Can someone please explain why every time I think I am making headway I seem to take two steps back again?!
Question: Can someone please explain why every time I think I am making headway I seem to take two steps back again.?
I have spent a very long time getting over a doomed loved affair which took away of lot of my trust and left me devastated, the person involved was incredibly cruel and that, together with the death of a parent and the fact that I lost everything financially and had to start over again, all of which have happened over the last two years, has hit me really hard.
I have been trying to get over all of this, for many months and am having counselling. Each time I feel that I may finally be getting somewhere, I just seem to fall straight back again, even further and further and I really cannot see a way out. I do all the things I am told to do, meet new people, find new hobbies, exercise, work hard, see friends, all those things but still I struggle, some days are unimaginably hard to get through.
I did read somewhere (can't remember where) that if this keeps happening you must not worry because it just means that something else still needs to be worked through, which is fair enough but has anyone else ever been through this sort of thing before, how long did it take you to get over and how did you get through it all.? Thank you.Health Question & Answer
I have been trying to get over all of this, for many months and am having counselling. Each time I feel that I may finally be getting somewhere, I just seem to fall straight back again, even further and further and I really cannot see a way out. I do all the things I am told to do, meet new people, find new hobbies, exercise, work hard, see friends, all those things but still I struggle, some days are unimaginably hard to get through.
I did read somewhere (can't remember where) that if this keeps happening you must not worry because it just means that something else still needs to be worked through, which is fair enough but has anyone else ever been through this sort of thing before, how long did it take you to get over and how did you get through it all.? Thank you.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
One thing that I did that helped me immensely was to accept my "troubles" as being the way my life was supposed to go THEN and not forever. I tried not to rue over events in my life but rather to 'keep on doing something" and to try not to worry. I told myself and felt deep inside that "change" was gonna come. I tried not to find it or cause it but rather forget it (improving and my 'troubles') and just live. Sounds to me like all you do is to get over your troubles. Forget about them, expect change, do not try to "force" change but accept the fact that change WILL come. In fact, I'll bet that you will not realize when your "troubles sre over.Health Question & Answer
You have to learn to liv in "now" and presents moment, that's what true happiness is all about, learn to forget the past and not think for future.Health Question & Answer
pull your socks up it is just life and yes life can be a s**t all you can do is keep trying sorry if im a little harsh lolxxxHealth Question & Answer
well, everybody has horrible romance stories. i think the important thing is if you have learned a lesson from the experience. you cant prevent another bad relationship from happening, but you can control how badly you get hurt. from now on, don't live with someone without marriage, that will protect you from some problems. and always keep a separate bank account. never lend a boyfriend money, or your credit cards. these are just some small tips so you don't get damaged financially. its sometimes very hard to spot a potential problem in a new relationship, but if you take some steps to protect yourself financially, that will at least help you in one area. i hope the next guy treats you better than the last one did. good luck.Health Question & Answer
I am so sorry! You are going through hell and I so feel for you!! They say sometimes that it is always going to be there, but over time, the worst of it all fades where death is concerned. I used to be so bad on the subject of death, but then my Grandmother passed at Hospice and the day before she did, she was in a coma and I asked her as I stroked her hair, to let me know that she is ok once she she leaves us; and I saw the most beautiful thing a few seconds after she took her last breath-- sparkles that illuminated the room flutterred everywhere and then vanished. No one else saw this but me. So now, I KNOW there IS beautiful things yet to be after this life, so I am alot more accepting and at peace where death is concerned. THAT much I can tell you. As far as the thing with men; u are probably a very attractive woman, and there are alot of dudes out there who would love ya!! You may at this particular point, feel kinda down on yourself, but try not to. There is someone out there for you that u can be happy with. If you can pick yourself up financially, especially during these screwey times, you're well on your way and one heck of a commendable woman. Your parent is looking over you and it's not crazy to talk to them when you are going through stuff. Let that be your outlet and tell them what hurts and how you are going to hold your head high and push through it and make them proud. A parent never REALLY leaves their child. Be strong in this. Prayer is great too. I hope you are able to feel better soon. Keep me posted, if you would. I'll be on here if u ever need me. God Bless!Health Question & Answer
You feel like you are all alone and this will never pass. The truth is most people go through this type of thing all the time. It's overwhelming because we want instant change but everything takes time. Stop to take a look at nature. A seed that grows into an oak tree. A major city that started with the first building.It's the same with us, growth and change is happening all the time. But still the part of it you control is the moment you are living right now. Don't ruin this moment by by worrying about the past or being impatient about the future.Health Question & Answer
Yeah! been there and done that - you are heading in the right direction - it just takes time - sometimes it can feel like an uphill struggle but you will get there.
Listen to what your counsellor tells you - they are telling you fact, not fiction - the hard part is doing it yourself when all else seems to be against you - take time for yourself and take things at your own pace. That is the key -
Email me if you want to talk - it is not a problem Health Question & Answer
Listen to what your counsellor tells you - they are telling you fact, not fiction - the hard part is doing it yourself when all else seems to be against you - take time for yourself and take things at your own pace. That is the key -
Email me if you want to talk - it is not a problem Health Question & Answer
Hi,
I came out of a relationship about a year and a half back and found it really hard as well. Actually started panic attacks in me and i'm still seeing a counsellor now about it all.
Like you I feel i'm making progress in my life but then things still pop up which jeopardise everything and make me feel like im back at square one.
Don't give up hope though, things might seem bad at the moment, but the fact that you're still continuing living your life is a positive step. I don't know if you can put a time scale on when things should be back to "normal" but it will eventually happen.
I'm currently reading "Panic Attacks" by Christine Ingham and it also covers general anxiety and despite only being 20 pages in (only started today) it's quite reassuring that we're not alone in how we feel and that things do get better.Health Question & Answer
I came out of a relationship about a year and a half back and found it really hard as well. Actually started panic attacks in me and i'm still seeing a counsellor now about it all.
Like you I feel i'm making progress in my life but then things still pop up which jeopardise everything and make me feel like im back at square one.
Don't give up hope though, things might seem bad at the moment, but the fact that you're still continuing living your life is a positive step. I don't know if you can put a time scale on when things should be back to "normal" but it will eventually happen.
I'm currently reading "Panic Attacks" by Christine Ingham and it also covers general anxiety and despite only being 20 pages in (only started today) it's quite reassuring that we're not alone in how we feel and that things do get better.Health Question & Answer