Okay, I need so advice ... on how I can change how I act.?!
Question: Okay, I need so advice ... on how I can change how I act..?
Okay, so I have anger issues. I know it's not the most unusual thing but I'm 12 and my mom says I'm not the kindest person. I can't control myself sometimes. When people make me mad I usually scream at them. Kind of harsh, I know. But I don't want to it's just happens. My mom says that I'm wrong but my sister also has anger issues. Shes bi-polar and takes medication because she also can't control herself. I really wanna change, but it's hard. Anyone have any clue or any suggestions.?.?.?.?.?.? Help really needed!!!!Health Question & Answer
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Well as far as tips, take a few breaths and think about what others think about before your own. Generally if you try to understand why something or someone is doing what it does and that its not as malicious as you may have first though you can calm down. Would you get pissed if a person broke your arm trying to save your life or if this person had to break it to save his family from death.? Crazy situations I know but I am too lazy to think of a normal scenario. Still its also possibly physically part of you of course and you can get checked out if you think your bipolar. Stil either way you are going to have to change the whole way you interpret and think about things. Goodluck lolHealth Question & Answer
I honestly think it's part of starting teenage changes, but it's good that you see this is a problem. What you can do is think it through, before you talk. When someone makes you mad, clench everything- just hold it in. And during that time, think-
1. About what they said.
2. About what they meant. Why did they say that.?
3. Was it necessary.?
4. What do you think about what they said.?
Those steps take less time to think through than it seems. Then, you can decide how to react. And it's usually easier when you think about it. A stress ball is a good idea too. And tea has stress healing powers. Maybe you can have a little every morning.? I kind of have a similar problem. I don't like getting mad either. I've had this problem for about two years I guess, teenage stuff. But I'm a deep thinker. So I can kind of ground myself. Try that.? And the tea too =)Health Question & Answer
1. About what they said.
2. About what they meant. Why did they say that.?
3. Was it necessary.?
4. What do you think about what they said.?
Those steps take less time to think through than it seems. Then, you can decide how to react. And it's usually easier when you think about it. A stress ball is a good idea too. And tea has stress healing powers. Maybe you can have a little every morning.? I kind of have a similar problem. I don't like getting mad either. I've had this problem for about two years I guess, teenage stuff. But I'm a deep thinker. So I can kind of ground myself. Try that.? And the tea too =)Health Question & Answer
first dont be ashamed if you need meds too. that is just life and is more common than you know. also say you are leaving the house to go to the store, remind yourself constantly you will be nice. if there is an idiot sales person, bite your tongue. be aware at all times how you are acting. get relaxation time for yourself and exercise. i like to walk and listen to self help cd's. i know corny but it works. you and only you control your life, remember people treat you the way you treat them, and you act the way you choose, nobody makes you yell. good luck. you can do it. Health Question & Answer
Self discipline. At the beginning of each day, tell yourself what you won't do. At the end of each day, ask yourself if you did it anyway.
Any time you snap on someone, apologize immediately. Every time. Give then an opportunity to say how you made them feel. Track down people who have been victims of particularly big explosions and do the same with them.
If you catch yourself thinking about yourself, stop. Try not to go into your own head. Other people you meet, think about what they want, what their conceptions and misconceptions are.
You have no right to ever attack anyone. Even if someone attacks you, defend yourself out of rationality. Turn the other cheek.
Bipolar is familial. I'd get checked out.
Oh, and try shooting. Something about all that loud noise that just shakes all the worries loose.Health Question & Answer
Any time you snap on someone, apologize immediately. Every time. Give then an opportunity to say how you made them feel. Track down people who have been victims of particularly big explosions and do the same with them.
If you catch yourself thinking about yourself, stop. Try not to go into your own head. Other people you meet, think about what they want, what their conceptions and misconceptions are.
You have no right to ever attack anyone. Even if someone attacks you, defend yourself out of rationality. Turn the other cheek.
Bipolar is familial. I'd get checked out.
Oh, and try shooting. Something about all that loud noise that just shakes all the worries loose.Health Question & Answer
For all your life how you act has been caused by what is happening to you . LAter on the sum total of the past gets into play some get a special power over you. In retraining you get more things happening but much of it comes from words and that uses the higher level of the brain. Creating beliefs and concepts. Cognitive training Is gonna help but that's what friends are for SO pick the friends to train you.Health Question & Answer
WAY TO GO ---- a few actually got it here--- Wrecking (sorry if I spelled anyone's name incorrectly in advance), BUT I was rooting for Short_ etc UNTIL-- they got to the shooting part.OMG!!
WOOOOWEEE ---- sure tell a possible angry bi-polar to go shooting.
Okay, lets get past that.....
For the most --- read the Wrecking, Most of Short a few other blogs that run along those lines hon.
U need to re-wire the way u react to situations.
Good luck.
IF u can't get someone to listen at home -- try school. Guidance counselor, Nurse.?.?Health Question & Answer
WOOOOWEEE ---- sure tell a possible angry bi-polar to go shooting.
Okay, lets get past that.....
For the most --- read the Wrecking, Most of Short a few other blogs that run along those lines hon.
U need to re-wire the way u react to situations.
Good luck.
IF u can't get someone to listen at home -- try school. Guidance counselor, Nurse.?.?Health Question & Answer
try geting a stressball. if you cant find one in a shop get a baloon and fill it with flower. or buy a punchbag to take out all your spare energy. take the stressball around with you and whenever you want to snap and sombody sqeez the stressball and close your eyes and count to ten. i also suffer from anger problems and thes have realy helped me.Health Question & Answer
that is exactly how i am get over it ur special even if it sounds wierdHealth Question & Answer