Weird depression issues... All tied to romance?!
Question: Weird depression issues... All tied to romance.?
Okay well i'm weird... now that that's out of the way here's my issue.
I'm a guy, i'm definitvely not gay or bi i find myself repulsed by the concept of men on men and they do not turn me on so that throws that out of the picture for the following statments.
Okay well i have depression very often but it seems to be triggered only by one thing... relationships whether it would be intimate or friendly. I have never been in a relationship myself i've been asked out a few times but until recently i didn't care much for having a relationship.
I'm 17 and i believe i am what could be best classified as a "hopeless romantic" because like since i was young whenever i watched any love story things i cannnot help but wish that something so grand could happen to me... i know depressing.?
Don't get me wrong, i don't like pure romance, but i like it when there's romance layered under the story. Like just a day ago i finished up to season 7 of Scrubs and i'm literally sick in the stomach because of the whole "jd and elliott" relationship thing and it like causes me... to feel empty i suppose.
The last time i was this depressed was when my friend got a gf and then another time when my other friend got a gf and the other ones he got i also had it triggered extremely deep by the movie "stardust"...
Something is really wrong with me like i don't think that's normal.? I do not have anyone to "talk it out" with because i have always been a quiet type of a person until recently but there's no one that i can talk about this stuff with...
My parents were divorced when i was like 9 years old... and since then i've been the man of the house for my siblings. And when i was like 11 i was taught by my grandpa to never cry because of emotions because that's not what men, so right now the only way i can actually cry is when i'm completely infuriated and not depressed. Like i tried to cry because of my current emotions and i found that at most i can squeeze like half a tear out... That isn't normal.?
So basically i can't talk with others about this and i can't cry this out of me so i've been having sensations of hopelessness and chest aches for the last day or 2.
Summary:
-Straight guy, 17
-Can't cry unless infuriated
-Parents divorced when i was 9
-Active (Ski, kick box, rock climb, canoe, soccer, fence, etc.)
-Intelligent (Honors and AP)
-Hopeless romantic
-just ask if you need more info.?
Okay so can anyone please tell me what's wrong with me.? Perhaps a solution. Email me at romancequestions@yahoo.com if you have something to ask... (I just made the account)Health Question & Answer
I'm a guy, i'm definitvely not gay or bi i find myself repulsed by the concept of men on men and they do not turn me on so that throws that out of the picture for the following statments.
Okay well i have depression very often but it seems to be triggered only by one thing... relationships whether it would be intimate or friendly. I have never been in a relationship myself i've been asked out a few times but until recently i didn't care much for having a relationship.
I'm 17 and i believe i am what could be best classified as a "hopeless romantic" because like since i was young whenever i watched any love story things i cannnot help but wish that something so grand could happen to me... i know depressing.?
Don't get me wrong, i don't like pure romance, but i like it when there's romance layered under the story. Like just a day ago i finished up to season 7 of Scrubs and i'm literally sick in the stomach because of the whole "jd and elliott" relationship thing and it like causes me... to feel empty i suppose.
The last time i was this depressed was when my friend got a gf and then another time when my other friend got a gf and the other ones he got i also had it triggered extremely deep by the movie "stardust"...
Something is really wrong with me like i don't think that's normal.? I do not have anyone to "talk it out" with because i have always been a quiet type of a person until recently but there's no one that i can talk about this stuff with...
My parents were divorced when i was like 9 years old... and since then i've been the man of the house for my siblings. And when i was like 11 i was taught by my grandpa to never cry because of emotions because that's not what men, so right now the only way i can actually cry is when i'm completely infuriated and not depressed. Like i tried to cry because of my current emotions and i found that at most i can squeeze like half a tear out... That isn't normal.?
So basically i can't talk with others about this and i can't cry this out of me so i've been having sensations of hopelessness and chest aches for the last day or 2.
Summary:
-Straight guy, 17
-Can't cry unless infuriated
-Parents divorced when i was 9
-Active (Ski, kick box, rock climb, canoe, soccer, fence, etc.)
-Intelligent (Honors and AP)
-Hopeless romantic
-just ask if you need more info.?
Okay so can anyone please tell me what's wrong with me.? Perhaps a solution. Email me at romancequestions@yahoo.com if you have something to ask... (I just made the account)Health Question & Answer
Answers:
You know many teens have finally figured out that schooling is important and a relationship will come later. My grand daughter 17 dated one guy for several years due to "everyone else did" The last year of high school her focus has been on school and getting into college. She is a romatic also and wants to marry once and forever. She is cute, smart and funny. But seems to have more sense than I did at that age.
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Your time will happen for that special person, perhaps with parents being divorced when you where young like my grand daughter-you want to make sure you get it right. As far as crying-don't mean to stereo type-most males don't cry openly or often. You are not weird, sound emotionally healthy from info that you give. e-mail if you want to chat more. ReggieHealth Question & Answer
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Your time will happen for that special person, perhaps with parents being divorced when you where young like my grand daughter-you want to make sure you get it right. As far as crying-don't mean to stereo type-most males don't cry openly or often. You are not weird, sound emotionally healthy from info that you give. e-mail if you want to chat more. ReggieHealth Question & Answer
These are self made. Please read some good books. Or change your outlook altogether and start a fresh life.Health Question & Answer
oh dear sweet you... you are aching for someone to share your life. But... one of the secrets is, you must learn to share yourself with others so when she arrives... you'll know how to do it!
You've got alot of activity going on but feel like there's nobody to share those special quiet moments, right.?
She'll come. Someday. In the meantime, you have to learn to become the kind of guy who CAN talk about his feelings, who CAN open up and make new friends, who CAN express his emotions without relying on fury...anger...
Learn about YOU. Learn to share your feelings. Learn that everybody needs friends. And someday... when she sees how you live your life, she'll think... now there's a guy I'd like to get to know. And then... you'll be able to let her get close... share yourself, your thoughts, and yep... share your emotions.
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You've got alot of activity going on but feel like there's nobody to share those special quiet moments, right.?
She'll come. Someday. In the meantime, you have to learn to become the kind of guy who CAN talk about his feelings, who CAN open up and make new friends, who CAN express his emotions without relying on fury...anger...
Learn about YOU. Learn to share your feelings. Learn that everybody needs friends. And someday... when she sees how you live your life, she'll think... now there's a guy I'd like to get to know. And then... you'll be able to let her get close... share yourself, your thoughts, and yep... share your emotions.
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Your such a romantic guy that you want the romance and love seen in either movies or books. personally i know exactly how you feel unfortuanately life isnt like that. However if men were more romantic then i think it'd be a win-win situtation. As for the crying thing, you shouldnt force tears out. If you really feel hurt or whatever it will happen. Most men don't cry, what a pity cuz i like men who show at least some emotion. But if u really want to cry think about something that makes you extremely upset or sad and maybe you will cry LOL. Wow that sounded weird. But i dont believe that there's anything wrong with you you're just to romantic and your depressed you haven't found that person to create that beautiful novel or academy award winning movie with.Health Question & Answer
You sound just like me and I am a straight female, but I have a mental illness and from what you've said here, you don't sound like you are clinically depressed. Don't worry. If you are really concerned, it might help to have some psychotherapy if you have access to it.
P.S. Romantic guys are so awesome! and very rareHealth Question & Answer
P.S. Romantic guys are so awesome! and very rareHealth Question & Answer