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My life was not very different when I was 17. Actually w/o the alcoholism part that was me, oh and I was never an A student so did not really care about grades. I can only tell you what I did. When I graduated went to a crappy college far enough away so I did not have to live at home then, when I turned 19 I got a job as a flight attendant half way across the country. I felt bad for my dad but, 10 years later both of my parents are happy and so am I. You can not control the selfishness that the adults in your life have given you. And as crazy as it sounds the best thing for you to do is think of yourself. I genuinely feel bad for you and can only tell you that things wil get better. Edit: Sorry I can not stop thinking about this question and the situation you are in, I know we are different people but, we have/had a similiar situation. I had so much guilt and anger I carried around I do not want you to be like that. It was hard for me to trust anyone, it was hard to love my mother so much and be so mad at her, it was hard to see my strong father be sad, I just ran away, I am married now and happy but, made a lot of stupid mistakes in the mean time. I don't want you to do those things, I have never given my email to someone on the computer but it if you want it, let me know. I really hope you do talk to someone that helps you sort out these emotions because even though I can't complain, I know the fact I never talked about it or admitted to myself how sad I was, somehow I know I carry it and that it did hurt me.Health Question & Answer
I'm so sorry you are going through all this. You will probably need to get into some kind of counseling at some point so you can really sit down and talk to someone. You are really living a stressful life.
The thing that really impresses me though, is that you recognize that you are under stress and you are reaching out for help in any way you can. That's really a huge step to make sure you get through all this and have a happy adult life.
It seems like you have a good grip on things and from what you wrote i think you will be ok. Try to look at this as a chance to learn how "not" to have a relationship. Recogize the things that are wrong between you adn your parents and don't repeat it.
Do you have to work right now.? You should talk to your emplyer and be honest. Say-Hey look I'm going through a lot right now, is there anyway we can work out some les stressful hours.?
You also need to really sit both of your parents down and tell them that they are bringing their adult problems into your life and it's really having a negative influence on you. They are human. things happen like this. It's possible they just don't know how much all this is upsetting you. They love you. but adults are not perfect and sopmetimes they need reminding, just like very young children, that the way they act is innappropriate and they need to keep it bnetween themselves if they want you to get through all this in the best way possible.
The most important thing-you took the first step. That was writing down how you feel right here. The next step is to one by one, get everybody else in line.
I really wish you the best. I also believe that you are one smart cookie and you will figure out a way to get rid of some of this stress, if not all of it. Get assertive! OK.?
Best wishes,
SarahJane
P,S, Sorry about the typos but i wanted to get this to you asap!!!!Health Question & Answer
The thing that really impresses me though, is that you recognize that you are under stress and you are reaching out for help in any way you can. That's really a huge step to make sure you get through all this and have a happy adult life.
It seems like you have a good grip on things and from what you wrote i think you will be ok. Try to look at this as a chance to learn how "not" to have a relationship. Recogize the things that are wrong between you adn your parents and don't repeat it.
Do you have to work right now.? You should talk to your emplyer and be honest. Say-Hey look I'm going through a lot right now, is there anyway we can work out some les stressful hours.?
You also need to really sit both of your parents down and tell them that they are bringing their adult problems into your life and it's really having a negative influence on you. They are human. things happen like this. It's possible they just don't know how much all this is upsetting you. They love you. but adults are not perfect and sopmetimes they need reminding, just like very young children, that the way they act is innappropriate and they need to keep it bnetween themselves if they want you to get through all this in the best way possible.
The most important thing-you took the first step. That was writing down how you feel right here. The next step is to one by one, get everybody else in line.
I really wish you the best. I also believe that you are one smart cookie and you will figure out a way to get rid of some of this stress, if not all of it. Get assertive! OK.?
Best wishes,
SarahJane
P,S, Sorry about the typos but i wanted to get this to you asap!!!!Health Question & Answer