Keep thinking about bad childhood memories and things in past?!
Question: Keep thinking about bad childhood memories and things in past.?
hi. and it makes me more depressed, nervous, worried, afraid, lone, and pick at self and obsessive. what to do.? how to deal.? can't afford doctor. got abusive "family" if you call it that. this is NO joke. thank you Health Question & Answer
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Our past lives on in us through our memories, and when they are this bad it is traumatizing. What is needed is to heal, to take each and every memory and find a way to either forgive what happened, or to learn to accept that these things happened but are not happening now. Sometimes that requires keeping them active. If I were you I would start asking myself how I feel about these things - and maybe write about them. Writing helps release some of the emotion we feel about things that happen, and sometimes when you write it's like living it all over again, with all the hurt and pain - but this time you can put it down. Something I started doing - I made a little box to put bad memories - I wrote them down on paper then put them in a box. After awhile when I didn't want to feel them anymore, I found a place and buried the box. It is a ritual surely, but it is also a way of putting something to rest. Try something that would make you feel better about what happened in your life - just try one thing and see if it helps. and when you start doing them, do one last thing. Find and remember the happy things - you'll think there aren't any, but you may find one or two ...Wish you the best.Health Question & Answer
You need to realize that the time you spend dwelling on the bad is time that is waisted, and could have been spent on happier things.
It is not a matter of forgiving it is a matter of training yourself not to repeat the things you have observed and finding more positive ways to spend your time.
Even taking each of the past negative memories and finding ways they they could or should have been delt with better takes away the dwelling and self imposed depression and obsessing you are experiencing.
If you have to live with them now, that is a different story. But you have implemented that they are PAST memories, in meaning the PAST, not now. Realize that you are in a better situation now and dwell on the things that make your life better.
Utilize your past to educate you on what causes those behaviors of the abuser, what cause and effect each abuse have on other people, and how they could or should have been handled in a normal house hold, as well as how to detour your own development from repeating the same behaviors. You could make a great counselor or psychiatrist one day.
and if you are obsessing, make sure that you obsess with things that are healthy and positive. These habits obtained do not have to be destructive.
Physical exursize, long walks, hobbies, being involved with the public-health groups-children or volunteer groups for the community are all ways to keep yourself distracted and allow your mind time to breath and observe positive ways to handle situaltions that can get dificult within ourselves to overcome.Health Question & Answer
It is not a matter of forgiving it is a matter of training yourself not to repeat the things you have observed and finding more positive ways to spend your time.
Even taking each of the past negative memories and finding ways they they could or should have been delt with better takes away the dwelling and self imposed depression and obsessing you are experiencing.
If you have to live with them now, that is a different story. But you have implemented that they are PAST memories, in meaning the PAST, not now. Realize that you are in a better situation now and dwell on the things that make your life better.
Utilize your past to educate you on what causes those behaviors of the abuser, what cause and effect each abuse have on other people, and how they could or should have been handled in a normal house hold, as well as how to detour your own development from repeating the same behaviors. You could make a great counselor or psychiatrist one day.
and if you are obsessing, make sure that you obsess with things that are healthy and positive. These habits obtained do not have to be destructive.
Physical exursize, long walks, hobbies, being involved with the public-health groups-children or volunteer groups for the community are all ways to keep yourself distracted and allow your mind time to breath and observe positive ways to handle situaltions that can get dificult within ourselves to overcome.Health Question & Answer
Hon. dealing with a horrid childhood is not easy, I'm unsure of your age, but I found writing down what was bugging me then taking it outside & burning the paper it was written on gave me some inner peace. It is some old pagan ritual that I have read about. Learn to meditate, when things start to pile up & all those thoughts start to creep into your head, that's the time you need to just stop whatever you are doing & just do absolutely nothing. Find some relaxation music & sit in a dimly lit room, light a candle then listen to the music & your breathing. Every time you catch a thought creeping in, chase it away & concentrate on your breathing. It takes a bit of practise but it's well worth it. also go for long slow walks, in a local park so it is not in the immediate vicinity of where your troubles might have started. Take care of yourself.Health Question & Answer
this actually happens to me often too, but its from a bad memory that occurred about a year or so ago and it really hurts me. i didnt have a bad childhood or get abused but something crappy happened to me last year and the memory of it flashes in my mind way to often and ruins my mood.
when i was a child and used to have nightmares that wouldnt escape my mind, i used to draw a picture of them and tear it into lil pieces then trash it and the nightmare would be gone, i wonder if we can try that....also im sure theyre are online resources and helplines that will guide you since youve been abused from your family, look into it and good luck, let me know if u find a good solution ;)Health Question & Answer
when i was a child and used to have nightmares that wouldnt escape my mind, i used to draw a picture of them and tear it into lil pieces then trash it and the nightmare would be gone, i wonder if we can try that....also im sure theyre are online resources and helplines that will guide you since youve been abused from your family, look into it and good luck, let me know if u find a good solution ;)Health Question & Answer
You don't have to afford a Doc. Just get yourself to a mental health clinic and you nay find you don't have to pay a cent. Or if you do, payments will be minimal.
Lived in an abusive household too. I know how rough it can get. You're probably suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome and possibly a few other things.
If you don't get this taken care of by a Professional how can you get better.? Don't call, just walk through the doorsHealth Question & Answer
Lived in an abusive household too. I know how rough it can get. You're probably suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome and possibly a few other things.
If you don't get this taken care of by a Professional how can you get better.? Don't call, just walk through the doorsHealth Question & Answer
be your own person.forgive yourself for those you hurt.forgive the people that hurt you.you life is your future not your past.you can't help the way others live and you now have to live your own life.you know what not to do now.so now do what you know is right.put positive things around you be around positive people.Health Question & Answer
if you are still in school, perhaps talk with your school guidance counselor for resources for help
if you are older, most of the counties in the united states offer free or reduced price mental health services. you would have to call the heatlh department for more information.
i hope you make the effort to get the help you deserve. help is available, we just have to seek it out, hon.
sending all best wishes.
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if you are older, most of the counties in the united states offer free or reduced price mental health services. you would have to call the heatlh department for more information.
i hope you make the effort to get the help you deserve. help is available, we just have to seek it out, hon.
sending all best wishes.
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