Please tell me ' exactly ' what you would do if you were me ?!
Question: Please tell me ' exactly ' what you would do if you were me .?
im nearly 31 have a personality disorder and ptsd symptoms, suffered a woefully misfortunate life so far , missed out on qualifications, forming friendships , being employed , living a life, forming relationships etc .
im starting from scratch, i own nothing except a computer , i live in a one bedroom flat on disability , im chasing therapy , one on one psychology which is not available in my area due to lack of resources , so they put forth a drop in centre where they do activities to help me integrate with ' humanity ' better.
i suffer With agoraphobia, low self esteem at times, rage and aggression, high anxiety, persecutors paranoia , racing thoughts - even though ive managed well for years and improved with a lot of it..
i have a criminal past 7 years ago, a psychiatric record, obviously, been in a mental institution, 8 years ago.
my big ambition in life is to have a fully independent life, a decent paid job in computers , to move abroad and leave britain , maybe ; austria, spain or germany.
i have an injured ankle which will take time to heal, torn tendons due to a sprain a year ago.
im out of shape and physically weak, have physical imperfections ; 2 missing teeth, a crooked little finger due to an injury years ago, injured nerves in my right knuckle because i punched a stone wall years ago..
i go out there when im brave enough to get my groceries, pay bills, and i see people living happy , carefree , fulfilling lives full of richness.
i see it on tv , on myspace.
in the present i still get that aloof, standoffish vibe from people in the community , and sometimes the only ones who show kindness , frienliness are the type i feel feel sorry for me and are giving me the message im a charity case , so theyll accept me on those basis.
then im normally aloof back, and reject them, sending the message, they are not wanted in my life.
then i leave.
i feel stuck here, far away from my goals in life of a decent job in computers of moving abroad , leaving england living in germany or austria, a quiet village, a secure , stable life, financially ok etc.
im so far away its severly depressing me.Health Question & Answer
im starting from scratch, i own nothing except a computer , i live in a one bedroom flat on disability , im chasing therapy , one on one psychology which is not available in my area due to lack of resources , so they put forth a drop in centre where they do activities to help me integrate with ' humanity ' better.
i suffer With agoraphobia, low self esteem at times, rage and aggression, high anxiety, persecutors paranoia , racing thoughts - even though ive managed well for years and improved with a lot of it..
i have a criminal past 7 years ago, a psychiatric record, obviously, been in a mental institution, 8 years ago.
my big ambition in life is to have a fully independent life, a decent paid job in computers , to move abroad and leave britain , maybe ; austria, spain or germany.
i have an injured ankle which will take time to heal, torn tendons due to a sprain a year ago.
im out of shape and physically weak, have physical imperfections ; 2 missing teeth, a crooked little finger due to an injury years ago, injured nerves in my right knuckle because i punched a stone wall years ago..
i go out there when im brave enough to get my groceries, pay bills, and i see people living happy , carefree , fulfilling lives full of richness.
i see it on tv , on myspace.
in the present i still get that aloof, standoffish vibe from people in the community , and sometimes the only ones who show kindness , frienliness are the type i feel feel sorry for me and are giving me the message im a charity case , so theyll accept me on those basis.
then im normally aloof back, and reject them, sending the message, they are not wanted in my life.
then i leave.
i feel stuck here, far away from my goals in life of a decent job in computers of moving abroad , leaving england living in germany or austria, a quiet village, a secure , stable life, financially ok etc.
im so far away its severly depressing me.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
I would make alist of simple goals I want to achieve and approach each one, one at a time
For example.
1 I want to be able to go out and do my shopping without having to worry about it
2 I want to make a friend who will accept I have baggage and history and will take me just for being me
3 I want to find a job that I know I can do and will enjoy doing
Thats just an example, you may find it easier to start with very simple goals
Approach each goal 1 at a time and work out how you are going to do it. Once you have achieved that goal, tick it off and do that happy dance - in other words treat yourself to a reward
As you achieve each goal it will help you in our self confidence, which in turn will help you towards achieving the next goal
There will be times when it will seem to be almost impossible but always remind yourself that you are doing it for YOU and in this respect no one matters more than YOU getting well
I really and sincerely hope you come through this and can have a happy and peaceful life
timHealth Question & Answer
For example.
1 I want to be able to go out and do my shopping without having to worry about it
2 I want to make a friend who will accept I have baggage and history and will take me just for being me
3 I want to find a job that I know I can do and will enjoy doing
Thats just an example, you may find it easier to start with very simple goals
Approach each goal 1 at a time and work out how you are going to do it. Once you have achieved that goal, tick it off and do that happy dance - in other words treat yourself to a reward
As you achieve each goal it will help you in our self confidence, which in turn will help you towards achieving the next goal
There will be times when it will seem to be almost impossible but always remind yourself that you are doing it for YOU and in this respect no one matters more than YOU getting well
I really and sincerely hope you come through this and can have a happy and peaceful life
timHealth Question & Answer
I would stop pitying myself and concentrate on the positive aspects of my life.
Anyway still waters run deep, just because somebody projects an image of success does not mean they are successful, happy fulfilled etc.Health Question & Answer
Anyway still waters run deep, just because somebody projects an image of success does not mean they are successful, happy fulfilled etc.Health Question & Answer
Last time I tried to help you, you sent me an abusive email calling me a slurry of swear words and told me not to 'talk down to you'.Health Question & Answer
It is your dream and dreams can become reality. See if there are any free councillors in your area.? they can really help. Keep you chin up because there are organisations that can help and support you.Health Question & Answer
Yes if i was you i would get a job in IT. You can get paid loads for that too. Once you have started earning you can then think about moving coutries. My advice is work hard and play harder! Enjoy!Health Question & Answer
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if i were you, i would stop feeling sorry for myself, eat healthy, like someone before said about omega-3 etc, and get outside, get some fresh air and no offense, get a life.
1. dont be scared to go outside because no one will do anything to you.
2. do an IT course
3. make a friend or two, meet your myspace friends in person
4. like i said before, stop feeling sorry for yourself.
because we are all just as happy and miserable as eachother and i personally don't believe in depression. depression is when someone feels too sorry for themselves and doesn't do anything to keep themselves occupied enough.
you obviously have the ambition to achieve,
so don't just sit there,
go for it. and by the way, good luck :)Health Question & Answer
if i were you, i would stop feeling sorry for myself, eat healthy, like someone before said about omega-3 etc, and get outside, get some fresh air and no offense, get a life.
1. dont be scared to go outside because no one will do anything to you.
2. do an IT course
3. make a friend or two, meet your myspace friends in person
4. like i said before, stop feeling sorry for yourself.
because we are all just as happy and miserable as eachother and i personally don't believe in depression. depression is when someone feels too sorry for themselves and doesn't do anything to keep themselves occupied enough.
you obviously have the ambition to achieve,
so don't just sit there,
go for it. and by the way, good luck :)Health Question & Answer
Start out small, make one goal a day for your self and complete it. Get a planner and write everything down and this will better help you plan out your goals. Your goals could be really small, just as long as you start somewhere.Health Question & Answer
Have you tried to turning to God. Have you asked him to help you.? If you have not done this I would advise you to. He is waiting for you to come to him with open arms and repent, ask for forgiveness and ask for a fresh start. He knows your needs and what you seek, but it has to be of him and you need to go to him humbly. Try it. You have seemed to try everything else, but not him. Can't hurt. If anything it will be a blessing.Health Question & Answer
If i were you i would change my dietary habits.All the mental disorders you described are caused by vitamin,mineral and omega 3 deficiency most of which by omega 3 deficiency alone.
When you change your dietary habits you will change the course of your life whether you believe it or not.Speaking from personal experience.
Mind you if you walked 1 mile into the forest it will take 1 mile to get out of it.The lost balance in your mind and body cannot be restored over night.It will take time,patience,diligence and a money but you will not regret it i am sure.I havent.
The potential of the human mind and body will amaze you if you manage to unleash "just"10% of it.At the moment you are using only 10% of your intellectual and physical potential.
Start the omega 3 diet.I have researched omega 3 acids for 2 years and performed a very successful experiment on myself and few of my volunteer friends.Few months of the omega 3 diet it significantly reduced stress[and/or cured depression] problems permanently and significantly raised my intelligence,improved memory,sight,reflexes[and many other known and unknown benefits]and without any drugs or supplements in the form of pills.
http://www.naturalnews.com/021119.html
Take two table spoons of grinded flaxseed[rich with omega 3 and cheap]a day[with a glass of water] and in a few months you will start to notice significant improvement in your mental health[you will become more psychologically stable,among other things].Use a coffee grinder.Whole seeds cannot be digested by the hydrochloric acid in our stomach only grinded seeds.A fact and not a assumption.You have nothing to loose only gain by it.There are many articles on the internet about the omega 3.2 years ago before i started the diet i did not feel so stable or happy how i feel today.
Flax is the best source of ALA omega 3 fatty acid which our body converts to more important fatty acids called DHA and EPA.For the efficient conversion to take place,foods containing a large amount of the following nutrients must be consumed along with the flaxseed:C,B3,B6 [vitamins],zink and Magnesium [minerals].I recommend 3 table spoons of flax with 100 grams[or more if to your liking] of almonds and/or 250g of green peas,1 kiwi every day.[do not take more then 3 table spoons of flax because large amounts can cause intestinal gases which can cause abdominal pain and/or constipation.If three spoons causes abdominal discomfort lower the dosage to 2 table spoons of grinded flax and elevate it to 3 table spoons after your body adapts to high fiber content].
The information in the following link should provide you with the nutritional facts of most if not all known fruits and
vegetables:http://www.nutritiondata.com
If you are consistent with this diet you will gain permanent emotional stability and you will realize your unlimited potential because your brain will receive what it needs to continue its evolution.
There is another way to gain emotional stability.By eating Cocoa rich chocolate.Lindt exellence is one of the best sources of cocoa you can find in a store.Cococa is a natural substance and contains natural substances that create a feeling of pleasure in the human brain.By doing this it reduces pain,anxiety,depression,anger or stress.It only takes a small amount to experience these effects which last for most of the day if not the entire day depending on the amount taken.A warning.Too much of anything can kill you.Even too much cocoa.
Good luck.Health Question & Answer
When you change your dietary habits you will change the course of your life whether you believe it or not.Speaking from personal experience.
Mind you if you walked 1 mile into the forest it will take 1 mile to get out of it.The lost balance in your mind and body cannot be restored over night.It will take time,patience,diligence and a money but you will not regret it i am sure.I havent.
The potential of the human mind and body will amaze you if you manage to unleash "just"10% of it.At the moment you are using only 10% of your intellectual and physical potential.
Start the omega 3 diet.I have researched omega 3 acids for 2 years and performed a very successful experiment on myself and few of my volunteer friends.Few months of the omega 3 diet it significantly reduced stress[and/or cured depression] problems permanently and significantly raised my intelligence,improved memory,sight,reflexes[and many other known and unknown benefits]and without any drugs or supplements in the form of pills.
http://www.naturalnews.com/021119.html
Take two table spoons of grinded flaxseed[rich with omega 3 and cheap]a day[with a glass of water] and in a few months you will start to notice significant improvement in your mental health[you will become more psychologically stable,among other things].Use a coffee grinder.Whole seeds cannot be digested by the hydrochloric acid in our stomach only grinded seeds.A fact and not a assumption.You have nothing to loose only gain by it.There are many articles on the internet about the omega 3.2 years ago before i started the diet i did not feel so stable or happy how i feel today.
Flax is the best source of ALA omega 3 fatty acid which our body converts to more important fatty acids called DHA and EPA.For the efficient conversion to take place,foods containing a large amount of the following nutrients must be consumed along with the flaxseed:C,B3,B6 [vitamins],zink and Magnesium [minerals].I recommend 3 table spoons of flax with 100 grams[or more if to your liking] of almonds and/or 250g of green peas,1 kiwi every day.[do not take more then 3 table spoons of flax because large amounts can cause intestinal gases which can cause abdominal pain and/or constipation.If three spoons causes abdominal discomfort lower the dosage to 2 table spoons of grinded flax and elevate it to 3 table spoons after your body adapts to high fiber content].
The information in the following link should provide you with the nutritional facts of most if not all known fruits and
vegetables:http://www.nutritiondata.com
If you are consistent with this diet you will gain permanent emotional stability and you will realize your unlimited potential because your brain will receive what it needs to continue its evolution.
There is another way to gain emotional stability.By eating Cocoa rich chocolate.Lindt exellence is one of the best sources of cocoa you can find in a store.Cococa is a natural substance and contains natural substances that create a feeling of pleasure in the human brain.By doing this it reduces pain,anxiety,depression,anger or stress.It only takes a small amount to experience these effects which last for most of the day if not the entire day depending on the amount taken.A warning.Too much of anything can kill you.Even too much cocoa.
Good luck.Health Question & Answer