How do I deal with all this crap?!
Question: How do I deal with all this crap.?
Ok I have been a cutter for some time now and I screwed up and didnt wear long sleave and my preachers wife found out!! I admitted to cutting and she has been trying to counsel me and talk to me!! I dont think I can stop!! i have tried and its like how a crack head has relapses I have cutting relapses and the urge to cut comes really strong and you just have to any suggestions on how to stop.?.?.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Hi there,
You say it releases the urges, so you need to channel them onto something positive.
Do you like sports, something active like going to the gym, this may be helpful when releasing your negative energy. If you get really bad why don't you tell someone. This may help as then you know you are being watched and can't do anything like that.
Or an idea, you feel the urge coming focus on cleaning.
Why are you doing this, you need to route back and remember what made you turn to this in the first place.?.?.?
If need be and none of these things work, then you need to see a doctor, because I'm sure if you don't sort it out the preachers wife will.
Be brave and do what you have to do.
All the best
AliciaHealth Question & Answer
You say it releases the urges, so you need to channel them onto something positive.
Do you like sports, something active like going to the gym, this may be helpful when releasing your negative energy. If you get really bad why don't you tell someone. This may help as then you know you are being watched and can't do anything like that.
Or an idea, you feel the urge coming focus on cleaning.
Why are you doing this, you need to route back and remember what made you turn to this in the first place.?.?.?
If need be and none of these things work, then you need to see a doctor, because I'm sure if you don't sort it out the preachers wife will.
Be brave and do what you have to do.
All the best
AliciaHealth Question & Answer
You have to get a hold of it. You cut to make the pain 'real' and that is the only reason. Get real professional counselling. I managed to stop self-harming in that way because I had to be able to go to work and things and not have to explain it all. Now I starve myself to self-harm because that is invisible and I make sure that I don't lose enough weight to cause alarm. I'm about to get help for this and get it all sorted out...I have a good friend who has made me see clearly. Good luck xxHealth Question & Answer
I used to be the same way. Then I found a new hobby. My hobby is drinking. Which isn't a very good one. But, I know how you feel, it's like an addiction to pain, it gives you some sort of "high" when you cut. You don't want to die, just feel the pain. I gotcha', I know what you mean. Just find something fun to do!Health Question & Answer
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That is just not good.
If its any help, I know exactly what your going through.
Ive been getting better, I used to cut and make myself sick pretty much everyday, but it hasn't been so frequent anymore.
I hadn't cut for weeks, and then yesterday, I lost it. And well it felt so nice, which scared me. It was like I missed that pain.
The only thing I would advise you is like proper stuff. Like doctors or whatever. You'd get given anti-depressants and counselling. That's often the only thing that works really.
Good Luck :)Health Question & Answer
That is just not good.
If its any help, I know exactly what your going through.
Ive been getting better, I used to cut and make myself sick pretty much everyday, but it hasn't been so frequent anymore.
I hadn't cut for weeks, and then yesterday, I lost it. And well it felt so nice, which scared me. It was like I missed that pain.
The only thing I would advise you is like proper stuff. Like doctors or whatever. You'd get given anti-depressants and counselling. That's often the only thing that works really.
Good Luck :)Health Question & Answer
You need to talk to a mental health professional, not a preacher or his wife.Health Question & Answer
Yeah,go to a Doctor,they can help you Good LuckHealth Question & Answer
How do I stop.? And anyway, aren't some of these techniques just as "bad" as SI (self injury).?
There are several different flat-out-crisis-in-the-moment strategies typically suggested. My favorite is doing anything that isn't SI and produces intense sensation: squeezing ice, taking a cold bath or hot or cold shower, biting into something strongly flavored (hot peppers, ginger root, unpeeled lemon/lime/grapefruit), rubbing Ben-Gay? or Icy-Hot? or Vap-O-Rub? under your nose, sex, etc. Matching reactions and feelings is extremely useful. These strategies work because the intense emotions that provoke SI are transient; they come and go like waves, and if you can stay upright through one, you get some breathing room before the next (and you strengthen your muscles). The more waves you tolerate without falling over, the stronger you become. But, the question arises, aren't these things equivalent to punishing yourself by cutting or burning or hitting or whatever.? The key difference is that they don't produce lasting results. If you squeeze a handful of ice until it melts or stick a couple of fingers into some ice cream for a few minutes, it'll hurt like (to quote someone I respect) "a cast-iron *****" but it won't leave scars. It won't leave anything you'll have to explain away later. You most likely won't feel guilty after -- a little foolish, maybe, and kinda proud that you weathered a crisis without SI, but not guilty. This kind of distraction isn't intended to cure the roots of your self-injury; you can't run a marathon when you're too tired to cross the room. These techniques serve, rather, to help you get through an intense moment of badness without making things worse for yourself in the long run. They're training wheels, and they teach you that you can get through a crisis without hurting yourself. You will refine them, even devise more productive coping mechanisms, later, as the urge to self-injure lessens and loses the hold it has on your life. Use these interim methods to demonstrate to yourself that you can cope with distress without permanently injuring your body. Every time you do you score another point and you make SI that much less likely next time you're in crisis. Your first task when you've decided to stop is to break the cycle, to force yourself to try new coping mechanisms. And you do have to force yourself to do this; it doesn't just come. You can't theorize about new coping techniques until one day they're all in place and your life is changed. Do something that creates a sharp physical sensation: Squeeze ice hard (this really hurts). (Note: putting ice on a spot you want to burn gives you a strong painful sensation and leaves a red mark afterward, kind of like burning would.) Put a finger into a frozen food (like ice cream) for a minute. Bite into a hot pepper or chew a piece of ginger root. Rub liniment under your nose. Slap a tabletop hard. Snap your wrist with a rubber band. Take a cold bath. Stomp your feet on the ground. Focus on how it feels to breathe. Notice the way your chest and stomach move with each breath. [NOTE: Some people report that being online while dissociating increases their sense of unreality; be cautious about logging on in a dissociative state until you know how it affects you.] wanting focus Do a task (a computer game like tetris or minesweeper, writing a computer program, needlework, etc) that is exacting and requires focus and concentration. Choose an object in the room. Examine it carefully and then write as detailed a description of it as you can. Include everything: size, weight, texture, shape, color, possible uses, feel, etc. Choose a random object, like a paper clip, and try to list 30 different uses for it. Pick a subject and research it on the web. Try some of the games and distractions at digibeet's page; she's assembled a lot of distractions. wanting to see blood Draw on yourself with a red felt-tip pen. Take a small bottle of liquid red food coloring and warm it slightly by dropping it into a cup of hot water for a few minutes. Uncap the bottle and press its tip against the place you want to cut. Draw the bottle in a cutting motion while squeezing it slightly to let the food color trickle out. Draw on the areas you want to cut using ice that you've made by dropping six or seven drops of red food color into each of the ice-cube tray wells. Paint yourself with red tempera paint. wanting to see scars or pick scabs Get a henna tattoo kit. You put the henna on as a paste and leave it overnight; the next day you can pick it off as you would a scab and it leaves an orange-red mark behind. This is all a good start on the road to self help to stop hurting yourself but of course always try and get proffesional help, therapy and medication are great ways to help you stop! Good Luck your going to need it!
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There are several different flat-out-crisis-in-the-moment strategies typically suggested. My favorite is doing anything that isn't SI and produces intense sensation: squeezing ice, taking a cold bath or hot or cold shower, biting into something strongly flavored (hot peppers, ginger root, unpeeled lemon/lime/grapefruit), rubbing Ben-Gay? or Icy-Hot? or Vap-O-Rub? under your nose, sex, etc. Matching reactions and feelings is extremely useful. These strategies work because the intense emotions that provoke SI are transient; they come and go like waves, and if you can stay upright through one, you get some breathing room before the next (and you strengthen your muscles). The more waves you tolerate without falling over, the stronger you become. But, the question arises, aren't these things equivalent to punishing yourself by cutting or burning or hitting or whatever.? The key difference is that they don't produce lasting results. If you squeeze a handful of ice until it melts or stick a couple of fingers into some ice cream for a few minutes, it'll hurt like (to quote someone I respect) "a cast-iron *****" but it won't leave scars. It won't leave anything you'll have to explain away later. You most likely won't feel guilty after -- a little foolish, maybe, and kinda proud that you weathered a crisis without SI, but not guilty. This kind of distraction isn't intended to cure the roots of your self-injury; you can't run a marathon when you're too tired to cross the room. These techniques serve, rather, to help you get through an intense moment of badness without making things worse for yourself in the long run. They're training wheels, and they teach you that you can get through a crisis without hurting yourself. You will refine them, even devise more productive coping mechanisms, later, as the urge to self-injure lessens and loses the hold it has on your life. Use these interim methods to demonstrate to yourself that you can cope with distress without permanently injuring your body. Every time you do you score another point and you make SI that much less likely next time you're in crisis. Your first task when you've decided to stop is to break the cycle, to force yourself to try new coping mechanisms. And you do have to force yourself to do this; it doesn't just come. You can't theorize about new coping techniques until one day they're all in place and your life is changed. Do something that creates a sharp physical sensation: Squeeze ice hard (this really hurts). (Note: putting ice on a spot you want to burn gives you a strong painful sensation and leaves a red mark afterward, kind of like burning would.) Put a finger into a frozen food (like ice cream) for a minute. Bite into a hot pepper or chew a piece of ginger root. Rub liniment under your nose. Slap a tabletop hard. Snap your wrist with a rubber band. Take a cold bath. Stomp your feet on the ground. Focus on how it feels to breathe. Notice the way your chest and stomach move with each breath. [NOTE: Some people report that being online while dissociating increases their sense of unreality; be cautious about logging on in a dissociative state until you know how it affects you.] wanting focus Do a task (a computer game like tetris or minesweeper, writing a computer program, needlework, etc) that is exacting and requires focus and concentration. Choose an object in the room. Examine it carefully and then write as detailed a description of it as you can. Include everything: size, weight, texture, shape, color, possible uses, feel, etc. Choose a random object, like a paper clip, and try to list 30 different uses for it. Pick a subject and research it on the web. Try some of the games and distractions at digibeet's page; she's assembled a lot of distractions. wanting to see blood Draw on yourself with a red felt-tip pen. Take a small bottle of liquid red food coloring and warm it slightly by dropping it into a cup of hot water for a few minutes. Uncap the bottle and press its tip against the place you want to cut. Draw the bottle in a cutting motion while squeezing it slightly to let the food color trickle out. Draw on the areas you want to cut using ice that you've made by dropping six or seven drops of red food color into each of the ice-cube tray wells. Paint yourself with red tempera paint. wanting to see scars or pick scabs Get a henna tattoo kit. You put the henna on as a paste and leave it overnight; the next day you can pick it off as you would a scab and it leaves an orange-red mark behind. This is all a good start on the road to self help to stop hurting yourself but of course always try and get proffesional help, therapy and medication are great ways to help you stop! Good Luck your going to need it!
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