Please anyone who self harms or has self harmed or just peoples views?!
Question: Please anyone who self harms or has self harmed or just peoples views.?
do you self harm or did you. and how did you hide it from you parents
i have self harmed and i dont no how to keep it from my mum. i feel wrong for doing it but i just dont no how to stop or what to do. any answers x thxHealth Question & Answer
i have self harmed and i dont no how to keep it from my mum. i feel wrong for doing it but i just dont no how to stop or what to do. any answers x thxHealth Question & Answer
Answers:
Hey, I am/was a self harmer, currently in a stopped phase, and hoping it lasts (like I always do...)
It depends on the location of where you hurt your self. A lot of the time my cuts were near my wrist or on my hand. Thick bracelets and long sleeves work, and for the cuts on my hand, they never looked as bad, and no one ever paid any attention to them. It felt like if there was a mark or two that weren't in the typical spots, people didn't seem to care much. My mom has no idea I've ever done any self-harm. There have been times when I do want to tell her, but I get afraid of how she'll react. I think one day, it'll feel okay to tell I did, but until that comes she won't know.
I almost always felt guilty after doing it. There were a couple times that I ended up feeling so bad, I hurt myself again.
It's hard to stop, it does become an addiction, some endorphins are released that make you feel better when you self harm. Try to fight it like you would if you were addicted to something else. Get a support group. Like one or two friends you can trust with this, and be open with them and let them help you. Take it one day at a time, if you slip up, don't beat yourself up over it. Try to find something else to do to replace self-harming. I turned towards writing and art, but there are a lot of things you can do, just pick something that doesn't harm you. Sometimes the urge seems a little to strong, and then I end up turning to something that I can hurt myself without leaving marks that'll last over a couple hours or day. Like snapping a rubber, or scratching myself with the edge of a metal bookmark (it just left welts), but that's not a total fix as your still feeding the addiction, just not leaving marks. I'm really happy that I never ended up going to deep, since when I started till now, I only have one visible scar (from a cut about a year ago). Being able to push my sleeves back and not worry about people seeing scratches and scars was a huge motivator for me.
If you are really struggling with this, seeing a psychologist or something might be a good thing for you to do. They can be very helpful. Mine has really helped me understand why I do certain things and from there we work towards fixing it. And there is a chance that the self-injury may be connect to some mental illness (don't go jumping to self diagnosing though) but seeing someone can be helpful there. Last I saw my psychologist she was saying I might be mildly depressed. Before that I was just seeing her because of being really bad at coping with stress. At that's one of the things self-harming does, it works as a coping mechanism, just not too good of one because it gets addictive and because it harms you.
Best of luck with everything sweetieHealth Question & Answer
It depends on the location of where you hurt your self. A lot of the time my cuts were near my wrist or on my hand. Thick bracelets and long sleeves work, and for the cuts on my hand, they never looked as bad, and no one ever paid any attention to them. It felt like if there was a mark or two that weren't in the typical spots, people didn't seem to care much. My mom has no idea I've ever done any self-harm. There have been times when I do want to tell her, but I get afraid of how she'll react. I think one day, it'll feel okay to tell I did, but until that comes she won't know.
I almost always felt guilty after doing it. There were a couple times that I ended up feeling so bad, I hurt myself again.
It's hard to stop, it does become an addiction, some endorphins are released that make you feel better when you self harm. Try to fight it like you would if you were addicted to something else. Get a support group. Like one or two friends you can trust with this, and be open with them and let them help you. Take it one day at a time, if you slip up, don't beat yourself up over it. Try to find something else to do to replace self-harming. I turned towards writing and art, but there are a lot of things you can do, just pick something that doesn't harm you. Sometimes the urge seems a little to strong, and then I end up turning to something that I can hurt myself without leaving marks that'll last over a couple hours or day. Like snapping a rubber, or scratching myself with the edge of a metal bookmark (it just left welts), but that's not a total fix as your still feeding the addiction, just not leaving marks. I'm really happy that I never ended up going to deep, since when I started till now, I only have one visible scar (from a cut about a year ago). Being able to push my sleeves back and not worry about people seeing scratches and scars was a huge motivator for me.
If you are really struggling with this, seeing a psychologist or something might be a good thing for you to do. They can be very helpful. Mine has really helped me understand why I do certain things and from there we work towards fixing it. And there is a chance that the self-injury may be connect to some mental illness (don't go jumping to self diagnosing though) but seeing someone can be helpful there. Last I saw my psychologist she was saying I might be mildly depressed. Before that I was just seeing her because of being really bad at coping with stress. At that's one of the things self-harming does, it works as a coping mechanism, just not too good of one because it gets addictive and because it harms you.
Best of luck with everything sweetieHealth Question & Answer
Okay, first of all, You got to stop. I self harmed for close to ten years and now I regret it. I have to spend a fortune on plastic surgery so that I can minimise to look of my scars, to something bearable for other people who see them. I know it is difficult to stop, It took me seven years to get help and another three to stop. It may seem like a way out now, but in a few years time you will see that there were better ways to cope with things and will regret your scars. My advice to you is, if you dont want to tell your parents, dont, BUT you need to tell a trusted teacher or school councellor, someone who will be able to help before it is too late. I believe you can overcome this, its hard, but you can do it. Good luck and keep strong!Health Question & Answer
I am 23 years old and still struggle with that everyday. Its an addiction because somewhere along the lines you learned this as a coping skill. Does it mean you are crazy and nuts.? No, it just means that you have bad coping skills. Guess what there is no way to hide your scars because they always get exposed. Now that we have that out of the way, You need to be honest with your mom and tell her you need help and she may put you in the hospital and they will be able to help you with anything you need. Unfortunately some of your scars will be perminate like mine. Good luck and you can email me with anything.Health Question & Answer
I do sometimes self harm but not often, it's never really been the main way my illness manifests.
For a start I'm actually squeamish and really don't get on with blood, so by cutting my arms (which I have done) I then have to deal with the revulsion of that oozing feeling. But at the same time there's the adrenalin and the euphoria.
I think the problem with self harm is that for me, it works. If I'm heavily depressed, the pain breaks through it and afterwards I snap out of it.
But then I'll think objectively about what's happened, and realise how bad it has got that I would rather mutilate myself rather than live with my own thoughts.
I don't have an answer for that. I probably never will have an answer for that.
I'm old enough not to have to worry about hiding it from my Mum, but scars were noticed by some friends. In the end, she'll work it out whether you tell her or not. The choice there is yours.
I don't know if it's wrong to do it, as in morally wrong. It's your body and you have control of what happens to it, and it's your decision to make on how to deal with the problems you face. All humans are self destructive to one degree or another. Doubt and self examination are part of what keeps us sane. You should not listen to any feelings of guilt.
I do think you should seek ways not to do it though. Try to learn not from the release that harming gives you, but from the feelings you have now. We're creatures of habit, and if you self harm a few times and you don't challenge it, then you get into the pattern of doing it, and stopping it is like fighting a drug addiction. You want to break the cycle before that if you can.
You do need professional help. I can't stress that enough. Self harm is not a cause of problems and is usually a symptom of something else driving it. For me its part of being Bipolar.
It shouldn't have to involve your family if you don't want it to. Either talk to a GP, or if you have just harmed yourself, go down to the nearest Accident and Emergency and book yourself in. They will get someone to talk to you about it. It feels much easier once you are getting help, believe me.Health Question & Answer
For a start I'm actually squeamish and really don't get on with blood, so by cutting my arms (which I have done) I then have to deal with the revulsion of that oozing feeling. But at the same time there's the adrenalin and the euphoria.
I think the problem with self harm is that for me, it works. If I'm heavily depressed, the pain breaks through it and afterwards I snap out of it.
But then I'll think objectively about what's happened, and realise how bad it has got that I would rather mutilate myself rather than live with my own thoughts.
I don't have an answer for that. I probably never will have an answer for that.
I'm old enough not to have to worry about hiding it from my Mum, but scars were noticed by some friends. In the end, she'll work it out whether you tell her or not. The choice there is yours.
I don't know if it's wrong to do it, as in morally wrong. It's your body and you have control of what happens to it, and it's your decision to make on how to deal with the problems you face. All humans are self destructive to one degree or another. Doubt and self examination are part of what keeps us sane. You should not listen to any feelings of guilt.
I do think you should seek ways not to do it though. Try to learn not from the release that harming gives you, but from the feelings you have now. We're creatures of habit, and if you self harm a few times and you don't challenge it, then you get into the pattern of doing it, and stopping it is like fighting a drug addiction. You want to break the cycle before that if you can.
You do need professional help. I can't stress that enough. Self harm is not a cause of problems and is usually a symptom of something else driving it. For me its part of being Bipolar.
It shouldn't have to involve your family if you don't want it to. Either talk to a GP, or if you have just harmed yourself, go down to the nearest Accident and Emergency and book yourself in. They will get someone to talk to you about it. It feels much easier once you are getting help, believe me.Health Question & Answer
iused to self harm and have a few frends who do. I tell them how much i hate it when they do it and tell them i understand what they are going through. Its something that you need to get out of! self harm leads to suicide. try taking up another habit such as chewing gum and even though its bad for your health smoking. it relieves stress gives you something to do and is easier to quit especially at a young age i know because i did that tooHealth Question & Answer
I just don't roll my sleeves up, or do it where a T-shirt can cover it up.
I'm trying to stop, set yourself a target of not cutting for a week or something, I find that's helping me. If you find it really hard to stop you could use ice or ping an elastic band against your wrist, they have the same effect, just no scarring or potential long term stuff.
Good luck
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I'm trying to stop, set yourself a target of not cutting for a week or something, I find that's helping me. If you find it really hard to stop you could use ice or ping an elastic band against your wrist, they have the same effect, just no scarring or potential long term stuff.
Good luck
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i covered mine with sleeves and braces and bangles.
it is wrong you'll regret it later on just stop asap i know its hard.
your the last person to blame for anything unless if it was your fault. lol. just dont do it too deep. thats what i did and no scars now :DHealth Question & Answer
it is wrong you'll regret it later on just stop asap i know its hard.
your the last person to blame for anything unless if it was your fault. lol. just dont do it too deep. thats what i did and no scars now :DHealth Question & Answer
Nah my way of release is to punch things like walls & doors, I don't do it so often now because I broke my knuckles a while back. This don't really stop me though and I still hit things If I'm in a rage.Health Question & Answer
I think you should just tell your parents, if you hurt yourself you ought to get some help.Health Question & Answer