Hitting oneself when at the peak of anger/frustration?!
Question: Hitting oneself when at the peak of anger/frustration.?
Does anyone have experience with self-injury.? It's happened three times in the past 4 years, two of which have been in the last 6 months. I've been under huge stress with lifestyle changes and relationship issues and I've punched myself in the head and beaten my legs in the heat of frustration during an argument with my SO. Please, no smart-*** answers as I'm a normal, 34 year old woman who has been completely caught off guard with this loss of control.
Please answer if you have experienced this or been with a loved one who has.Health Question & Answer
Please answer if you have experienced this or been with a loved one who has.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
I've had to deal with that, yes. It can be very scary to feel like that, especially when you have never had to deal with something like that.
You just feel so out of control that you don't know what to do, and somehow, it makes you feel better.
The good news is that this is a common problem although lots of people don't like to talk about it.
The bad news, as you know, is this isn't healthy for you. You've already identified why this is happening--because you are super-stressed and you feel like your life is out of control.
I would strongly encourage you to see if you can find a counselor or therapist in your area, especially one who works with women or teens. I know you are not a "teen" but this type of therapist tends to have a lot of practice with this sort of problem. If money is a worry, check a local college or community health center. They often have sliding scales for payment.
I think talking to a professional about it is your best bet. However, here are some things I do to try to relieve stress on a regular basis.
*Exercise. I do martial arts which helps me to focus my energy and anger.
*Deep breathing, meditation. When I get stressed out I take 5 to 10 deep breaths.
*Hobbies, I enjoy cooking and reading so I do some of that.
*BS Session with friends, just talking to trusted friends about the good and bad in my life.
*Do what you can to try to fix the lifestyle changes that are causing the stress. Again, this is where a counselor would be invaluable.
Hang in there, and good luck!Health Question & Answer
You just feel so out of control that you don't know what to do, and somehow, it makes you feel better.
The good news is that this is a common problem although lots of people don't like to talk about it.
The bad news, as you know, is this isn't healthy for you. You've already identified why this is happening--because you are super-stressed and you feel like your life is out of control.
I would strongly encourage you to see if you can find a counselor or therapist in your area, especially one who works with women or teens. I know you are not a "teen" but this type of therapist tends to have a lot of practice with this sort of problem. If money is a worry, check a local college or community health center. They often have sliding scales for payment.
I think talking to a professional about it is your best bet. However, here are some things I do to try to relieve stress on a regular basis.
*Exercise. I do martial arts which helps me to focus my energy and anger.
*Deep breathing, meditation. When I get stressed out I take 5 to 10 deep breaths.
*Hobbies, I enjoy cooking and reading so I do some of that.
*BS Session with friends, just talking to trusted friends about the good and bad in my life.
*Do what you can to try to fix the lifestyle changes that are causing the stress. Again, this is where a counselor would be invaluable.
Hang in there, and good luck!Health Question & Answer
Inflicting pain on yourself helps to put you in control and take your mind off the situation which put you there to begin with. It is similar to "cutting" if you have ever heard of that. Which yes, I have experienced within my family. All of these mental issues i.e. anorexia, bulemia, cutting, sleeping around, all of them show you want CONTROL over a situation you do not feel you can. Another term for what you do is called "self harm" read the hyper link I attached.
Definitely seek help, this does not mean you aren't normal it just means you are human and have a problem, as do most. Everyone has different coping methods some are more harming than others, but definitely look for some help so it does not get worse.Health Question & Answer
Definitely seek help, this does not mean you aren't normal it just means you are human and have a problem, as do most. Everyone has different coping methods some are more harming than others, but definitely look for some help so it does not get worse.Health Question & Answer
Frankly, too much stress in life can cause you to go into depression. There can also be high irritability and the inability to keep ones emotions in check. It should be normal for everyone who is put under extreme stressHealth Question & Answer
Never. It is never ok to do that type of thing. Especially for men. A theory I have found out seems to be true is this.
Men who beat their dogs, beat their kids, and beat their wives. It's a mental problem/lack of self control, and it is not ok.Health Question & Answer
Men who beat their dogs, beat their kids, and beat their wives. It's a mental problem/lack of self control, and it is not ok.Health Question & Answer
your self injury isn't the same as someone who cuts themselves. You need help controlling your anger.
ANGER MANAGEMENT: If you can't deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent yourself from making yourself angry, in the first place) is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards. If not, maybe by walking away later, and bellowing your rage. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards.
Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. It helps to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger. "But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: 'Those who anger you, conquer you.' It's basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it's like they're controlling you.
When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line." Try saying to yourself, in your mind: "I am fire! I am ice!". Repeat for as long as it takes for you to calm down sufficiently.
I hope this helps there are also many anger management classes you can take as well! Get better and god bless!Health Question & Answer
ANGER MANAGEMENT: If you can't deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent yourself from making yourself angry, in the first place) is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards. If not, maybe by walking away later, and bellowing your rage. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards.
Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. It helps to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger. "But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: 'Those who anger you, conquer you.' It's basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it's like they're controlling you.
When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line." Try saying to yourself, in your mind: "I am fire! I am ice!". Repeat for as long as it takes for you to calm down sufficiently.
I hope this helps there are also many anger management classes you can take as well! Get better and god bless!Health Question & Answer