Is this a condition/disorder or something?!


Question: Is this a condition/disorder or something.?
Here it is. Im 20 now, single and happy, BUT ive noticed that many times in life when ive liked a guy, ive kinda gotten over him if he liked me back too much or immediately, which is weird...come to think of it.

When I was 15 there was this guy in my class. I had a huge crush on him. We became friends 1 month after the crush and turned out he liked me too...well pretty much the moment I found that out...I liked him less..didnt realize it immediately, but looking back I can tell. We just grew apart cuz I just wasnt interested in him anymore after a while so ignored him and then that was it.

I was with a guy for about 3 months when I was 18 and I really liked him...a lot, until he became wayyyy to serious about us, told me he loved me and it got to be too much, I couldnt stand him after that, wasnt in love with him. It ended there.

Few months ago I met a guy at a friends party, as soon as I saw him I was like...wow..he's CUTE!! By the end of the night we'd been talking for hours...he seemed to be into me...and he was showing it too...but I was put off by that quite bit...he asked me out like a day later but I totally refused...he seemed obsessed with me in like a day..and that creeped me out a bit.

Now, there is this guy Im friends with and I am TOTALLY into him, he has a gf tho and he's not into me and I dont wanna mess things up for him and his gf, lately we've been spending a lot of time together and Im wondering to myself If i get him will I even want him anymore.?.?Health Question & Answer


Answers:
Maybe you are the one that needs to be wanted and in your own mind you dont want to be with people that want to be wanted
I dont think that it is a condition or disorder it is how we work as Human Beings
Whatever you do dont get involved with someone who is with someone else you dont want to get a reputation
Good Luck in whatever you do xHealth Question & Answer

For some reason you are sabotaging your relationships. I used to do the same thing. Turns out lack of self esteem stemming from the negative parental experiences played a major role. Running from relationships is a lot easier than committing to one. You learned this behavior from somewhere. There's definitely a pattern that has emerged.

Your latest one that has a gf is really not available, therefore it's easy for you...no sabatoging or running.

I hope you figure out what's the reason for your problem. It took me 40 years, I hope you find out soon instead of wasting a lifetime "looking for love in all wrong places".

Good luck!Health Question & Answer



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