Theres something im mad about, but dont wanna start a argument, tell me how to just let it go?!
Question: Theres something im mad about, but dont wanna start a argument, tell me how to just let it go.?
im the kinda guy that if someone bothers or upsets me i confront the person. however i dont want to argue. can u please tell me ways to just let it go, or to get my frustration and anger and hurt out without effecting anyone including myself in a negative wayHealth Question & Answer
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When my anger starts feeling like I'm going to react in a way I know I'll regret, I try to remember saying the "Serenity Prayer".
I know from experience that if I give into my instinctive impulses, it will only make matters worse.
After taking some good, long deep breaths.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
The courage to change the things that I can,
And the WISDOM to know the difference!"
What I then learn is that I don't have to be so sensitive, it really is a sign of weakness to be so defensive all the time. I can be a bigger person than my "angry, hurt, little boy inside". I also don't have to apologize later for some damage from my actions, AND may actually have a better relationship with that person.Health Question & Answer
I know from experience that if I give into my instinctive impulses, it will only make matters worse.
After taking some good, long deep breaths.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
The courage to change the things that I can,
And the WISDOM to know the difference!"
What I then learn is that I don't have to be so sensitive, it really is a sign of weakness to be so defensive all the time. I can be a bigger person than my "angry, hurt, little boy inside". I also don't have to apologize later for some damage from my actions, AND may actually have a better relationship with that person.Health Question & Answer
It depends on what it is. If someone has been behaving badly, you can serve them revenge by anonymously ratting them out...so long as the finking can't be traced to you.
If it's a simple disagreement, you can simply stiff-arm the person--be cold and distant, and find something to do when they come around. If they accuse you of being cold and distant, suggest that they're hypersensitive, and you're simply busy.
You can always tell yourself, whatever it is, that it just isn't worth it. That's how I handle interactions with jerks and tools, and it works for me.
Of course, living well is always the best revenge.
I don't recommend spilling your guts in journals, unless you burn them immediately thereafter--anything you say CAN be used against you, after all!Health Question & Answer
If it's a simple disagreement, you can simply stiff-arm the person--be cold and distant, and find something to do when they come around. If they accuse you of being cold and distant, suggest that they're hypersensitive, and you're simply busy.
You can always tell yourself, whatever it is, that it just isn't worth it. That's how I handle interactions with jerks and tools, and it works for me.
Of course, living well is always the best revenge.
I don't recommend spilling your guts in journals, unless you burn them immediately thereafter--anything you say CAN be used against you, after all!Health Question & Answer
i would recommend confronting the person still. You dont have to be agressive and start a fight, just tell them that they made you angry. Trust me, if you don't let it out at the appropriate person, it will stay there, anger doesnt just go away. You need to be upfront with the person and let it out. I'm serious, this hippy prayer stuff aint gonna work.Health Question & Answer
laugh at them........hear song ..............and go and love the nature,take its full green, fresh air,,,,,,Breaaaath it............. and take inspiration from her.........nature gives us many example to survive in such cases........in my case, when judge bosses do corruption and forces me to do that, i fight them by doing justice with lots of people...the people's smile inspire me........i enjoy the green town with its lots of green shed, wild flowers and different birds.... they teach me for survival in such situation......Look, future is promising for the survivor.....i also inspired by one of your suggestion.............thanks for it..........and go ahead...........ALL THE VERY BEST......... Health Question & Answer
For myself, I have found it helpful to write all these thoughts and feelings down in a journal. This way I am not keeping it bottled up inside, and I am avoiding conflict, and not hurting someone's feelings. It sounds corny, but it really works when there is no other way to let it go.Health Question & Answer
I agree with sunnyjay.
I although always try to tell someone whom I fully trust and won't go and tell that person. That way they can give you some advice or tell you well their opinion and that way get it off your chest. That helps me because I see if they thought the same as me or actually tell me I was wrong and why.Health Question & Answer
I although always try to tell someone whom I fully trust and won't go and tell that person. That way they can give you some advice or tell you well their opinion and that way get it off your chest. That helps me because I see if they thought the same as me or actually tell me I was wrong and why.Health Question & Answer
Just write it all down, on some paper. No matter how nasty you feel write it down. Health Question & Answer