Seriously need help with social anxiety/depression?!


Question: Seriously need help with social anxiety/depression.?
I have been struggling with this for my whole life. But really started getting worse in about 2nd grade. I never talked to anybody about my fear of people, and what I went through emotionally.
I've been having thoughts of suicide at a really young age. Even in elementary school.
I am now currently a 15 year old (Sophomore), and finally met up with a counselor. I tell her what I went through and feel, but when she tells my mom that it could become severe or worse, my mom denies it. She thinks that I never had problems throughout my life and everything was normal. When I know in reality it wasn't. She says she understands what i'm going through but denies that i ever had suicidal thoughts or that I struggled so much with social anxiety forever.

Do you think there's anyway I can control this on my own.?
Thats pretty much the only way I can do it... Cause I don't have anyone to understand or help me through this...

I hate always getting Panic attacks, and avoiding social situations, becoming really depressed... And never being able to be comfortable with myself... I have a lot of self hatred and extremly low self esteem. I can never remember a time when I actually felt comfortable or at least OKAY with my appearence or anything about myself EVER...

Can anybody help me please.? Anyone going through the same thing...?Health Question & Answer


Answers:
I have been (or I think is still going) through that.

In high school, I suffered too much for low self-esteem too. My fear would be "humans". I would hate crowded palces and I would always seclude myself. Even walking in the hallways is so difficult. I have to bow down my head while walking all the time. I would avoid competitions. I avoid new people.

Back in high school, I was once in a speech contest and I qualified for the division (just before the regional) tilt. Just days just before that, I dropped out. Despite the protest of my coach and the school head, I had enough. In each and every weekbefore those contest where I'll stand before the sea of faces, I will cry and cry and stop attending school. Even though after the contest, I'd feel okay, the horror of facing it is soooo formidable. It's only now I knew it's called social phobia. And I guess I will never be able to speak in large crowds ever.

When I was in sophie high, I grew suicidal. I was too depressed. I felt my parents wouldn't ever understand. I have OCD, I fear people, I worry all the time, I was sure I'm good for nothing. Now, I'm so happy I did not do it because the sun is beginning to shine again in my life. Don't lose hope there pal. The sun will be poking in your horizon too.

I don't know how I recovered. May be and I think it is my own personal will to get out of the quicksand of depression that I managed to revive myself. You want to recover too, don't you.? then it starts there.

I know people say a lot about positive thinking but it really works. SOme people don't really understand even our parents so what you could do is just to understand them. If your councilor is nice, pour everything. The most important thing is to find a trusted person to share the things you have inside. Turn to God, He really listens even though all of huamnity has gone deaf.

Even thoough, I'm still walking under the gloomy shadow of my "mental illness", it's really a lonely struggle. It's more of yourself versus yourself. Research on your "illness" on the internet. A lot of material will help.

You'll make it through. Believe me.

I'll pray for you. Smile. God bless.Health Question & Answer

I think I know how you feel because I feel like that a lot too. What really helps me out is to just really try hard to realize when I am being myself and when I am not being myself. Like if somebody says something that really isn't that funny, I used to laugh just so they would like me, that never really made them like me anymore just made me feel worse, so now I only laugh at the things I truly find funny.Health Question & Answer

I had the same problem to and there is help out there.Keep talking to your mom and dad and if you can keep talking to your counselor and go to your doctor .There's no reason to feel ashamed or embeares .Just talk to the people that make you feel at ese.good luck with this and hope that you get better and you well get better I promiseHealth Question & Answer

Seriously. if you have ever had an actual panic attack, you would have gotten an ambulance called on you, and given medications for it by nowHealth Question & Answer

Aww. I remember when I used to be like you. I was the super shy girl in the corner no one ever noticed. I would never smile and I was never happy. I had a lot of family problems too. But I think that what kept me going was .. me. I realize that if i commit suicide then I would be giving everything up and the thing is, you still have so much to live for. I know it sucks now but it passed for me and i think it'll pass for you to. Just hang in there and don't give up.

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I am a psych emergency nurse in a crisis center. I have seen many youth as yourself who have this very same thing.

My advice to you. Go to a school counselor, but only do so if that person is a LSW (licensed Social Worker) These people can help you regardless what your mother things is wrong with you is all in your head. Chances are it is.

You need to see a therapist who can refer you to a community psychiatrist who can evaluate a good medication plan that will bring the happy days you are looking for.

There is hope, you just have to know where to look for it.Health Question & Answer



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