Can anyone help me figure out what to do?!


Question: Can anyone help me figure out what to do.?
I moved out right after high school into my own apartment not out of necessity but because I wanted to. I married my best friend and the love of my life when I was 19 (in 2007). We aren't going week to week and we're actually doing very well considering how young we are.

Recently things have been incredibly hard for me. My job has put so much stress on me that I feel like its eating away at my insides. I'm constantly being reprimanded for silly things (such as the inventory list not being filled out the week my husband and I were in Florida on vacation), I'm expected to handle all of my clients and also manage to clean the entire facility on my own. I end up in tears and shutting myself in the bathroom for a few minutes til I calm down at least once a day when I'm working. I worked hard paying my way through school and now with the economy, I'm making barely over minimum wage and my hours keep getting cut. I've put in over 50 applications and resumes and nothing. No call backs no interviews. Nothing.

Today one of our cats had to be put down and of course, the only time they could do it was when my husband was at work so I had to take her myself.

On top of that, all of my friendships are one sided. I'm there for them when they're upset or hurt but when I am, they're suddenly cold or too busy to talk for even 5 minutes or grab a coffee. I've given up on friendships because none of them seem to last or maybe I'm looking for the wrong types of people or something. It sucks feeling so alone. My husband is amazing and always there for me when I need him but sometimes I wish I could talk to a girlfriend you know.?.? I knew it'd be hard being married so young as far as finances and whatnot but the only problem we seem to have is finding and keeping friends because of the place we are in life. We have obligations, bills, rent, etc.

I'm at the point where I can barely get out of bed in the morning from how much I hate my job. I keep getting stress related migraines almost daily. I feel like part of me is broken and I can't fix it. I try to keep smiling and stay positive but its so discouraging. Can anyone give me some advice.?.?Health Question & Answer


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hey, i moved out early too, at 18...for a month i lived with a friend and then me and my boyfriend got an apartment together. Its been hard, and we've been through our ups and downs, and ive been through my own highs and lows and it aint easy. But i figure, I got myself into this, i knew it wasnt going to be easy. Its going to be hard in the begining for a few years until you really get to sit back and enjoy life alittle more. Right now I am unemployed and my unemployment $$ just ran out and i still havent gotten a call from any of the places ive been applying at.

I know what you mean about the "friend" thing. So Ive really had no one to talk to, the stress is just piling up. I got really depressed for a while, but finally pushed myself to get some help. Ive been taking antidepressants for the past few weeks and its been helping me. I know im in a bad place right now but i dont feel so down where I cant get up in the morning, or im constantly planning my death. I except that things are bad but i keep trying and feel more nicer where maybe i can make a friend one of these days.

Times are tough, but you'll make it. Just keep giving your all. And if it gets too discouraging dont be too afraid to ask for help. oh, and i'll be your friend you seem like a cool intelligent girl...Health Question & Answer

sounds mormal, welcome to the real world youngunHealth Question & Answer

I know it sucks, but maybe try going back to a tradeschool or something to pick up a skillset that is in demand for your area. For example, nursing. You can take CNA classes for pretty cheap and without too much time back in school. And they make quite a bit better than minimum wage in most areas.

Of course, that job could get pretty stressful too. But perhaps something like that could help at least until the economy straightens out--nurses and nursing aides are always in demand.

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