Need help, I don't know if I should be with bipolar girl?!
Question: Need help, I don't know if I should be with bipolar girl.?
I'm in a somewhat serious relationship with a woman, and I just found out that she is bipolar. I've always wanted kids, but now that I know she is mentally ill I don't know if I should let things get any more serious with her, or if I should just break up with her.
I don't want children with a serious mental illness like bipolar disorder, I know how hard it can be, I've known people with it, and seen what a struggle it can be. On and off medications, in and out of hospitals.
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somewhat serious
girlfriend who struggles
and you would like to derail her.?
most people with bipolar are helped by medication; it takes time to find the right combo, and they go on to live normal lives like everyone else. Poor her. You care about her then find out she has a struggle to overcome, and you want to dump her, so she can struggle some more. What negative message would that send her.
There is no guarantee in life, marriage or with children for health both mental or physical. We don't choose who we love; but we do stand by them in sickness and health. It is called character.
You have no guarantee to offer anyone else about your health either. For you sake let us hope that a mate you choose will love you in sickness or in health....or that you remain healthy.
You might want to think about that.
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girlfriend who struggles
and you would like to derail her.?
most people with bipolar are helped by medication; it takes time to find the right combo, and they go on to live normal lives like everyone else. Poor her. You care about her then find out she has a struggle to overcome, and you want to dump her, so she can struggle some more. What negative message would that send her.
There is no guarantee in life, marriage or with children for health both mental or physical. We don't choose who we love; but we do stand by them in sickness and health. It is called character.
You have no guarantee to offer anyone else about your health either. For you sake let us hope that a mate you choose will love you in sickness or in health....or that you remain healthy.
You might want to think about that.
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I don't know where or why you think you have the right to assume that an individual with a particular disorder cannot be a good parent. Are you a psychologist or psychiatrist as well as a "better-than-you" type.? It takes a lot of education and observation to learn about people. Everyone is different. You have developed some type of attraction & affection for this woman, despite her bipolar. So, she must seem like a lovable, normal, person. There are many people (myself included) who have bipolar & haven't been hospitalized in years or not at all. Would you question a relationship with a woman who had diabetes or arthritis.? If you are looking for a so-called "perfect" woman, you should be prepared to wait a long time while you work on perfecting yourself for her.Health Question & Answer
well if you love her stay with her, yes it will be hard but people stick through good times and bad times together lol sounds cliche but its true. and there would be a possibility of the kids turning bipolar if you have a family with her but again you should love your childen no matter what and no matter who you have kids with there will always be a chance of the child having a problem whether it be a physical or mental illness.
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i dont think bipolar is passed down to children unless it influences them physcologically.
the only possible problem is in the family, as in you could have trouble with her in her 'down' moments, and she could affect the kids. based on the extent of her depressive moments and how well you can handle them, you should decide.
but make sure you love her before you have kids with her.Health Question & Answer
the only possible problem is in the family, as in you could have trouble with her in her 'down' moments, and she could affect the kids. based on the extent of her depressive moments and how well you can handle them, you should decide.
but make sure you love her before you have kids with her.Health Question & Answer
That's a tough one, but I think if you are completely serious about her and she's the right one, marry her and have kids. There are a lot of medications to help bipolar disorder. Good luck!Health Question & Answer
I will share with you something a close male friend of mine once told me- every girl is bipolar to some degree. The older you get, the more you will understand this.Health Question & Answer
I think she could do better.Health Question & Answer
you could always adoptHealth Question & Answer
Good question. I also have bipolar disorder and have decided not to have kids because I don't want to pass it on. The kids she has may not have any mental illness and there are more effective treatments coming out all the time. Just today, I read an article about transcranial magnetic therapy that is working well for people with major depression and looks promising for people with bipolar disorder.
http://www.neuronetics.com/
It's still in the testing phase so it's not yet covered by insurance, but in 10 years or so, that should change. This therapy doesn't require medication and could make life for people with major depression and bipolar disorder much easier.
If you really love this woman, and the bipolar disorder is the only thing that stands in your way, I would say to stick with it and see how she handles her mood swings. If she is the type to stop taking her meds or adjust them without doctors approval, then drop her. On the other hand, if she is able to maintain a job and relationships, then she may have the illness under control and may not be in and out of hospitals and changing medications all the time.
It may not be a serious as you think. Especially if you have been dating her for a while and only know about it because she told you. You didn't mention anything about her behavior, and don't cite that as a cause for your question. Perhaps her illness is well controlled.Health Question & Answer
http://www.neuronetics.com/
It's still in the testing phase so it's not yet covered by insurance, but in 10 years or so, that should change. This therapy doesn't require medication and could make life for people with major depression and bipolar disorder much easier.
If you really love this woman, and the bipolar disorder is the only thing that stands in your way, I would say to stick with it and see how she handles her mood swings. If she is the type to stop taking her meds or adjust them without doctors approval, then drop her. On the other hand, if she is able to maintain a job and relationships, then she may have the illness under control and may not be in and out of hospitals and changing medications all the time.
It may not be a serious as you think. Especially if you have been dating her for a while and only know about it because she told you. You didn't mention anything about her behavior, and don't cite that as a cause for your question. Perhaps her illness is well controlled.Health Question & Answer
you should stay with her i think
i know that people with bipolar mania really need someone to be there for them
and you could be the person she needs
and bipolar parents don't always pass it on to their children
but if it does occur, you'll be more prepared for it
plus the earlier you find out your child has it, the easier it is to treat for it and to help them
plus, you could always adopt a child if you're really worried
but i do think you should stay with her.Health Question & Answer
i know that people with bipolar mania really need someone to be there for them
and you could be the person she needs
and bipolar parents don't always pass it on to their children
but if it does occur, you'll be more prepared for it
plus the earlier you find out your child has it, the easier it is to treat for it and to help them
plus, you could always adopt a child if you're really worried
but i do think you should stay with her.Health Question & Answer