I need counseling but my parents won't let me?!
Question: I need counseling but my parents won't let me.?
They always find something for me to do when I need to see her, I tell them about it and they always find something for me to do!! Its pissing me off a lot. I were meant to see her on tuseday before youthclub but mom wouldn't let me, meant to be seeing her today dad said theres no point in getting changed cause I'm not going anywhere. Its for cutting; I feel like I'm gonna relapse. Its not expensive.. help!!
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sometimes, it's hard for parents to admit to themselves that their children have a problem. sending you to a therapist probably seems really final for them, because in their eyes they probably feel like if you're seeing a therapist it makes it 100% sure that you have a problem. they probably feel like if they send you to a therapist, it means they failed as parents because it means they couldn't give you the help you needed, and they probably feel really guilty that they can't help you. that's probably why they aren't letting you go, because they don't want to face that 1) you have a problem and 2) they can't give you the help you need. and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. just talk to them and tell them you still need them just as much but you really feel like a therapist will help.
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Try talking to the school counselor when you are at school and maybe she can chat with your parents about letting you see your regular counselor on a consistent basis. Or you can try sitting your parents down and telling them the problems you are having and what you feel about not seeing her. Maybe your parents are in denial and don't want to face this but you need to let them know how important it is to you. Good Luck.Health Question & Answer
I've seen this in parents of kids I try and help before. The parents want to think "My kid is fine" and anything that doesn't fit in with that thought they avoid.
I have known cutters who must look like the victim of a SAW movie and the parents still don't "see" it.
All you can do it say to them straight out "I need this. I, your child, need help. You, as a parent, need to see that I get it. I'm not fine, I'm not happy, it's not just a phase."
If they STILL insist on living in some perfect dream world, email me. I'm pretty good at helping in email and IM for this stuff, and it's better than not having anyone at all to talk to.
But just tell them you need this. Don't yell, or fight, or whine, they'll just think you're "being a teenager." That never works.
Just talk to them.
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I have known cutters who must look like the victim of a SAW movie and the parents still don't "see" it.
All you can do it say to them straight out "I need this. I, your child, need help. You, as a parent, need to see that I get it. I'm not fine, I'm not happy, it's not just a phase."
If they STILL insist on living in some perfect dream world, email me. I'm pretty good at helping in email and IM for this stuff, and it's better than not having anyone at all to talk to.
But just tell them you need this. Don't yell, or fight, or whine, they'll just think you're "being a teenager." That never works.
Just talk to them.
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I am so sorry to hear about your problem. Can you talk to the guidance counselor at your school.? If you think you need to talk to someone they should be able to help you and everything is confidential. If you think you might have a relapse then talk to your parents and tell them that. Please keep trying to reach out to someone. Good luck and I will pray for you.Health Question & Answer
Is there any way that you can phone your therapist and get her help in solving the problem.?
I don't mean to make fun of your situation, but it does remind me of graffiti from the Sixties: "Support mental health or I'll kill you."
I would advise you to not use that line in your current situation because somebody may take it seriously.Health Question & Answer
I don't mean to make fun of your situation, but it does remind me of graffiti from the Sixties: "Support mental health or I'll kill you."
I would advise you to not use that line in your current situation because somebody may take it seriously.Health Question & Answer
Go to the school counselor, or have a friend drive you to your appointments. If I was about 17 and need therapy, I'd get a part-time job and pay for the appointments myself. You need it, and your parents are so in denial. Do whatever it takes.Health Question & Answer
Sit them down and simply as them why there doing this. This should make them answer straight away, and if your not happy with the answer they give then sneak out somehow. Say your going to your friends. In the end it's helping you and what you want. Do it.Health Question & Answer
go without them knowing.? say your going to a friends place or to study, or confront a friend about it and ask their mother to drop you an take ur friend along for support. your parents dont have to knowHealth Question & Answer
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You right a note to her and get involved in the help with your parents.
It is them with the problem and or you still see her. You need something and your seeking it. You find a way to get it from someone by her helping you to another if possible to a free counselor. If it takes the principle to help you get it. The denial of is their problem and you have the desire and the wisdom to know better.
Sweetheart, there is people that can help you . You doing a positive thing over any neg is helping you. It is things and moments like these that drive teens to drugs and street friends and they just keep going.
Everyone on accasion needs a person and or counselor to talk to I do not care who. Every single person has to walk down the paths of life and every single path has rocks and bridges to cross.
Acceptance is the hardest rock of all and the most important.
You be the stronger and wiser. Your already know what you need to do for your here asking this question. Continue. You keep your positive attitude and see you person. Stay with all that surrounds you in a positive way. Keep your anger in check, and when you feel it just churning in you, you turn into a wise thing.
Hey, they next time your denied a counseling service maybe mention this one is for the both of ya somehow. Either way your part is going and you could be my partner and go and or just watch me continue to better myself as an adult. Take a turn in your nature for the better person sometimes with consistensy people turn like training a small child. Sometimes you have to say no touch! 50 times and the 51st time they stop touching, sometimes it is only 3 or 4. Sometimes one good total explanation of the why, the who and the grief behind in a good natured way and calm it only takes once. Take the approach .?
Better yourself dear, the life and destiny you control to being healthy is truly up to you dear. You may write me too if it matters. Good Luck.
See your good friend. Hey, have a Great Day, ok.Health Question & Answer
It is them with the problem and or you still see her. You need something and your seeking it. You find a way to get it from someone by her helping you to another if possible to a free counselor. If it takes the principle to help you get it. The denial of is their problem and you have the desire and the wisdom to know better.
Sweetheart, there is people that can help you . You doing a positive thing over any neg is helping you. It is things and moments like these that drive teens to drugs and street friends and they just keep going.
Everyone on accasion needs a person and or counselor to talk to I do not care who. Every single person has to walk down the paths of life and every single path has rocks and bridges to cross.
Acceptance is the hardest rock of all and the most important.
You be the stronger and wiser. Your already know what you need to do for your here asking this question. Continue. You keep your positive attitude and see you person. Stay with all that surrounds you in a positive way. Keep your anger in check, and when you feel it just churning in you, you turn into a wise thing.
Hey, they next time your denied a counseling service maybe mention this one is for the both of ya somehow. Either way your part is going and you could be my partner and go and or just watch me continue to better myself as an adult. Take a turn in your nature for the better person sometimes with consistensy people turn like training a small child. Sometimes you have to say no touch! 50 times and the 51st time they stop touching, sometimes it is only 3 or 4. Sometimes one good total explanation of the why, the who and the grief behind in a good natured way and calm it only takes once. Take the approach .?
Better yourself dear, the life and destiny you control to being healthy is truly up to you dear. You may write me too if it matters. Good Luck.
See your good friend. Hey, have a Great Day, ok.Health Question & Answer