I am now a 16 year old female i was abused as a child how do i find closure ?!
Question: i am now a 16 year old female i was abused as a child how do i find closure .?
ok here is my deal when i was about 6 years old i was touched in a sexual way by a older male who was mentally ill he was charged and all but yeah then later on in my life when i was 12 my mom fell in love with a man who was nice in public but the Minuit we were behind closed doors the true side came out i was beaten several times yelled at and hurt in many ways i was crying out for help but no one came to help three years in this sition the only good thing was i got a little brother out of the sition but when the help arrived it was two late he tried to take my brothers life and my moms life but did not succeed he did though take his own i some how feel like ma bey if i did not say any thing he would still be here i need to no how do i feel better about the whole thing i cant feel guilty any more but i do help me please it is hurting me on the inside any suggestions will help me in many ways ways you cant even imagine Health Question & Answer
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My God! What terrible stuff you have been living in! 1st of all, be glad it's over. All of it. So, your step Dad, who (sounds like he beat you.?) took his life. And almost got your mom and his own son.? Plainly, you can see hr was disturbed, dear, he could have killed you. So you told about this behavior and he went nuts, huh.? Hmm, Okay, look, you are never going to forget this, or what happened when you were 6, but you are almost a woman, a young woman, and you CAN put this behind you. Every time a past memory of this crap gets in your head, mentally say NO, and change your thought. Keep doing this and you will see that your brain will listen to you, and the memories will be less and less, and most of all, less intrusive into your current life. Your mom and you should get some counseling. Or even just read some books on abuse and all. Thank God you were not killed, Read up on self confidence and self esteem, you are special, so is your mom and little brother. Face each day with the knowledge you are here in this world for a reason, and you have been through hell, but it may be to just make you stronger in the long run, and who knows you might be needed someday to help someone else in a similar situation. I will keep you in my thoughts.Health Question & Answer
Most people never get any kind of closure.
I'm sorry that happened to you, but the best thing I can tell you is to keep in mind that it's not you fault at all, and live you life how you would want it to be, not how you think it should be after something traumatic happens to you. If that makes sense.Health Question & Answer
I'm sorry that happened to you, but the best thing I can tell you is to keep in mind that it's not you fault at all, and live you life how you would want it to be, not how you think it should be after something traumatic happens to you. If that makes sense.Health Question & Answer
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