My boyfriend has PTSD?!
Question: My boyfriend has PTSD.?
Ive been dating this guy for about a year now. He was a marine for four years. I met him in college last year after his last deployment in iraq. we started dating and everything was going great. after a couple months of dating we started to fight over the smallest things. One night we had a huge fight and he broke up with me. for the nest few days he wouldnt return my calls or call me. after not talking for a while we met up and decided to talk. he told me he felt numb and didnt love me anymore. he said it was because of his ptsd and when ever he sences tention he is able to shut out all of his feelings. we got back together and have been dating for about a year now but nothing has changed. he still cant tell me he truely loves me or anyone for that matter. he'll have weeks where he just sits in his room doing nothing because he is so unmodivated todo anything. we have broken up about 5 times because of his ptsd. hes always telling me he needs to figure out his life and doesnt know if he is ready for a relationship. one day he wont feel anything and the next he'll be telling me how much he loves and adores me. this is so hard for me because he is the love of my life. i would marry him tomarrow if he asked me and it kills me that he doesnt love me back. im trying so hard and im being so supportive. i was just wondering if there is anyone out there going through a similar situation as mine. if so how are you dealing with it.? how does it feel.?Health Question & Answer
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My hunny is in the army, and im a military brat and you have to understand that over there there are bodies and body parts lien in the street and they have tp pick those up and they have to kill people and children. And everytime your bf closes his eyes he can probably still see every bit of this. He can probably even smell the bodies to this day. You have to be his arch. The person that takes charge and gets him help. To a marine this stuff is seen as weakness and they will be called weak. so he will never get help on his own and by then it will be too late. You need to understand your probably his stabllity in his life. This is so much harder for you to understand but read up on it in the internet, there are plenty of places that can help with this. but understand he might not be ready for a elationship for a long time, and its up to you to know if your strong enough to stand beside him.Health Question & Answer
Sounds to me like they need to up his medications or hes using PTSD as an excuse.Health Question & Answer
the main thing is, don't push.
he just spent 4 years being pushed and told what to do.
give him some space and time. if he loves you, then he'll come around.
and if he don't, then you've saved yourself some heartaches down the road. remember! you can't make someone love you. you need to know if he's staying with you because he loves you or staying out of pity.
I don't mean to sound harsh but it's the truth.Health Question & Answer
he just spent 4 years being pushed and told what to do.
give him some space and time. if he loves you, then he'll come around.
and if he don't, then you've saved yourself some heartaches down the road. remember! you can't make someone love you. you need to know if he's staying with you because he loves you or staying out of pity.
I don't mean to sound harsh but it's the truth.Health Question & Answer