My best friend is gone...how can I deal with this grief?!
Question: My best friend is gone...how can I deal with this grief.?
My best guy friend was the sweetest person in the world. I had a lot of problems at home, with friends, and at school, and he was there for me - all the time. He always gave me reassuring hugs, never hesitated to pick up the phone if I needed to talk, and even let me punch him like crazy when I got so mad at my dad. He would do anything and gave up everything in his life for me. And he was only 19 when some lunatic ran into his motorbike two months ago.
I am so uncontrollably sad. He was the nicest, most caring, most gentle, and most handsome person that I ever knew. I never thanked him or told him how much I loved him, and now, I regret it more than ever. I feel like a terrible, worthless human being that placed all of my burdens on him.
He left me all of his possessions in his will, and I came across a journal entry that said that he wished he could marry me. I can't ever forget that. No other person has shown me this much respect and love than him.
But now he's gone. He's been gone for two months, and I won't ever be able to see him again. No matter how hard I try, I can't get him out of my head. I wish I could've just hugged him one last time before he passed away.
How am I supposed to deal with this grief.? I don't know if seeing a psychologist or a therapist will help me at all.Health Question & Answer
I am so uncontrollably sad. He was the nicest, most caring, most gentle, and most handsome person that I ever knew. I never thanked him or told him how much I loved him, and now, I regret it more than ever. I feel like a terrible, worthless human being that placed all of my burdens on him.
He left me all of his possessions in his will, and I came across a journal entry that said that he wished he could marry me. I can't ever forget that. No other person has shown me this much respect and love than him.
But now he's gone. He's been gone for two months, and I won't ever be able to see him again. No matter how hard I try, I can't get him out of my head. I wish I could've just hugged him one last time before he passed away.
How am I supposed to deal with this grief.? I don't know if seeing a psychologist or a therapist will help me at all.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
I am so sorry for your loss of such a good friend. I think the best thing you can do at this point is to see a counselor or therapist. also, find out if there is a grief support group in your community. Usually a hospital will recommend one, or perhaps they might even have one on site. Having lost my husband, and both of my parents, I can tell you that grief is very real, and yes, it hurts like nothing else. But, in time it will hurt less. Your grief right now is raw and intense because it is still so new. Believe me, with the right support and in time it will hurt less. Remember and honor the good times you had together and always accept and honor your grief. We get into trouble when we try to hide it or deny it. And don't let anyone talk to you about "closure". It is a rotten word. Like I said, the pain will hurt less as time passes. But for now you are a human being who is hurting, and I wish you the best in your journey.Health Question & Answer
i am so sorry for your loss... :'(
you must be devastated... i suggest talking to somebody when you are feeling lonely, and when you can't do that, you should try some expressing your grief through words, pictures, or music...
the grief will lessen over time if you keep on expressing how you feel, and venting your feelings in positive directions ... my best wishes to You, and your friend's family..
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you must be devastated... i suggest talking to somebody when you are feeling lonely, and when you can't do that, you should try some expressing your grief through words, pictures, or music...
the grief will lessen over time if you keep on expressing how you feel, and venting your feelings in positive directions ... my best wishes to You, and your friend's family..
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