Why won't doctors leave me and baby alone?!
Question: Why won't doctors leave me and baby alone.?
Had problems at uni - was a bit depressed etc, sleep problems, diagnosed bipolar (wrongly, i believe), lots of sex, too much alcohol (but no more than most students)... etc etc
Anyway this was over 5 years ago. I never took any medication for it but had to see a doctor every fortnight as otherwise the uni would have thrown me out! I didn't work v hard you see.
Since then have had no mental probs at all. have also managed to bring up a beautiful son alone, in a enw town, and create a very happy life for us both, am also taking care of myself and keeping the house in order! (thanks flylady)
However, since the moment i was pregnant, have had social worker after social worker practically banging on my door, telling me i need them. i had the midwives at the hospital, in the middle of my labour, reading my notes and saying i would definitely get post natal depression. i have been forced to have extra visits from heath visitors - they stil are wanting to see me now and baby is nearly 2...
the latest harrassment is my doctor sending me letters every 6 months - automated ones.?- telling me "it has been some time sicne we reviewed your treatment and medication, so we've made you an appointment at such and such time". i have explained to ehr how i feel and it is still happening. she even phoned me in the middle of teatime to ask some "standard questions we ask to all mental patients" eg what would you do with the baby if you were sectioned". i am not joking
please bear in mind, i have never taken meds of any sort, i have never been sectioned, i have seen a psychiatrist all of 3 times and all she did was try and make me take medication! - and all this was five years ago. i am really happy and don't believe i have any sort of mental illness. in fact they are almost making me unhappy with this constant harrassment.
is this standard ofhave i just been unlucky.? i feel they think of me as some sort of mad person who can't be trusted to look after a baby. this is so far from the truth it is unreal, and it hurts me to be honest, and i have started having nightmares that they God forbid take my son away.
I don't see their problem.Health Question & Answer
Anyway this was over 5 years ago. I never took any medication for it but had to see a doctor every fortnight as otherwise the uni would have thrown me out! I didn't work v hard you see.
Since then have had no mental probs at all. have also managed to bring up a beautiful son alone, in a enw town, and create a very happy life for us both, am also taking care of myself and keeping the house in order! (thanks flylady)
However, since the moment i was pregnant, have had social worker after social worker practically banging on my door, telling me i need them. i had the midwives at the hospital, in the middle of my labour, reading my notes and saying i would definitely get post natal depression. i have been forced to have extra visits from heath visitors - they stil are wanting to see me now and baby is nearly 2...
the latest harrassment is my doctor sending me letters every 6 months - automated ones.?- telling me "it has been some time sicne we reviewed your treatment and medication, so we've made you an appointment at such and such time". i have explained to ehr how i feel and it is still happening. she even phoned me in the middle of teatime to ask some "standard questions we ask to all mental patients" eg what would you do with the baby if you were sectioned". i am not joking
please bear in mind, i have never taken meds of any sort, i have never been sectioned, i have seen a psychiatrist all of 3 times and all she did was try and make me take medication! - and all this was five years ago. i am really happy and don't believe i have any sort of mental illness. in fact they are almost making me unhappy with this constant harrassment.
is this standard ofhave i just been unlucky.? i feel they think of me as some sort of mad person who can't be trusted to look after a baby. this is so far from the truth it is unreal, and it hurts me to be honest, and i have started having nightmares that they God forbid take my son away.
I don't see their problem.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
This is absolutely awful, i feel so sorry for you. What a terrible thing to have hanging over your head. Don't worry they have absolutely no reason to take your child away from you. He is obviously thriving in the environment he's in and you have done a fantastic job.
It sickens me that they will prey on people who are perfectly fine, yet they'll leave alone the people who beat and abuse their kids, we have to read about it in the paper.
Just keep doing what you are doing. Can i suggest that you talk to your doctor about how you feel. I know you are worried about saying the wrong thing but if you say what you have written here then ask him to explain himself, why are they ringing you and why do you have to have social workers around all the time!!
I really hope that you get this sorted out and that this weight is lifted off of your shoulders, you don't deserve this!! Good luck to you!! xxHealth Question & Answer
It sickens me that they will prey on people who are perfectly fine, yet they'll leave alone the people who beat and abuse their kids, we have to read about it in the paper.
Just keep doing what you are doing. Can i suggest that you talk to your doctor about how you feel. I know you are worried about saying the wrong thing but if you say what you have written here then ask him to explain himself, why are they ringing you and why do you have to have social workers around all the time!!
I really hope that you get this sorted out and that this weight is lifted off of your shoulders, you don't deserve this!! Good luck to you!! xxHealth Question & Answer
Be very careful what you say to social services, they appear to be a law unto themselves! I think you should get yourself a solicitor, quickly. Health Question & Answer
They think you have an unstable mental state are worried about what you could do to yourself or your child if you believe you have been misdaignosed have them re asses youHealth Question & Answer
Tell them to get on their bikes, its your life and im sure after raising a child you know how to go to the doctors on your own. Health Question & Answer
Beast thing to do is co-operate
dont get angry or defensive
work with them and they will see your a great mother.Health Question & Answer
dont get angry or defensive
work with them and they will see your a great mother.Health Question & Answer
There must be some reason that they r calling.?
Just make sure you r doin everythin correctly.Health Question & Answer
Just make sure you r doin everythin correctly.Health Question & Answer
Why don't you move away under a new identity.? No return address.?Health Question & Answer
im sure after 2year you PND would have shown up......
i would get incontact with the head of the doctors surgery and say you want to make an offical complaint of harrassment!
as you have NO pervious on "severe" continual depression with no meds being taken for it ever and nO relapse in 5yrs they should leave you alone...... however i would have expeceted more in the beginning when you were prone to postnatal depression.
tell them they are destressing you by keep sending you these letters and the phonecalls and if they bothered to check their records you ARE FINE.....
also remember they cant just take your child they have to "prove" you or the baby are in extreme danger..... they ALWAYS dispite how they sound, try to keep mum and baby together...... so rest assured your doing a great job!Health Question & Answer
i would get incontact with the head of the doctors surgery and say you want to make an offical complaint of harrassment!
as you have NO pervious on "severe" continual depression with no meds being taken for it ever and nO relapse in 5yrs they should leave you alone...... however i would have expeceted more in the beginning when you were prone to postnatal depression.
tell them they are destressing you by keep sending you these letters and the phonecalls and if they bothered to check their records you ARE FINE.....
also remember they cant just take your child they have to "prove" you or the baby are in extreme danger..... they ALWAYS dispite how they sound, try to keep mum and baby together...... so rest assured your doing a great job!Health Question & Answer
the wanted me to have social services monitoring because i was a teen mum with an history of self harming and suicidal tendencies. thankfully my mum told them where to shove it lol. i believe (has i have heard from adoptive parents) the adoption services and their employees have a 'Quota' and Monitor the most likely to abuse children (by their guidelines) to meet these 'quotas'. unfortunately severe depression is one of those cases even if it isn't your natureHealth Question & Answer
Personally I'd tell them to get off your back. Have they tried to raise a child on their own.?.. Probabaly not. Tell them to go find someone else to harrass and to leave you alone. If you and your child are fine then there should be NO reason at all why they are continually harrassing you.Health Question & Answer
Hi,
God, you're situation sounds awful and I can understand why you're scared. I know in some cases children are automatically put on the "at risk" register if a parent has severe mental health problems. This is when the person has proven, recorded evidence to suggest that they may have problems looking after a child like having been sectioned.
I dont think its acceptable the way you're dr phoned you. I would advise you to speak to somebody from your local Mind or Rethink service and seek their advice on the situation. You can see if they work in your area on their websites. They'll be able to provide accurate information for you, will be non-judgemental and be able to support you and act on your behalf/with you to sort this situation out.
Good luck.Health Question & Answer
God, you're situation sounds awful and I can understand why you're scared. I know in some cases children are automatically put on the "at risk" register if a parent has severe mental health problems. This is when the person has proven, recorded evidence to suggest that they may have problems looking after a child like having been sectioned.
I dont think its acceptable the way you're dr phoned you. I would advise you to speak to somebody from your local Mind or Rethink service and seek their advice on the situation. You can see if they work in your area on their websites. They'll be able to provide accurate information for you, will be non-judgemental and be able to support you and act on your behalf/with you to sort this situation out.
Good luck.Health Question & Answer
If what you're saying is correct, you should contact a solicitor who can write to the relevent agencies warning them off and threatening court action - harassment for starters. That should do the trick.
The other answer is to just move without any forwarding details and then change your last name - it will take years for the system to catch up. ... if it ever does.Health Question & Answer
The other answer is to just move without any forwarding details and then change your last name - it will take years for the system to catch up. ... if it ever does.Health Question & Answer