Psychological Help Please?!
Question: Psychological Help Please.?
Okay, so normal people won't want to answer this one, but for people like me, (the ones who love to study human emotions and what-nots) my story might be depressingly interesting:
Okay so over the past five or six years, I have literally had 9 boyfriends. All of whom had either cheated on me, went out with me for a dare, or just went out before Christmas to get a CD. I literally hate my parents and used to cry every night in middle school because girls used to make fun of me being so skinny and always thought I had an eating disorder (which I don't, my metabolism is just super high). Honestly, I can say I'm not a geek or anything. I have a group of friends that I love dearly, but I am not happy. I just applied to a college in Chicago and I have a huge feeling that I won't be accepted. I've never told anything about my true feelings to anyone so I'd appreciate if people could be kind with their remarks if there are any. I've thought about calling the teen help-lines just to let everything out, but I don't think I can do that. I truly think I hate people and everything that they do. Every little thing that anybody does gets me so pissed I can't even explain it. If there's a real pschologist out there, I'm hoping maybe you could give me a suggestion on what to do. Health Question & Answer
Okay so over the past five or six years, I have literally had 9 boyfriends. All of whom had either cheated on me, went out with me for a dare, or just went out before Christmas to get a CD. I literally hate my parents and used to cry every night in middle school because girls used to make fun of me being so skinny and always thought I had an eating disorder (which I don't, my metabolism is just super high). Honestly, I can say I'm not a geek or anything. I have a group of friends that I love dearly, but I am not happy. I just applied to a college in Chicago and I have a huge feeling that I won't be accepted. I've never told anything about my true feelings to anyone so I'd appreciate if people could be kind with their remarks if there are any. I've thought about calling the teen help-lines just to let everything out, but I don't think I can do that. I truly think I hate people and everything that they do. Every little thing that anybody does gets me so pissed I can't even explain it. If there's a real pschologist out there, I'm hoping maybe you could give me a suggestion on what to do. Health Question & Answer
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I am no psychologist that's for certain, but I am willing to give you my input since I've been in a similar situation and am still somewhat giving and taking a few things off your list.
Well... first off, I just want to say that I am happy that you are such a strong girl and aren't a person to threaten their own life or anything.
Let's see: I am 18, 5'4", and weigh 106lbs as of last week... so I know how you feel on the whole being teased and people always saying you have an eating disorder... it's completely idiotic, because I, too, have very fast metabolism, and it is normal... so don't think you are any different then someone who may weigh anything above you.
Peoples actions, the ones that piss you off and irritate you, it's normal too; but I'm not sure if you openly express that when you are bothered or if you keep it in and act like everything's okay... I do that one...
And I've been called two-faced because I'm able to tell my boyfriend how I feel about what people do, but when I'm around the people who irritate me I act like nothing's wrong... It hurts, ya... but I don't want to be a ***** and hate everyone...
You know.?
I dunno if I am helping any. But if you'd like to talk, email me. I'd love to help if I can.
Wish you the best, and God bless.Health Question & Answer
Well... first off, I just want to say that I am happy that you are such a strong girl and aren't a person to threaten their own life or anything.
Let's see: I am 18, 5'4", and weigh 106lbs as of last week... so I know how you feel on the whole being teased and people always saying you have an eating disorder... it's completely idiotic, because I, too, have very fast metabolism, and it is normal... so don't think you are any different then someone who may weigh anything above you.
Peoples actions, the ones that piss you off and irritate you, it's normal too; but I'm not sure if you openly express that when you are bothered or if you keep it in and act like everything's okay... I do that one...
And I've been called two-faced because I'm able to tell my boyfriend how I feel about what people do, but when I'm around the people who irritate me I act like nothing's wrong... It hurts, ya... but I don't want to be a ***** and hate everyone...
You know.?
I dunno if I am helping any. But if you'd like to talk, email me. I'd love to help if I can.
Wish you the best, and God bless.Health Question & Answer
work on your self esteem. tell yourself you are a great person in the mirror every morning. make a list of good qualities and tape them to the mirror so you can read it several times a day. also picture yourself getting accepted into that college. it CAN happen. talk to your doctor too.Health Question & Answer
first of all you can take pills that can help you gain weight. second you should just take a breake from boys and just chill. and about your paretns sit down and talk to them and maybe you can like them more.Health Question & Answer
when your in college there will be more smart ppl like you and you will find friends and about the parents if they are mean to you just ignore them Health Question & Answer
You will probably hate my answer, but seek professional help, not online though. Health Question & Answer
you have low self esteem. buy a stress ball. im not kidding. it worked for me.Health Question & Answer
I'm not a real psychologist, but I must tell you that I got reminded of myself when I was reading what you wrote. I also can't stand it, and get pissed when some people do things sometimes. I've never expressed any true feelings to anyone either. I've been made fun of, but not called skinny, with me I was the fat-***. I can't think of any suggestions, but I sure can say that the way you are feeling seems similiar to me, in several
parts about yourself. I think that also; everytime I do something I always get a feeling that I will fail. Fail, fail, fail, fail. I'm not quite a happy person either. People have called me a geek, though.Health Question & Answer
parts about yourself. I think that also; everytime I do something I always get a feeling that I will fail. Fail, fail, fail, fail. I'm not quite a happy person either. People have called me a geek, though.Health Question & Answer
i'm no psychologist but i can tell you one thing, at around teenage years i was fed up of everything too, i hated my parents, didn't had much people who cared about me. I realize with time (now 27years old) that you loose friends with the years, you loose boyfriends and alot of time goes by before you realize that your parents are there. Trust in them, they might just not know what you feel and think, if you can help them understand they might be able to help you better. And going far to go to school is a good idea for the good reason, if you leave to go far to run away from your problems they will always catch you right back, when you least expect it. Just look at your life in another perspective and you might see that your life isnt that bad after all.
hope it helps, IsaHealth Question & Answer
hope it helps, IsaHealth Question & Answer
my goodness dear, you sound so much like me when i was a teenager.
i suggest finding a pro to talk to, because these problems do not go away on their own (believe me, i have tried)...i myself have g.a.d. (generalized anxiety disorder) and a very strong tendency towards depression. medication has helped, but it took several tries to find the one that was right for me.
(p.s.-i have learned to sum up the anger at people in general to ignorance. stupidity in others makes me very hostile...ignorance is so irritating)Health Question & Answer
i suggest finding a pro to talk to, because these problems do not go away on their own (believe me, i have tried)...i myself have g.a.d. (generalized anxiety disorder) and a very strong tendency towards depression. medication has helped, but it took several tries to find the one that was right for me.
(p.s.-i have learned to sum up the anger at people in general to ignorance. stupidity in others makes me very hostile...ignorance is so irritating)Health Question & Answer
I'm not a psychologist or anything but I know how you feel. I remember once thinking that there was no point in living in a world where people could be so cruel to each other. I just hated everyone so much and I got so upset because I couldn't understand why anyone wouldn't want to die rather than live with people like the girls who were mean to you.
You mentioned that you've never told anyone about how you feel. If all these bottled up feelings are hurting you, it would really help if you talked to someone about everything. I know that's easier said than done, but maybe you can think of someone you could open up to.?
I think I'm around the same age as you (I'm 17). Email me if you ever need to talk about anything.
Good luck =]Health Question & Answer
You mentioned that you've never told anyone about how you feel. If all these bottled up feelings are hurting you, it would really help if you talked to someone about everything. I know that's easier said than done, but maybe you can think of someone you could open up to.?
I think I'm around the same age as you (I'm 17). Email me if you ever need to talk about anything.
Good luck =]Health Question & Answer
alright now read this carefully. im only going to write this once...ok.?
After all of those years suffering of cheating and made fun of will be all over if you get accepted to this college because popular kids and all of those kinds of kids, you know what they amount to.? NOTHING. they waste their time on clothes, making other people look bad. But you.? I bet you r a very hard working person who does the right choices in life. So if you get accepted you can get a fresh start and begin the rest of your life. If you don't (and god forbid you don't) then its ok. you can bounce right back up and try another time. there are no three strikes rule in life. like the saying "if you fall of the horse, get back up and get back on the saddle again." I hope this has helped even in just the slightest bit. Good Luck.Health Question & Answer
After all of those years suffering of cheating and made fun of will be all over if you get accepted to this college because popular kids and all of those kinds of kids, you know what they amount to.? NOTHING. they waste their time on clothes, making other people look bad. But you.? I bet you r a very hard working person who does the right choices in life. So if you get accepted you can get a fresh start and begin the rest of your life. If you don't (and god forbid you don't) then its ok. you can bounce right back up and try another time. there are no three strikes rule in life. like the saying "if you fall of the horse, get back up and get back on the saddle again." I hope this has helped even in just the slightest bit. Good Luck.Health Question & Answer
I'm not a psychologist or anything just a human being. I can only offer to you to be happy w/ yourself. You don't need approval from other people to know that you are worth something. All human beings are God's creations and that all have value.
Whether you get accepted at this college or not doesn't matter. if you don't, you apply somewhere else. keep at it. as for boys, don't look for acceptance from other so you have "a boyfriend". Hold yourself in high esteem and others will hold yourself in high esteem and not cheat on you. You have to love yourself. Ponder your good qualities. Think good thoughts. Remember you deserve it.Health Question & Answer
Whether you get accepted at this college or not doesn't matter. if you don't, you apply somewhere else. keep at it. as for boys, don't look for acceptance from other so you have "a boyfriend". Hold yourself in high esteem and others will hold yourself in high esteem and not cheat on you. You have to love yourself. Ponder your good qualities. Think good thoughts. Remember you deserve it.Health Question & Answer
your too focused on what people think of you and what you think of people. you should take your frustrations and bad feelings and convert it into a meaningful thing such as: playing a sport, joining a club and work on your social skills and other things that you like.
and since you "hate" your parents, you must find love somewhere else and by that you long for a loving boyfriend and most likely show your desperation to be loved. That's why guys take advantage of you. Health Question & Answer
and since you "hate" your parents, you must find love somewhere else and by that you long for a loving boyfriend and most likely show your desperation to be loved. That's why guys take advantage of you. Health Question & Answer
I'm not a professional psychologist, but I am a sociologist, who studies the way people interact. We deal a lot with types of things your going through. I went through a similar situation when I was younger. I was constantly mad, and worrying, and upset. I had no friends. Don't think of me biased, but I found comfort in God. Don't go and just ignore this just because it mentions God. I was searching for acceptance, love, friendship, anything that would make me feel better than I did. God, for me, was a last resort, but it was in reality the best decision I've ever made--to follow Him. He took ALL my fears, worrys, anger, disappointment, and turned it into love and acceptance. I no longer cared about anything but me and Him. It made me shine as an individual and share my love and joy and passion for life with others. What your going through is normal. Give Him a chance. You may be surprised what He can do for you!
Blessings!
MaryEHealth Question & Answer
Blessings!
MaryEHealth Question & Answer
I do sincerely care about you. I understand about being upset with everything because things just don't go right. People disagree and say mean things and give bad advice and say stupid stuff. Those things bug me too.
But I'll tell you a secret--I mean it's a secret as far as most people go because people don't see this as an answer and yet it is---they just won't give it a chance. I don't believe psychologists can help you. They might give you some drugs (after they refer you to someone who is qualified to dispense them), but drugs do not give lasting peace or joy or fulfillment or really help in the long run.
The answer is knowing Jesus Christ and this isn't something that is impossible to achieve. It is quite possible and Jesus is a real person who rose from the dead (after dying for you and me) and is alive forever more. He is preparing a place in heaven for those who love him. So, there are many things I could suggest to help you understand now, but it would take so long so to make it short, I'll say, get a Bible and read John (the 4th book in the New Testament) and read it slowly to get the meaning. There are very important key verses in that book. You can highlight or underline them. (If you have a highlighter that won't bleed through the page, that is easier). So, will give you key verses: John 1:1-3, 12, 14, 29; 3:3-7, 15-end; 4:10, 14 & 23; 10:(all); 14:6, 13-14, 27; 15:1-7; 16:(all, underline 33). Jesus knocks on the door of your heart (See Revelation 3:20). You can be a new creature in Christ (See II Cor. 5:17). God bless you! He is able to give you peace that passes understanding (see Philippians 4:6-7). More later if you email me.Health Question & Answer
But I'll tell you a secret--I mean it's a secret as far as most people go because people don't see this as an answer and yet it is---they just won't give it a chance. I don't believe psychologists can help you. They might give you some drugs (after they refer you to someone who is qualified to dispense them), but drugs do not give lasting peace or joy or fulfillment or really help in the long run.
The answer is knowing Jesus Christ and this isn't something that is impossible to achieve. It is quite possible and Jesus is a real person who rose from the dead (after dying for you and me) and is alive forever more. He is preparing a place in heaven for those who love him. So, there are many things I could suggest to help you understand now, but it would take so long so to make it short, I'll say, get a Bible and read John (the 4th book in the New Testament) and read it slowly to get the meaning. There are very important key verses in that book. You can highlight or underline them. (If you have a highlighter that won't bleed through the page, that is easier). So, will give you key verses: John 1:1-3, 12, 14, 29; 3:3-7, 15-end; 4:10, 14 & 23; 10:(all); 14:6, 13-14, 27; 15:1-7; 16:(all, underline 33). Jesus knocks on the door of your heart (See Revelation 3:20). You can be a new creature in Christ (See II Cor. 5:17). God bless you! He is able to give you peace that passes understanding (see Philippians 4:6-7). More later if you email me.Health Question & Answer