A fear of dismissive authority figures - what do i do ?!
Question: A fear of dismissive authority figures - what do i do .?
i have a fear of condescending, abrupt, aloof, dismissive authority figures and what their capable of since the experience at my last doctors practice over a year ago..
everytime i went staff their were aloof, dismissive and abrupt and treated me like i shouldnt be making appointments to go there , like im wasting their time..
i got tired of one particular doctor always dismissing me and talking down to me, so one day i went there, my doctors head was cupped in her hands as if to say '' what do i want now .? '' - '' my problems are just in my head '' -
i got exasperated with this behaviour and said annoyed '' i dont come hear to be treated or spoken to like this ! ''
she dismissed me out the room while her mobile rang, i got annoyed with recption to and told them i dont go there to be treated like garbage.........i made a written formal complaint through a independant complaints agency.
and the gp practice logged on their system that it was me who was inappropriate and who had an aggressive out burst , so i left that gp practice of my own accord, because after the complaint the reception i got was even more unfriendly and dismissive..
ive now been with a new gp surgery over 6 months , they seem more corteous and friendly , but my present doctor is still ' distant ' and aloof with me at times ...
i have numerous things going on that im going to need to be in contact with my doctor with regularly ; a skin complaint on the head of my penis , cracked skin , wanting a 3rd opinion , another symptom i want looking into , a reoccuring symptom that isnt going away..
i have torn ankle ligaments due to a sprain a year ago, so im doing physio and may need an operation on my ankle its very weak..
my doctor said weeks ago ' he wouldnt of refered me for a 3rd opinion about my skin problem because how many opinions do i need .? '' he was quite abrupt when he said it to...
bottom line is : i have alot of things going on right now, possible referals, things looking into , a psychotherapy referal because my mental health team said thers no 1 one 1 therapy available in my area - and im scared of being dismissed or condescended that its all in my mind or some other excuse - me becoming agitated and annoyed , and then them ' turning it around against ' me them all turning on me - banishing me from the surgery or any other action against me .?
how do i face this problem .?
because i really need the health services right now both mental and physical.
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everytime i went staff their were aloof, dismissive and abrupt and treated me like i shouldnt be making appointments to go there , like im wasting their time..
i got tired of one particular doctor always dismissing me and talking down to me, so one day i went there, my doctors head was cupped in her hands as if to say '' what do i want now .? '' - '' my problems are just in my head '' -
i got exasperated with this behaviour and said annoyed '' i dont come hear to be treated or spoken to like this ! ''
she dismissed me out the room while her mobile rang, i got annoyed with recption to and told them i dont go there to be treated like garbage.........i made a written formal complaint through a independant complaints agency.
and the gp practice logged on their system that it was me who was inappropriate and who had an aggressive out burst , so i left that gp practice of my own accord, because after the complaint the reception i got was even more unfriendly and dismissive..
ive now been with a new gp surgery over 6 months , they seem more corteous and friendly , but my present doctor is still ' distant ' and aloof with me at times ...
i have numerous things going on that im going to need to be in contact with my doctor with regularly ; a skin complaint on the head of my penis , cracked skin , wanting a 3rd opinion , another symptom i want looking into , a reoccuring symptom that isnt going away..
i have torn ankle ligaments due to a sprain a year ago, so im doing physio and may need an operation on my ankle its very weak..
my doctor said weeks ago ' he wouldnt of refered me for a 3rd opinion about my skin problem because how many opinions do i need .? '' he was quite abrupt when he said it to...
bottom line is : i have alot of things going on right now, possible referals, things looking into , a psychotherapy referal because my mental health team said thers no 1 one 1 therapy available in my area - and im scared of being dismissed or condescended that its all in my mind or some other excuse - me becoming agitated and annoyed , and then them ' turning it around against ' me them all turning on me - banishing me from the surgery or any other action against me .?
how do i face this problem .?
because i really need the health services right now both mental and physical.
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Answers:
I dont know what to say...
Let me start with the doctor issue.
I dont think it is just you that they are dismissive with, I think it can be anybody. Depending on the doctor you see and the amount of patients they've had, they rarely emote. They look at you as if you are an inconvenience and rarely crack a smile.
It used to bother me until I began working as a Team Leader in an office environment. I understood the drain on your internal resources being surrounded by people could be, I understood the dread upon seeing certain people coming towards you - not because you dont like them but because you know it is going to be difficult, time consuming and something your day could have done without.
I think I hide it better than the doctors do and at least I am aware of doing it.
The hardest thing to realise when you're agoraphobic and therefore paranoid about the world outside your home, is that not everything is about you. I know this because I've been there. If someone laughed in the street my mind would work out a hundred different ways it could have been about me. Its horrible and its debilitating.
The doctor having her head in her hands could have been because she was going through something personal and it got to her at that moment, the phone call could have been the one she'd been waiting for to tell her whether her Mother had pulled through a life threatening illness...
The first step to recovery is recognising the problem - which you have - I think you just have to take it one step at a time, its not all going to be fixed over night (unfortunately) and so there is nothing else you can do.
Seek help, talk about it and try to think of other possibilities to situations rather than assuming the worst - easier said than done, but doable none the less.
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Let me start with the doctor issue.
I dont think it is just you that they are dismissive with, I think it can be anybody. Depending on the doctor you see and the amount of patients they've had, they rarely emote. They look at you as if you are an inconvenience and rarely crack a smile.
It used to bother me until I began working as a Team Leader in an office environment. I understood the drain on your internal resources being surrounded by people could be, I understood the dread upon seeing certain people coming towards you - not because you dont like them but because you know it is going to be difficult, time consuming and something your day could have done without.
I think I hide it better than the doctors do and at least I am aware of doing it.
The hardest thing to realise when you're agoraphobic and therefore paranoid about the world outside your home, is that not everything is about you. I know this because I've been there. If someone laughed in the street my mind would work out a hundred different ways it could have been about me. Its horrible and its debilitating.
The doctor having her head in her hands could have been because she was going through something personal and it got to her at that moment, the phone call could have been the one she'd been waiting for to tell her whether her Mother had pulled through a life threatening illness...
The first step to recovery is recognising the problem - which you have - I think you just have to take it one step at a time, its not all going to be fixed over night (unfortunately) and so there is nothing else you can do.
Seek help, talk about it and try to think of other possibilities to situations rather than assuming the worst - easier said than done, but doable none the less.
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Nymphomanical Nathalie
got plenty fed up with philately.
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got plenty fed up with philately.
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Ignore them if you can, other than that not much you can do. Health Question & Answer
Im not really sure on what your EXACT question is but my best advice would be when going to the doctors office every, and i mean every paranoid thought you get immediately STOP thinking it! The doctor is just doing his job and so is everyone else in the office. You know you have a long list of mental issues and aggression problems. So realize when you are in a public situation like that it's simply your illness making you think/feel that way. It's not the doctor, it's you, it's not the receptionist, it's you etc.Health Question & Answer
firstly you havent finished in life yet so dont say you have had a hard misfortunate life... all you do on here is post constantly!!! i feel you probably go to the doctors a lot.? do you need 3 opions for a skin complaint.?im not saying its okay for docyors to be rude as its not! okay you have torn ligaments and are having pysio great you MAY NEED an operation!!!!!! so why are you worrying about that it may never happen!!!!!!!!!!Yes you do need to take meds for a while maybe several years antidepressants arent additive!!!! ask to change your pysch!!!!!!!!!! do you ever listen to any of the advice us people give you NO ,you just re post the same stuff over and over Health Question & Answer
You're not stupid, but you aren't helping yourself in my opinion.
Authorities aren't actually in control themselves, and there is only so much they can do within their budgets.
As I have said before, you are a victim both from yourself and from society.
Your only choice .? Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and limp before you can run... You will become a winner in life's shi**y little race eventually. One day at a time my friend.Health Question & Answer
Authorities aren't actually in control themselves, and there is only so much they can do within their budgets.
As I have said before, you are a victim both from yourself and from society.
Your only choice .? Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and limp before you can run... You will become a winner in life's shi**y little race eventually. One day at a time my friend.Health Question & Answer