Negative Self-Talk: How do you stop it?!?!


Question: Negative Self-Talk: How do you stop it.?!.?
When I feel sad or insecure or disappointed, I tell myself that my exboyfriends do not love me because I am unlovable. Its repetitive and constant. How do I stop negative self talk.? What do you tell yourself to keep your confidence up.?Health Question & Answer


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Everyones own mind work in its own weird way. About the only advice I could really offer a complete stranger on such a seemingly self-oriented question is simply this. Learn to identify the triggers that begin those chain of emotions & feelings. Targeting those triggers, is the key for a lot of people for getting out of that depression/rut/the blues. Just know what gets ya going, negative or otherwise and attempt to divert yourself to other thoughts, activities or environments to help ease yourself out of that Negative zone. Once you can do this daily, it will go far to help keeping your sanity levels in check. At least for some... obviously no one answer can be the solution for everyone, but there ya go. Hope that helps.Health Question & Answer

Your brain has fallen into a conditioned pattern of thinking. This means that whenever you feel a certain way, your brain has developed the automatic response of negative thoughts. It's kind of like how rats can be trained to go through a maze when they hear a bell.

What you need to do is change the subject. Your brain will automatically fill the void left by "not thinking" about anything with another thought, usually the one you just tried to stop thinking. So you need to REPLACE that thought with something else, preferably something that makes you feel better, or at least doesn't make you feel bad.

This takes a great deal of self monitoring and some measure of discipline, and it will take time but it CAN be done. Just be patient with yourself and keep at it. Every time you catch yourself having negative fantasies or telling yourself bad things, Immediately say "No", and follow that up with something positive. Repeat that positive thing until it seems to have taken root and goes into more positive trains of thought. If you catch yourself reverting (which you will, to start), do it again. Keep changing the subject until you find you are no longer having a problem with negative thoughts of this kind.Health Question & Answer

As Leo Tolstoy would say:
Happiness does not depend on outward things, but the way we see them.

Your negativity is the one making you feel sad, insecure or disappointed. Please know that you are lovable. That you are beautiful, a wonderful woman, a loving human being. Instead of blaming yourself, making yourself miserable by your repetitive and constant
harping of your being unlovable, why not reverse your way of thinking and change your attitude to that of a very POSITIVE and LOVING human being.? You can do it! You are not alone in your predicament, and many people solved their own problem by simply changing their ATTITUDE and the WAY THEY FEEL TOWARDS THEMSELVES.

There is an old Hawaiian technique of healing yourself and could be summarized in 4 basic steps:
1. LOVING YOURSELF
2. APOLOGIZING TO YOURSELF
3. FORGIVING YOURSELF
4. THANKING YOURSELF

That's it! By creating a mantra of saying those 4 things pretty much as often as you can day after day and week after week, you will quickly come to the realization that by Loving yourself, by Apologizing to yourself when you have done something wrong, by Forgiving yourself for that wrong-doing, and by Thanking yourself for the opportunity to create Good, as well as to stop creating Bad, that you can create your life to be "right".

So, stop sulking. Say to yourself: "I love you", "I am sorry", "Please forgive me", and "Thank you" as often as you can, then by self-osmosis you will be cured of your negative thoughts and instead think of positive, loving thoughts for yourself and you could face the world positively and with full hope and vigor. God bless you.

Good luck to you.





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I had that issue in high school. When I was not in a pattern of negative thoughts, I wrote out on a little piece of paper some motivation and bits of truth. eg.
"Penny, you are a lovable person. You know you are because you have a lot of friends that enjoy spending time with you. Not only are you lovable but you are a good..."

When the negative thoughts started I pulled out the paper and read it. Keep it short and provide the support you are going to need to believe it. I can't tell you how much that little piece of paper that i still have tucked away in a memory box made in my life and my self-confidence. If I start negative self talk now, i say out lout to myself, "Stop it"

You can do it!!Health Question & Answer

love your self,before u ask others to love you and if u have a negative attitude then u will definitely act abnormal ,strange or have a "whatever" attitude.....these thing will scare your boyfriend away....its a lot better that the guys left you now rather than leaving you after having a kid with them.......Health Question & Answer

i have this F everybody mentality. I do what makes me happy. i don't worry about anyone else or freak myself out when i hear that someone is talking badly about me. i don't have time for that.
do what makes you happy and try to keep a smile on your face. Health Question & Answer

vice verse I don't love my ex because he is unlovable.etc etcHealth Question & Answer



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