How should i make my life less suckier?!
Question: How should i make my life less suckier.?
my life is terrible. I hate my dad. My mom wants to get a divorce but she is afraid. I want my parents to be divorced. My brother isnt helpful about all this either. I dont have alot of friends. I used to be "secretly" depressed, as in i never told anybody and no one knew about it. I thought I was becoming anorexic but i am not which is good. I haven't been able to focus in school and get good grades because i keep thinking about what will happen to me in the future about my parents. my family doesny have alot of money so thats all they ever worry about and they dont have time to pay attention or even see what they are doing to me. I cry...more then i should cry. My dad told me I was gonna end up in Hell. I talk back at him, because I don't want him to think I am afraid of him. I have nightmares of him, hurting me, my dreams scare me, which makes me more afraid of him. I thought about going to a counselor, but that would involve telling my parents and telling them why, which will soon involve everyone knowing. I am so used to being alone, ive always been alone. But being alone makes me feel not wanted, and I want to be wanted. I don't think I can survive much longer, my dreams r dying, my friendships are dying, my love is dying, and my happiness is dying.Health Question & Answer
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i feel for you. despite what people may say, and what it may appear, everyone has hidden problems. many people view my life as a charmed one, but it is far from being that. i wont get into my problems, but my parents are divorced, i havent seen my dad in a long long time, etc etc. i wont bore you with my sob story, but talking with one of my friends in particular has been especially beneficial to me. i also put alot of my energy into sports. exercise releases endorphins which make you happy. ill be feeling really pissed and upset about something, and ill go for a run or for a swim, and ill find that afterwards i just cant feel mad anymore. pick up a hobby you feel really passionate about, join a club, participate in charity work. any of these will make you feel great about yourself, and like you accomplished something. helping others always is a good way to go because it gives you a great feeling inside. you say your dreams are dying.? what are your dreams.? write them down, figure out if theyr short term or long term goals and make a plan of how your going to achieve them.
you mentioned talking to a counselor, counselors can be of great help if you go to the right one. but sometimes all you need is someone to talk to. you can even talk to your school counselor, it doesnt have to be some fancy psychologist. or even a teacher or another trusted adult. there are support groups you can join as well, or even teen hotlines you can call if you just want to rant. it sounds like you have alot going on in your life, but just know that you do have people who love you. dont let what other people say to you depress you. your not going to end up in Hell! and if your dad is hurting you PLEASE talk to someone. it will all work out in the end, trust me. just keep pushing through the hard times and focus on what you really want in life, work towards your hopes and dreams. work hard in school and apply yourself-this will only help you in the end. your hard work will pay off eventually, be it through scholarships, attainment of your dreams, or even good old pride.
however, whatever you do DO NOT KILL YOURSELF. you CAN survive, we're all in this together. DONT LISTEN to that idiot who wrote "maybe its time to end it"! it is NEVER time to end it, despite how tempting that may be. just think of all the opportunities you will have in the future, all the good times in life, all the small, simple things you enjoy in life that you would be giving up. it is not worth it! fight through the pain, talk to someone, and start focusing on yourself. you are beautiful, and your parents' problems have NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. even if they say something awful like its your fault, just remember it is NOT. all you need is one good friend in life, you dont have to be ms popularity. in fact, most popular people with lots of friends are the least happy. talk to your friends, they'll be happy you opened up to them. they'll help you get through the tough times. theyre are good times coming around the corner. just dont worry about whats going to happen in the future, be it with your parents or anyone else, focus on the present. you are wanted. PLEASE DO NOT END YOUR LIFE! you are in my thoughts in prayers <3Health Question & Answer
you mentioned talking to a counselor, counselors can be of great help if you go to the right one. but sometimes all you need is someone to talk to. you can even talk to your school counselor, it doesnt have to be some fancy psychologist. or even a teacher or another trusted adult. there are support groups you can join as well, or even teen hotlines you can call if you just want to rant. it sounds like you have alot going on in your life, but just know that you do have people who love you. dont let what other people say to you depress you. your not going to end up in Hell! and if your dad is hurting you PLEASE talk to someone. it will all work out in the end, trust me. just keep pushing through the hard times and focus on what you really want in life, work towards your hopes and dreams. work hard in school and apply yourself-this will only help you in the end. your hard work will pay off eventually, be it through scholarships, attainment of your dreams, or even good old pride.
however, whatever you do DO NOT KILL YOURSELF. you CAN survive, we're all in this together. DONT LISTEN to that idiot who wrote "maybe its time to end it"! it is NEVER time to end it, despite how tempting that may be. just think of all the opportunities you will have in the future, all the good times in life, all the small, simple things you enjoy in life that you would be giving up. it is not worth it! fight through the pain, talk to someone, and start focusing on yourself. you are beautiful, and your parents' problems have NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. even if they say something awful like its your fault, just remember it is NOT. all you need is one good friend in life, you dont have to be ms popularity. in fact, most popular people with lots of friends are the least happy. talk to your friends, they'll be happy you opened up to them. they'll help you get through the tough times. theyre are good times coming around the corner. just dont worry about whats going to happen in the future, be it with your parents or anyone else, focus on the present. you are wanted. PLEASE DO NOT END YOUR LIFE! you are in my thoughts in prayers <3Health Question & Answer
OMG That is so sad. You can always just ask a teacher to go to the counselor or social worker. When you talk to the counselor just tell him/her not to tell your parents about meeting with him/her. I hope that works! I wish i could tell you more but talking about it is really the best thing to do. But also you should always try and be more optimistic in life and don't dwell on the bad things! Do whatever it takes to not be depressed. Health Question & Answer
i know how you feel.
im going thru almost the exact same thing, except theres no divorce. the money issue is pretty bad tho, and we might lose the house.
idk if you've heard this before or if you don't believe in this, but stick to God.
you can't rely on your own strength for happiness or well being.
rely on God.
its what I do.
and, it works.
hang in there.Health Question & Answer
im going thru almost the exact same thing, except theres no divorce. the money issue is pretty bad tho, and we might lose the house.
idk if you've heard this before or if you don't believe in this, but stick to God.
you can't rely on your own strength for happiness or well being.
rely on God.
its what I do.
and, it works.
hang in there.Health Question & Answer
My heart breaks for you. When you are younger it's hard to handle all of this because you don't yet have total control over your life nor the tools to change many things. Life is a constant wave of ups and downs for EVERYONE. You are not alone. Do you have a church with a youth group you could become involved in.? Health Question & Answer
I am really sorry. But one of the reasons you feel that everything around you is "dying" is that bad things are happening. So in your mind everything is bad. What you need to do is find something youlove. fall in love with SOMETHING. Like take guitar lessons or join choir. those are just examples. find something you like. It will help.
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you are too weak to live the care free live i lived so instead try making a new dream like get with a local school or animal shop and learn to care for something other then yourself and you'll start to feel better about yourself and have new goals and dream to live forHealth Question & Answer
you can't be 'secretly' depressed. if you have depression, anyone can see that you are depressed. especially anyone who truely knows you would be able to tell...silly girl!
go talk to someone. let yer parents know how you feel. see a counsellor.
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go talk to someone. let yer parents know how you feel. see a counsellor.
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We all have problems. Life does suck. You aren't alone, and that should make you feel somewhat better. I cannot give you formal directions on how to make YOUR life better but I can tell you to get a new mindset on life. Health Question & Answer
The best idea you had was going to a counselor. You should rethink that and go see one. You can't deal with this alone and trying to do so will just make your life harder.Health Question & Answer
start off by paying attention in school so that some day you can get a scholarship and be able to become something! talk to a trusted teacher.Health Question & Answer
Please cheer up!!!
u should meditate
go to the school counselor u dont hate to tell ur parents
everything will be fine
but i think u should really confront someone with this info:)
hope i helpedHealth Question & Answer
u should meditate
go to the school counselor u dont hate to tell ur parents
everything will be fine
but i think u should really confront someone with this info:)
hope i helpedHealth Question & Answer
you are no different than most kids your age...talk to a counselor it sucks that your life sucks but your not alone in this crazy world.Health Question & Answer
first i am really sorry.
second if you want to talk to a counsler ask at your school and tell them. they won't tell your parents if you ask them to.Health Question & Answer
second if you want to talk to a counsler ask at your school and tell them. they won't tell your parents if you ask them to.Health Question & Answer
Try learning an instrument like the harmonica. Worked wonders for that blues traveler guy, he was a miserable sack of sh!t before he got funky.Health Question & Answer
Hey, What I suggest is that you focus on your friendships. Try to laugh more instead of cry. Believe me it helps. Health Question & Answer
Get a 4 leaf clover because you have some seriously bad luck.Health Question & Answer
tell your parents and go see your doctor, counsler, and theripist.
good luck!
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good luck!
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*hugggggggggs you a million times*
listen to techno it'll make you feel betterHealth Question & Answer
listen to techno it'll make you feel betterHealth Question & Answer
Go to God. He can completely turn it all around. There's nothing else you can do.Health Question & Answer
Wow I am very sorry. I wish I can really truly help you!Health Question & Answer
awww you should go to a counselor...:)Health Question & Answer
Seek counseling, a therapist perhaps. Health Question & Answer
Try Pot. It's not chemically addictive and it really helps.Health Question & Answer
You poor person...this may sound depressing...but welcome to everyday life. It is very hard to be a teenager...it wasnt to long ago that I was in your same predictament...just remember that these years go very fast...and pretty soon you'll be making a life of your own out there and realize there is not a whole lot better to go on. I know everything seems hard right now...but just wait and you will have that chnce to make all your own decisions and all your own chances to leave home and try to make a life. Your parents love you, no matter how much you believe that they dont...and chances are that they do pay attention to you, but your so young you dont realize by talking back and having attitude you are bringing the fight on yourself. Maybe you could sit down with them and tell them exactly what you told us and maybe come up with a plan and work on it as a family. First thing is first...see your counsler, they can help and they can do it confidentally so that only when you are ready will they be=ring your parents into it. But if there is some real danger in the household they will contact DHS and have you removed from the home...that would be your choice...but they can help. There is always a way to make it better, but you have to start the ball rolling...and not have unrealistic dreams of a fairy tale life. Life is hard...and there is no way out. Death is forever, you never get a chance to come back...and there is no second thoughts...so dont do anything harmful to yourself, your life is worth so much more than a few fights with ur parents...trust me, I know.Health Question & Answer
Try your school guidance conselor if you don't want your parents to know let her/him know straight up.... if you really can't trust them then e-mail someone you trust and just send them anonomously or something I wish you the best of luck depression is hard and rough if you want you can e-mail me but try to take some of your stress away by taking some time for yourself and going somewhere or anything really :/Health Question & Answer
Go to your counselor they are strictly to discuses these issues with only you and your parents , and from past experience i have found out that not many people catch on and will probably assume that you are going to the counselor for academic reasons ( such as clubs, grade, or class scheduling)
The next step is to rely on your friends ... your real friends because this is what they are for to help and support you when you are down but be careful who you tell because this is how everyone finds out ... not by your counselor tell only your one most trusted friend that you know would never betray you.
And pick up a hobby it gives you something to look forward too and keep you going ( it can be simple as collecting bottle caps or making jewelry out of everyday items) Health Question & Answer
The next step is to rely on your friends ... your real friends because this is what they are for to help and support you when you are down but be careful who you tell because this is how everyone finds out ... not by your counselor tell only your one most trusted friend that you know would never betray you.
And pick up a hobby it gives you something to look forward too and keep you going ( it can be simple as collecting bottle caps or making jewelry out of everyday items) Health Question & Answer
Can you go and live with anyone else.? other family members.?
I was feeling this way then went away on exchange for 5months and now am feeling a lot happier about things! :D
There are also lots of children and teenage phone lines you can call and these help a lot! They are a lot easier than going to counselor and your parent wont have to know anything about them! I hope i helped and you are welcome to email me anytime if you need someone to talk to because i will understand!
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I was feeling this way then went away on exchange for 5months and now am feeling a lot happier about things! :D
There are also lots of children and teenage phone lines you can call and these help a lot! They are a lot easier than going to counselor and your parent wont have to know anything about them! I hope i helped and you are welcome to email me anytime if you need someone to talk to because i will understand!
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The only answer is, STAND UP AND BE STRONG. How else, would one go as to be in a situation as such.? I had similar problems. But, it was my mother who was Strong, she stood up and she declared she was not someone to be stepped on. I truly admire her. For no matter what came her way, she would overcome it one way or another. Right now, she is a woman of only 30, but, even though, she is a very wise person. In the end my father had a restriction order put up against him. He is a drug addict, and I have had over 3 deaths in the family. All of whom were very close to me. What I did is, tough it out.There were other problems as well, but i didn't show my tears, and fought on. That is the only way. To be in solitude, I know you have your reasons, but a little help from others is not a sign of cowardliness. Encourage yourself and your mother. And get help. also, if you see a counselor, not everyone will know about you and your family. Counselors know this very well, they make you sign a paper as a sign of your privacy.Health Question & Answer
Your friendships and love life are ending because you're too caught up in being depressed. Your parents have enough problems, they honestly don't want to see you like this because it'll just make everything worse. Don't worry, just keep hanging on, being alone isn't always a bad thing, it gives to time to think about what you should do next. If you want to hang around people, be lively and talk to them, don't sit there in the dark expecting people to come up to you, because they may just think you want to be alone, so they'll leave you alone. You can find a lot of happiness in things you enjoy doing, for example, I like to paint, so I spend a lot of time painting my expressions out, when it looks nice, I'm happy because I have a sense of self accomplishment, you know.? We all need someone to talk to, it doesn't matter if others know about your problems. Talking to a counselor may help you release some of those inner troubles, or talking to a trusted friend may help too. Your dad has his own business, just leave him alone, even is he insults you, it doesn't matter because if you put up with it, you'll grow to be a strong person on the inside. You don't need to talk back to him because that will lead to even more fights. Whatever you do, I hope you make good choices and remember to think about how others feel. Good luck! Life is a gift, embrace it when you can!Health Question & Answer
well, I agree it really sucks but life doesn't end like that.
have your hopes up and don't carry all your burdens by yourself.
Ask a counselor and some of your friends.
and ask God to help you.
He's not the One making your life miserable; maybe if you turn to Him, He will help you from your problems.
Just keep on praying and turn to God.
Go to a nearby church or something.
I have experienced that but not exactly like yours and
I just gave him my worries and I'm all right.
Keep your hopes up!
May God bless you!
-Daisylou Q., 15Health Question & Answer
have your hopes up and don't carry all your burdens by yourself.
Ask a counselor and some of your friends.
and ask God to help you.
He's not the One making your life miserable; maybe if you turn to Him, He will help you from your problems.
Just keep on praying and turn to God.
Go to a nearby church or something.
I have experienced that but not exactly like yours and
I just gave him my worries and I'm all right.
Keep your hopes up!
May God bless you!
-Daisylou Q., 15Health Question & Answer
im so sorry
help me please!
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