Since my mother died 1 month ago my body is all over the place?!
Question: Since my mother died 1 month ago my body is all over the place.?
My body is so run down, i always have a mouthful of ulcers, i have huge bags/dark circles under my eyes even though i sleep about 5 hours each night, i eat all the right things. My hands/fingers keep clamming up. I have no feelings really i miss my mum but i dont talk about it as i never talk about my feelings. I am a mum to 4 children i think i have blocked my feelings of my mums death out and concentrated on caring for my children. Just wondered why is my body doing all these things.?Health Question & Answer
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I am sincerely so sorry to hear of you mum's passing. Maybe you are in shock still. I really would suggest you go and see your doctor, just to talk to him. They do prescribe medication to help you through this traumatic time. It is no use me saying take a 'rest' as you have 4 children to take care of. The pain you are going through will Eventually Ease honestly. My love to you and your family. x Health Question & Answer
Try to get more than 5 hours of sleep. Like the others, if you can, get a sitter, even if you're just in the back room. Tell the kids you're kind of sad about mom. They'll understand.
Get medical help if you're having a real hard time.
Biggest thing is you've got to understand that one month is "not" that long in the grieving process. You know how people ask you if you're okay.? Tell them, you hope to manage, but "no" you're "not" okay!!!! If you loved your mom, that's also very fitting and proper. Get medical help if you need it. A lot of the problem is people think a death of a loved one is some normal thing they just "rationally" work through.? No it isn't. It's downright painful. Take it easy on yourself, and realize you're quite normal, and this pain will be around for a while. Health Question & Answer
Get medical help if you're having a real hard time.
Biggest thing is you've got to understand that one month is "not" that long in the grieving process. You know how people ask you if you're okay.? Tell them, you hope to manage, but "no" you're "not" okay!!!! If you loved your mom, that's also very fitting and proper. Get medical help if you need it. A lot of the problem is people think a death of a loved one is some normal thing they just "rationally" work through.? No it isn't. It's downright painful. Take it easy on yourself, and realize you're quite normal, and this pain will be around for a while. Health Question & Answer
Half answered you're own question.
Sounds like you just need to let it all out, relieve all the stress of it. If you just sit around thinking about it all the time you're just gonna get urself down, and when you don't feel good mentally, you're body reflects that.
What you need to do is to talk it all out with someone and then try and get your mind off it by going out and doing something active and fun :)
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Sounds like you just need to let it all out, relieve all the stress of it. If you just sit around thinking about it all the time you're just gonna get urself down, and when you don't feel good mentally, you're body reflects that.
What you need to do is to talk it all out with someone and then try and get your mind off it by going out and doing something active and fun :)
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A death is very traumatic, a Mother is the most. Can you possible see a doctor, or an outside person to talk to... not a friend, perhaps a therapist, etc. someone qualified for a grief counselor...
You are not the only one suffering from the loss, of your Mom, your children and family are also. The only one you can take care of at this time is you,
Please do it, work thru this......I did and many others.
good luck to you and yours.Health Question & Answer
You are not the only one suffering from the loss, of your Mom, your children and family are also. The only one you can take care of at this time is you,
Please do it, work thru this......I did and many others.
good luck to you and yours.Health Question & Answer
For a period of time I had ulcers in my mouth and it was very, very painful. It seems that I would get these during periods of stress, such as when I was traveling.
Clearly you're under a lot of stress and you need to get some professional help.
You're not going to find the answers to your problem on Yahoo Answers, as much fun as this service may be. If you're going to find relief it's going to come from meeting with a professional, or professionals, to properly diagnose and treat your issues.
There is no shame in asking for help... I strongly suggest you do so.
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Clearly you're under a lot of stress and you need to get some professional help.
You're not going to find the answers to your problem on Yahoo Answers, as much fun as this service may be. If you're going to find relief it's going to come from meeting with a professional, or professionals, to properly diagnose and treat your issues.
There is no shame in asking for help... I strongly suggest you do so.
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Don't be so hard on yourself. You are allowed to feel down and even ill in health. Of course your first concern should be the care of you children. But you matter too. When you feel really down, just say to yourself this is a bad day, I feel horrible. Get through the day to day chores and hope that maybe tomorrow you will feel better. If you don't then just think ok maybe tomorrow. It will get better, but you wont forget. That's how our loved ones live on in our minds. You will feel better because apart from your children YOU know you Mum would want that for you.Health Question & Answer
Hi there,
i lost my mum last year, i went through what you are going through right now!
it is your bodys way of trying to cope with the loss of your mum and carrying on! can i give you some advice,
dont be like me i shut my boyfriend out after my mum died! instead of talking how i was feeling i bottled it up!
9 months after my mum died i broke down! and since then i have not stopped crying! sometimes we have different ways of coping! i felt numb like i had no feelings for months! you will eventually cry for your mum. at the minute you are not ready for breaking down!
have you a husband etc or a really good friend that you could sit down with and have a good chat with that will help!
i was where you are last year! it does get betterHealth Question & Answer
i lost my mum last year, i went through what you are going through right now!
it is your bodys way of trying to cope with the loss of your mum and carrying on! can i give you some advice,
dont be like me i shut my boyfriend out after my mum died! instead of talking how i was feeling i bottled it up!
9 months after my mum died i broke down! and since then i have not stopped crying! sometimes we have different ways of coping! i felt numb like i had no feelings for months! you will eventually cry for your mum. at the minute you are not ready for breaking down!
have you a husband etc or a really good friend that you could sit down with and have a good chat with that will help!
i was where you are last year! it does get betterHealth Question & Answer
You should visit your doctor who will help you back to recovery, I am so sorry that you lost your mother, I too lost my mum in September but having 3 grown up children helped a lot. The doctor may recommend that you see a councillor so that you can free your self of any burdens that you are keeping hidden. I hope you feel better soon. xHealth Question & Answer
You have obviously experienced a very difficult loss and this will put enormous stress on you mentally. The symptoms you mention are typical of someone who is trying to come to terns with like the death of a loved one.
They say that time is the greatest healer. In time as you come to terms with your loss you will no longer experience these strange symptoms.
Just give it time xHealth Question & Answer
They say that time is the greatest healer. In time as you come to terms with your loss you will no longer experience these strange symptoms.
Just give it time xHealth Question & Answer
I think your body is trying to cope with it's emotions. Don't trap your emotions in, this will do more harm than good. I would find a nice sitter and have a girls day out. Even if it's by yourself. Enjoy some time alone and don't be afraid to ask people for help. I am sorry to hear about your loss, and I hope you feel better soon.Health Question & Answer
Our bodies store stress and almost any doctor will tell you that stress comes out in the most awful ways in our body. I recommend EFT. Go to www.tapping.com or look on youtube for EFT. You can do it at home and you work through the feelings alone, help you get physically better.
Your allowed to miss your mum, you only get one, but grieve properly, if you don't you will never get over 100%.
Best wishes.Health Question & Answer
Your allowed to miss your mum, you only get one, but grieve properly, if you don't you will never get over 100%.
Best wishes.Health Question & Answer
i was the same when i lost my mum you are probably just run down you should go talk to your doctor i still miss my mum and it is about 15 years ago that i lost her my 4 kids are all adults now with family of there own Health Question & Answer
It sounds like your body is reacting to your Grief a normal thingHealth Question & Answer
its pretty normal to react that way just talk to someone about how you feel and you will feel much better.Health Question & Answer
GOOD grief is just that ...IT IS GOOD to grieve, as it is natures way of reverting the body back to the norm without too much harm coming to the bereaved.
This is why when we attend the service at church, the words often spoken are deliberately chosen to cause people to break down and cry, this really does relieve the pain as does the action of people speaking to you of your loss,the more who relate that loss the better you feel, and your loss is also their loss, you are a changed person and will never be the same again in their eyes ,you will become more mature and less naive to the vagaries of the world, that is what others will lose in you but they will re-measure you as a more fuller person because of your experience.
If you are Christian then you will one day enjoy what the church teaches that is you will be re-united,now go and have a cry.
GOD BLESS you and yours. Health Question & Answer
This is why when we attend the service at church, the words often spoken are deliberately chosen to cause people to break down and cry, this really does relieve the pain as does the action of people speaking to you of your loss,the more who relate that loss the better you feel, and your loss is also their loss, you are a changed person and will never be the same again in their eyes ,you will become more mature and less naive to the vagaries of the world, that is what others will lose in you but they will re-measure you as a more fuller person because of your experience.
If you are Christian then you will one day enjoy what the church teaches that is you will be re-united,now go and have a cry.
GOD BLESS you and yours. Health Question & Answer