I think i was molested by my when i was 4? any advice?!
Question: I think i was molested by my when i was 4.? any advice.?
I never considered it molestation until about a week ago. This lady was a close friend of my parents and for this reason, i confided in her. All these years i believed that what was done was done for a good reason. Im 21 now, and just recently, i began to question her motives for the first time.
When i was going to the bathroom she had touched me very inappropriately. With one of her fingers, I remember her applying pressure to my penis. I even had an erection at the time. She did it in a weird way several times. I dont know how long it lasted, but it was enough to make me feel uneasy. I dont remember much at that age, but i remember this one.
I dont want to get her in trouble. Even if i wanted to, it would be too late. All i want to do is understand what made her want to do that. She had to have known what she was doing. I never told anybody because she was a close friend of my parents for so long and she was very nice to me. I didnt know what sexual abuse was at that age,much less right from wrong. All i knew was that she was nice, and she probably had a reason for what she did. But i stil felt uneasy about it.
What should i do.? It really bothers me to think about it, but when i dont think about it, i feel fine. By definition, would what i described even be considered molestation.? thanksHealth Question & Answer
When i was going to the bathroom she had touched me very inappropriately. With one of her fingers, I remember her applying pressure to my penis. I even had an erection at the time. She did it in a weird way several times. I dont know how long it lasted, but it was enough to make me feel uneasy. I dont remember much at that age, but i remember this one.
I dont want to get her in trouble. Even if i wanted to, it would be too late. All i want to do is understand what made her want to do that. She had to have known what she was doing. I never told anybody because she was a close friend of my parents for so long and she was very nice to me. I didnt know what sexual abuse was at that age,much less right from wrong. All i knew was that she was nice, and she probably had a reason for what she did. But i stil felt uneasy about it.
What should i do.? It really bothers me to think about it, but when i dont think about it, i feel fine. By definition, would what i described even be considered molestation.? thanksHealth Question & Answer
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Sexual abuse of any nature is wrong. If she did it to you how can you be sure she does not continue to do it to other young children.
An adult touching a child in a sexual manner is sexual abuse and as time goes on you may recall more details. I would encourage you to call a male counselor for some sex abuse counseling-due to the fact it can and ofter does cause problems as you get older.
There is no GOOD reason for why she did what she did. It was wrong and in no way you fault. People that molest children are predators and do hunt again. God Bless ReggieHealth Question & Answer
An adult touching a child in a sexual manner is sexual abuse and as time goes on you may recall more details. I would encourage you to call a male counselor for some sex abuse counseling-due to the fact it can and ofter does cause problems as you get older.
There is no GOOD reason for why she did what she did. It was wrong and in no way you fault. People that molest children are predators and do hunt again. God Bless ReggieHealth Question & Answer
you should get over it, she may have done it based on curiosty, you are old enogh to get over it. what you need to consider is, is she capable of hurting another child to the point of damaging his or her childhood.
is yes, then you need to report her, at least to parants of kids she may come in contact with. Health Question & Answer
is yes, then you need to report her, at least to parants of kids she may come in contact with. Health Question & Answer
Please find a therapist who understands victims of abuse. You were certainly molested and now that you are remembering it you need to have someone help you sort out your feelings. Please know that you were not at fault and that you did nothing wrong. Health Question & Answer
YOU GOT USED AND ABUSED!!!!
i'm sorry that was inappropriate.
erm...talk to an expert for advice.Health Question & Answer
i'm sorry that was inappropriate.
erm...talk to an expert for advice.Health Question & Answer
i think u need 2 get over it, if thats the worst thing that has happened in your childhood then consider yourself lucky, there are alot of children who have had a tougher childhood.Health Question & Answer
If you dont want to get her in trouble, but want to understand why she did it, then i guess the only way you can get that answer is from her. Remember you are no way the reason for her sick ways. she did this to you on her own selfish terms. Yes, you were molested, but its never really too late if you wanted to press charges. I have a similar story that ive only told one person. If interested and if it may help you, then email me at xoadrianlovesdylanxo@yahoo.com
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You had an erection while you were peeing.? Maybe she was trying to point it down so you wouldn't miss the toilet.
One finger.? does not sound like molesting- one time.? most molesters can't control themselves, so one time does not sound like a molester, since she was, i assume a regular baby sitter-
Boys get erect all the time. You were 4.? Memories can be deceiving at that age-
But the one finger thing is the most suspicious fact you are presenting. Applying pressure, with one finger does not compute as a typical molestation technique. In a weird way.?
With one finger.? I think you should just let it go. If you can't then see a professional doctor in that category.
If that's all that's the worst thing that happened to you as a young child, you had a great childhood. I suspect there's more to the story that you have not revealed.
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One finger.? does not sound like molesting- one time.? most molesters can't control themselves, so one time does not sound like a molester, since she was, i assume a regular baby sitter-
Boys get erect all the time. You were 4.? Memories can be deceiving at that age-
But the one finger thing is the most suspicious fact you are presenting. Applying pressure, with one finger does not compute as a typical molestation technique. In a weird way.?
With one finger.? I think you should just let it go. If you can't then see a professional doctor in that category.
If that's all that's the worst thing that happened to you as a young child, you had a great childhood. I suspect there's more to the story that you have not revealed.
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You're right you were molested. Why did she do it.? Good question, it's probably the most common question amongst those that have been through any type of abuse. She's a pedophile and needs help, who knows how many other boys/girls she has done this to. Pedophiles are usually nice and charming, this is how she got you to not tell, think about it. In your 4 year old head you probably argued with yourself "she's so nice, I don't want to get her in trouble". You probably have a sense of love/hate feelings towards her. This is not uncommon.
First I would advise you to go see a councilor, they can help you through this. Then you need to go think long and hard about what you want to do. Health Question & Answer
First I would advise you to go see a councilor, they can help you through this. Then you need to go think long and hard about what you want to do. Health Question & Answer