I am really sad and I don't know how to control it?!
Question: I am really sad and I don't know how to control it.?
Hey, today was one of the worst 'High school' days of my entire life.
At recess, my friend saw a curvy girl walking past and said, 'I hate fat people!' (I am fat...) And then she looked at me and said, 'Whoops, I'm so sorry!' Making the situation worse. It's basically calling me fat...And I already know.
Then she kept on saying sorry, but I was hurt and you can't take a word back after it's said.
I've been bullied since I was very young, 4 or 5.? And I am very sensitive when people call me fat.
- Then during science, these two people in my class were talking about how many fat people in my class...And they forgot me.
Then they said, 'Oh! Don't forget Mary!' (I'm Mary).
And they said it twice, loud.
My friends just suddenly looked at me, (I had tears in my eyes, so I looked down), and they kept on saying, 'Thats so slack - just be who you are' And things like that, but that makes me feel so negative because I can't be a skinny, lean beautiful person like they all are.
Be aware that I am over weight genetically, and I can't help it. I am just heavy set.
I forgave the friend who called me fat - but at the end of the day, I couldn't keep the sadness and crying in. So I went up to my room and cried for about 1 hour. I'm still pretty sad and I don't want to go to school tomorrow, (My parents won't even let me stay home even if I'm dying!) - And it's just so tough.
I've got nobody to talk to, and nobody understands what I'm going through.
Please don't say, 'Loose weight' Blah blah blah, because I don't want to change for anyone.
This question is; how can I control my sadness.?
If this continues could I be bi-polar or depressed.?
I try to smile at everyone, be a happy person. But when things like this happen, I just cry because I'm a very sensitive person.Health Question & Answer
At recess, my friend saw a curvy girl walking past and said, 'I hate fat people!' (I am fat...) And then she looked at me and said, 'Whoops, I'm so sorry!' Making the situation worse. It's basically calling me fat...And I already know.
Then she kept on saying sorry, but I was hurt and you can't take a word back after it's said.
I've been bullied since I was very young, 4 or 5.? And I am very sensitive when people call me fat.
- Then during science, these two people in my class were talking about how many fat people in my class...And they forgot me.
Then they said, 'Oh! Don't forget Mary!' (I'm Mary).
And they said it twice, loud.
My friends just suddenly looked at me, (I had tears in my eyes, so I looked down), and they kept on saying, 'Thats so slack - just be who you are' And things like that, but that makes me feel so negative because I can't be a skinny, lean beautiful person like they all are.
Be aware that I am over weight genetically, and I can't help it. I am just heavy set.
I forgave the friend who called me fat - but at the end of the day, I couldn't keep the sadness and crying in. So I went up to my room and cried for about 1 hour. I'm still pretty sad and I don't want to go to school tomorrow, (My parents won't even let me stay home even if I'm dying!) - And it's just so tough.
I've got nobody to talk to, and nobody understands what I'm going through.
Please don't say, 'Loose weight' Blah blah blah, because I don't want to change for anyone.
This question is; how can I control my sadness.?
If this continues could I be bi-polar or depressed.?
I try to smile at everyone, be a happy person. But when things like this happen, I just cry because I'm a very sensitive person.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Hi Mary, I have to say that your story really touched me; it breaks my heart that so many kids tease you about your weight. I do have some tips that I could give you on how to lose weight but since you don't want them I'll give you tips on how to manage your sadness and to learn how to love yourself just as you are. The first tip that I want to give you is to take everything that has ever been said to you and write it all down in a journal so to speak. After you have done that you want to take the papers and just tear them up into tiny pieces. Then I want you to say "these words that once hurt me and tore into my very soul can't hurt me any more;" after you say that I want you to meditate and if you can do Yoga. It will help you relax and relieve some stress; if you need to run away somewhere that you can meditate or cry to yourself. Then after you see some improvement in your mood say these words to yourself: "I am beautiful just the way I am." It will help you a lot with how you see yourself. You don't have to be skinny to be beautiful; that's what the media wants you to believe. I don't really know if you want advice from a "skinny" person but if you do I'm willing ot to give it. It won't hurt me any if you don't go with my answer but I do want you to give it some thought. I was teased a lot too; ever since I was in kindergarten people would tease me because of how I walk or how I look because I have Cerebral palsy. Oh, if it does continue I would get some professional help because it could turn into depression or Bi-polar Disorder.Health Question & Answer
you are not sad mary by this reaction
i ask you to take this is as a lesson no. 1
and start put a schedule to your self and
follow it strictly , and don't look back
good luckHealth Question & Answer
i ask you to take this is as a lesson no. 1
and start put a schedule to your self and
follow it strictly , and don't look back
good luckHealth Question & Answer
Well, to answer your very last question you may develop depression.
School is tough. I was so sensitive too. I was the underachieving loner who didn't look attractive at all. People said horrible things to me too.
I'm sad a lot for a different reason. I have to constantly give my self distractions: watch tv, read a book out loud, be around people that care about me, listen to music, etc.
People are very unfair to fat people. I know that a person can be that way from genes, emotional reasons or even having a body type that easily puts on weight. I am concerned for you though because of health reasons, but if you are a healthy person then that's all that matters.
Don't let people get to you. I know it's hard. I've been there and still struggle with it. You need to become more confident about your weight and show people that people saying you're fat doesn't bother you. Just start thinking positive about yourself. When people start making fun of fat people and it makes you feel uncomfortable try hard to think of something that makes you happy. That's what I did when my boyfriend was breaking up with me. It worked. All his horrible words just went straight through one ear and out the other.
Control your negative emotions and you will truly find happiness.Health Question & Answer
School is tough. I was so sensitive too. I was the underachieving loner who didn't look attractive at all. People said horrible things to me too.
I'm sad a lot for a different reason. I have to constantly give my self distractions: watch tv, read a book out loud, be around people that care about me, listen to music, etc.
People are very unfair to fat people. I know that a person can be that way from genes, emotional reasons or even having a body type that easily puts on weight. I am concerned for you though because of health reasons, but if you are a healthy person then that's all that matters.
Don't let people get to you. I know it's hard. I've been there and still struggle with it. You need to become more confident about your weight and show people that people saying you're fat doesn't bother you. Just start thinking positive about yourself. When people start making fun of fat people and it makes you feel uncomfortable try hard to think of something that makes you happy. That's what I did when my boyfriend was breaking up with me. It worked. All his horrible words just went straight through one ear and out the other.
Control your negative emotions and you will truly find happiness.Health Question & Answer
hey dont b sad! y do u care who says wht ! u r who u r so dont b sad its not ur prob.. b happy with wht u r.. u may b fat but its not the outside tht counts its the inside! so cheer up n live life to the best no matter wht ppl say.. if they say something then tell them on their face tht yes i am fat wht u gonna do about it.? or u can complain to ur teacher if u like.. i hope u get my point..
so cheer up ! n live life!Health Question & Answer
so cheer up ! n live life!Health Question & Answer
just ont worry about it! sa long as you have frends if you seem dead happy the way you are then theyll think that to..believe me i never thought it but as long as you seme happy with yourself no1 cares...some people are just that sad to kick people wen theyre down, the first answerer was rite its whats ont he inside that counts
and just think... as long as there calling you something mean thast vain and you cant control its not YOU as long as its not your personality then just hink! u must be deead nice if thast all they can be mean about! Health Question & Answer
and just think... as long as there calling you something mean thast vain and you cant control its not YOU as long as its not your personality then just hink! u must be deead nice if thast all they can be mean about! Health Question & Answer
Don't let your self esteem go down. Be happy and proud of who you are, there are a lot of shallow, stupid, immature people out there who's lives suck so much they have nothing better other than to tease other people. They lack empathy and you know you are better than them.
Take a look at the awesome Dawn French (the english comedian you might know her.?) She likes the fact that shes quite overweight and wouldn't have it any other way. She even said she was happier before when she lost a bit of weight.
Yes, you could get depressed and if that happens don't be afraid to seek professional help for therapy etc to get you back on track.
Good luck :) a lot have been where you are.Health Question & Answer
Take a look at the awesome Dawn French (the english comedian you might know her.?) She likes the fact that shes quite overweight and wouldn't have it any other way. She even said she was happier before when she lost a bit of weight.
Yes, you could get depressed and if that happens don't be afraid to seek professional help for therapy etc to get you back on track.
Good luck :) a lot have been where you are.Health Question & Answer