Is this emotional/psychological abuse?!
Question: Is this emotional/psychological abuse.?
I'm 16 years old and live with my older brother who goes to college and my mother (a single parent). Over the past few years i've noticed that my mother has been getting very moody and angry all the time. The past two years of my life has been literally hell for me. I find myself crying on a weekly basis. Im quite a comprimising and understanding teengager. I dont hang out with bad kids, i've never touched drugs, im a straight-A student, i cook for my mom/brother without being asked (i do basically everything that most teenagers dont do.) Yet nothing is enough for my mother. She always finds a reason to call me names, degrade me, shout at me, humiliate me, and hit me ( i've had bruises in the past). I havent told anyone about my problems, not even my closest friends. I understand that my mother has a lot of stress relating to the present economy, our finances, her own emotional problems, etc...
But i cannot take all of her criticism. I feel that i am her only method of relieving stress. I used to understand and comfort her, but i cannot help her if she refuses to listen to me, locks me out of her room, shouts at me for the most insignificant reasons, or slaps me.
I cant even help myself from feeling so stressed and hurt all the time.
When i try tocome to my mother and tell her about my problems or how i feel, she gets defensive and tells me to go cry in a corner and leave her alone. I think my older brother knows how i feel but i dont think he would help me.The only thing that i can do is cry silently at night to relieve my stress.
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But i cannot take all of her criticism. I feel that i am her only method of relieving stress. I used to understand and comfort her, but i cannot help her if she refuses to listen to me, locks me out of her room, shouts at me for the most insignificant reasons, or slaps me.
I cant even help myself from feeling so stressed and hurt all the time.
When i try tocome to my mother and tell her about my problems or how i feel, she gets defensive and tells me to go cry in a corner and leave her alone. I think my older brother knows how i feel but i dont think he would help me.The only thing that i can do is cry silently at night to relieve my stress.
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Yes and physical abuse(child abuse) I grew up like this also.
You have too much going on for someone so young..
Do you have a family member you can go stay with
(aunt, grandparent,etc..) Your mom needs to seek counseling as
well the above you stated is not your fault, and you should not be any-ones punching bag.. Seek counseling at your local church.? If you've tried to fix this with mom, and she does not want to help herself, you need to be out of there...Can you live with dad.?
I don't know you but I am proud of you for being so strong.
Go to a close family member for help, you don't deserve this type of life
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thats abuse, you need to talk to someone about that, your mom is obviously disturbed and so needs help, if you talk to someone you'll be helping her and helping yourself
try to talk to an adult friend or a friendly teacher at schoolHealth Question & Answer
try to talk to an adult friend or a friendly teacher at schoolHealth Question & Answer
this is outright physical and verbal abuse
that leads to emotional distress and then to psychological disorders
get help, call child protective services or something
you dont deserve to live in hell everydayHealth Question & Answer
that leads to emotional distress and then to psychological disorders
get help, call child protective services or something
you dont deserve to live in hell everydayHealth Question & Answer
yes this is psychological abuse.Health Question & Answer
It is cruel and selfish of her to take her own problems out on you. Especially when they are definitley NOT your fault in the first place. Yes that is emotional and physical abuse and you should tell someone. Obviously your mother is not going to change on her own if this has been going on for a long time. She is clearly to consumed with her own misery to consider the hurt she may be causing to her own daughter. I am sorry that she treats you this way. It is not right.Health Question & Answer
Well, if she hits you, it's physical abuse, and I know that you could get put in foster care for that. What a great solution, right.?
Maybe you could scout out a counselor for you and your mom to go to. At one point in my life, I was really upset about my relationship with my husband and his mother, and a friend of mine recommended her counselor to me. Talking to her really helped me feel better. It helped me feel like I could handle my life again.
I think you love your mom and don't want to get separated from her. Maybe you could find a counselor, but hold off on mentioning any of the violence until later, perhaps after it's in the past, because counselors are supposed to report physical abuse, I believe. It's the law.
Many insurance plans will cover psychological counseling, and state run insurance might cover it, too. It really helps to talk to somebody. It might help your mom who sounds like she is really struggling.
Why don't you ask her if she would like to go to counseling with you, or at least ask her if you can call up the insurance company for a list of counselors because you really need to talk to somebody about all the stress in your life.
It's very good for you to reach out for help rather than trying to keep all this bottled up inside.Health Question & Answer
Maybe you could scout out a counselor for you and your mom to go to. At one point in my life, I was really upset about my relationship with my husband and his mother, and a friend of mine recommended her counselor to me. Talking to her really helped me feel better. It helped me feel like I could handle my life again.
I think you love your mom and don't want to get separated from her. Maybe you could find a counselor, but hold off on mentioning any of the violence until later, perhaps after it's in the past, because counselors are supposed to report physical abuse, I believe. It's the law.
Many insurance plans will cover psychological counseling, and state run insurance might cover it, too. It really helps to talk to somebody. It might help your mom who sounds like she is really struggling.
Why don't you ask her if she would like to go to counseling with you, or at least ask her if you can call up the insurance company for a list of counselors because you really need to talk to somebody about all the stress in your life.
It's very good for you to reach out for help rather than trying to keep all this bottled up inside.Health Question & Answer
my life.. i dont know i hope you can get help from a reliable friend that is true, i didn't have that and i was alone, i couldnt talk to my mom either, im about to cry. its really looking at myself reading your question
get a good real friend, who cares about what you say, and an adult influence, but sooner or later you need to help the mental anguish she is putting on you, i was a vent for my mom, and he rest of the world she was a queen all different. Your mom probably has a mental issue that she wont treat herself and put it out on you throughout your teenage life until you move out, only then you realize its just starting
I'm 23 and still have so much pain from living at home, Health Question & Answer
get a good real friend, who cares about what you say, and an adult influence, but sooner or later you need to help the mental anguish she is putting on you, i was a vent for my mom, and he rest of the world she was a queen all different. Your mom probably has a mental issue that she wont treat herself and put it out on you throughout your teenage life until you move out, only then you realize its just starting
I'm 23 and still have so much pain from living at home, Health Question & Answer