How can I harden my heart?!
Question: How can I harden my heart.?
I have a problem of being too sensitive at times. I wish I weren't so. Got any tips for not being so sensitive.?Health Question & Answer
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There's nothing wrong with being sensitive. I don't know what you mean by being too sensitive, I really don't think there's such a thing. With that said, here are some suggestions. Perhaps you haven't developed you logical side and could spend some time writing out logical thoughts to your sensitive thoughts. We need both sides of ourselves to be in balance.
Look closer at what you think you're being too sensitive about. Are these things legitimate.? Write them out using logic instead of Emotion. Your emotions are to tell you how you feel. Logic is to tell you how you think. Both are important.
Peachy, I've looked at some of your answers to people's questions. You have a good logical head on your shoulders and provide great insights. Perhaps, when you're too sensitive, it's when you feel alone and not connected to others. Those are the times you need to reach out and reconnect and also ask your friends to help you rebalance yourself. Best wishes to you.Health Question & Answer
Look closer at what you think you're being too sensitive about. Are these things legitimate.? Write them out using logic instead of Emotion. Your emotions are to tell you how you feel. Logic is to tell you how you think. Both are important.
Peachy, I've looked at some of your answers to people's questions. You have a good logical head on your shoulders and provide great insights. Perhaps, when you're too sensitive, it's when you feel alone and not connected to others. Those are the times you need to reach out and reconnect and also ask your friends to help you rebalance yourself. Best wishes to you.Health Question & Answer
Don't harden your heart, just don't let evil people that say mean things get under your skin, get to you, and do not take things they say personal as people like that usually have a very low self esteem when they inflict damage on others. They do it as a way to project hurt to others. Sensitivity is a good thing as it means you have a good heart and empathy towards others less fortunate. Good Luck!Health Question & Answer
Hiya Peachy...It's not often you ask a question on here, so when I saw your post, I knew something was up. Have you heard that Petra song "Don't Let Your Heart Be Hardened".? See if you can get the song on YouTube and give it a listen. Here are the lyrics:
Don't Let Your Heart Be Hardened
Psalm 95:7-8, Hebrews 3:13
(Chorus)
Don't let your heart be hardened - don't let your love grow cold
May it always stay so childlike - may it never grow too old
Don't let your heart be hardened - may you always know the cure
Keep it broken before Jesus, keep it thankful, meek, and pure
May it always feel compassion - may it beat as one with God's
May it never be contrary - may it never be at odds
May it always be forgiving - may it never know conceit
May it always be encouraged - may it never know defeat
May your heart be always open - never satisfied with right
May your heat be filled with courage and strengthened with all might
Peachy, you're not alone in being too sensitive. It comes from having a compassionate heart. If you harden that, you'll be able to walk right past people who really need your touch. We all have something to offer, and if we close ourselves off, we'll never know the joy of seeing someone benefit from our help. I understand that it's hard to know when you're being used for a doormat or if there's a real need. Been there, done that. I've still got the scars on my forehead. What you need to do is to set some standards for how far you'll go, and under what circumstances. One of my standards is that I never lend money unless I can afford to never see it again. Of course, it's best to never lend money, as you never know how the person will use it. It's best to take them to the store and buy them the food they say they need, or write the check out directly to the power company so that their power will actually get paid. It's not a matter of hardening your heart, just guarding it. You want to remain open to help people, but you want to do it wisely. And if someone bites your head off, just know that you're in good company...look what they did to Jesus, and He was just trying to share His Father's message with them. He gave us some good examples of how to handle rude people. The thing is, He had the power to wipe them all off the face of the earth, but what would that have solved.? He had a plan, and He had to go through some tough things to get it done. How does that apply to you.? Well, often when our feelings get hurt, it's while we're trying to help someone. Sometimes people don't want our help. Or they might want what we can't or don't want to give them. Or they resent the fact that we even care enough to try. For whatever reason, people get irritated over the simplest things, and sometimes it's not even us that they're angry with. Sometimes we're just in the way, and we get hit with a big bag of nasty. Many times, they've had their blow and are now seemingly doing fine, while we're down in the dumps for several days. The thing is, sweetie, is to try not to take it so personally. For whatever reason, people just have bad days (or lives) and look for the nearest warm body to abuse. And there you are. It used to be that if someone dumped on me, I'd react in a not-so Christian way...often with a few choice words attached to a fist. Now that my heart has been softened by the love of Jesus, I try to see things from His perspective, and find a different, more tactful way to deal with the person. Sometimes it's just best to leave that person alone for a while, and give them space. If they come back, don't be the first to mention the issue. If the issue is never brought up, leave it in the past. Once a word or action is done, you can't take it back. So the more you understand that fact, the more you can start letting things go. It does no good to hang onto the things that upset you. It just keeps you from having that peace that passes all understanding. And who needs all that drama anyway.? Now, take a deep breath, and go to YouTube and find that Petra song. Commit it to heart. And understand that a soft heart is what God wants in His child. Now smile. And have a wonderful day. <*)))><Health Question & Answer
Don't Let Your Heart Be Hardened
Psalm 95:7-8, Hebrews 3:13
(Chorus)
Don't let your heart be hardened - don't let your love grow cold
May it always stay so childlike - may it never grow too old
Don't let your heart be hardened - may you always know the cure
Keep it broken before Jesus, keep it thankful, meek, and pure
May it always feel compassion - may it beat as one with God's
May it never be contrary - may it never be at odds
May it always be forgiving - may it never know conceit
May it always be encouraged - may it never know defeat
May your heart be always open - never satisfied with right
May your heat be filled with courage and strengthened with all might
Peachy, you're not alone in being too sensitive. It comes from having a compassionate heart. If you harden that, you'll be able to walk right past people who really need your touch. We all have something to offer, and if we close ourselves off, we'll never know the joy of seeing someone benefit from our help. I understand that it's hard to know when you're being used for a doormat or if there's a real need. Been there, done that. I've still got the scars on my forehead. What you need to do is to set some standards for how far you'll go, and under what circumstances. One of my standards is that I never lend money unless I can afford to never see it again. Of course, it's best to never lend money, as you never know how the person will use it. It's best to take them to the store and buy them the food they say they need, or write the check out directly to the power company so that their power will actually get paid. It's not a matter of hardening your heart, just guarding it. You want to remain open to help people, but you want to do it wisely. And if someone bites your head off, just know that you're in good company...look what they did to Jesus, and He was just trying to share His Father's message with them. He gave us some good examples of how to handle rude people. The thing is, He had the power to wipe them all off the face of the earth, but what would that have solved.? He had a plan, and He had to go through some tough things to get it done. How does that apply to you.? Well, often when our feelings get hurt, it's while we're trying to help someone. Sometimes people don't want our help. Or they might want what we can't or don't want to give them. Or they resent the fact that we even care enough to try. For whatever reason, people get irritated over the simplest things, and sometimes it's not even us that they're angry with. Sometimes we're just in the way, and we get hit with a big bag of nasty. Many times, they've had their blow and are now seemingly doing fine, while we're down in the dumps for several days. The thing is, sweetie, is to try not to take it so personally. For whatever reason, people just have bad days (or lives) and look for the nearest warm body to abuse. And there you are. It used to be that if someone dumped on me, I'd react in a not-so Christian way...often with a few choice words attached to a fist. Now that my heart has been softened by the love of Jesus, I try to see things from His perspective, and find a different, more tactful way to deal with the person. Sometimes it's just best to leave that person alone for a while, and give them space. If they come back, don't be the first to mention the issue. If the issue is never brought up, leave it in the past. Once a word or action is done, you can't take it back. So the more you understand that fact, the more you can start letting things go. It does no good to hang onto the things that upset you. It just keeps you from having that peace that passes all understanding. And who needs all that drama anyway.? Now, take a deep breath, and go to YouTube and find that Petra song. Commit it to heart. And understand that a soft heart is what God wants in His child. Now smile. And have a wonderful day. <*)))><Health Question & Answer
Being sensitive is good. Very good. God can't work with a hard hearted person.
Taking things personally is another issue. You have to remember that not everything that is done by everybody is aimed at you. And not all people are talking about you. Assume it's not about you unless you are told otherwise.
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Taking things personally is another issue. You have to remember that not everything that is done by everybody is aimed at you. And not all people are talking about you. Assume it's not about you unless you are told otherwise.
TX Mom
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Being sensitive is not always a bad thing. Once you are at the point that you are not sensitive, you're stuck, and become a mess.
If you really feel like it's too much though, do something to express yourself daily and you'll learn to cope with it better eventuallyHealth Question & Answer
If you really feel like it's too much though, do something to express yourself daily and you'll learn to cope with it better eventuallyHealth Question & Answer
Why on Earth would you want to "harden" you heart.? There is nothing wrong with being sensitive. Are you an assertive person.? You can be assertive without losing your sensitivity. The two are not mutually exclusive. Work on ways you can become more assertive.Health Question & Answer
You don't want to harden your heart.The world tells us that it isn't ok to be sensitive that is why so many people are so hateful and inconsiderate of themselves and others.Stay sweet and sensitive but don't let anyone walk over because u are sensitive.Health Question & Answer
I had that issue a while ago and I still do at times but not often. I turned emo and now I don't really care. Just keep thinking this is a stupid thing to be mad at. I will forget about it in 20 years and it won't matter then.Health Question & Answer
well you can try not to care so much and think more of your self Health Question & Answer
You should be sensitive, I was and ruined it I wish I hadn't.Health Question & Answer