also have SAD, and I still like to talk to people, and I would prefer not to die alone, but that is just me. I could fulfill all of my social needs over the internet if I didn't have to go to school or work.

Anyway, it sounds to me like you are thinking about giving up. I can't really motivate you if you are not willing to motivate yourself, but I don't think that you should just give up on it.Health Question & Answer

As a guy with a lot of problems I feel the same way with my depression. I feel that even if i got better it doesn't matter because I'm defective. I'm sure you feel a variation of this. The good news i have is that you aren't the only one to feel this way. I drive around on auto pilot wanting to end it all in the car. The bad news is I have never found a way to get that feeling ever gone in my life.

I think it comes from wanting to connect but having no outlet and the outlets you have are abusive. At least for me that is.


Hope this helps let me know if you need to keep talking. Its nice to connect with peopleHealth Question & Answer



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