Sometimes i don't see the point anymore?!
Question: Sometimes i don't see the point anymore.?
I am 24 and have been seeing the mental health team for nearly a year. I find it very hard to trust people and build a healthy relationship even though i crave to have that kind of relationship as i am not close and have never been close to my parents. I dream of someone just to show me support in the things i want to do and encourage me but because of my past i fear people will reject me if i get too close. I have been put down my whole life and because of that i have avoident personality disorder, anxiety and very low self esteem. I have built a relationship up with one of my nurses but i am too scared to trust her fully because i may get too much for her. I have told her my fears and she said she had no plans to leave me yet and will give me notice of when our meetings will stop but i still can't relax. I want to help myself but every time i become positive i remember the past and realise once i stop seeing her no one else will show me the support. Its not like i want attention but if you make a decision to do something 90% of the time i am sue you have family ready to help or are there if you need it, i don't and i never had and i want that. So my question is what can i do to help myself and how can i push the thoughts away.
Because of the social anxiety and personality disorder i do not leave the house and i have no friends so the only person i have is this nurse which is why i am so scared for her to leave me. I am taking it day by day pushing myself to do things that most people find simple but it all goes when i have one of my downers and it takes me days to get my motivation back. I want to live my life and meet/have friends but i can't get out of this, i have depression too, I am feeling really suicidal right now i just can't see how i will get better
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Because of the social anxiety and personality disorder i do not leave the house and i have no friends so the only person i have is this nurse which is why i am so scared for her to leave me. I am taking it day by day pushing myself to do things that most people find simple but it all goes when i have one of my downers and it takes me days to get my motivation back. I want to live my life and meet/have friends but i can't get out of this, i have depression too, I am feeling really suicidal right now i just can't see how i will get better
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hi there, are you recieving any sort of medication for your illness.?
I know where you are at the moment, and no its not pleasant but believe me when I say it gets better the more effoert you put in. I went thru a very similar experience not long ago and gave my current partner a hell of a time. I was lucky enough that she helped and know 100% that she contributed greatly to my recovery. I think that by what you say this nurse is a rock for you and thats great. if she says she has no plans to leave you then you need to trust her...remember its a symptom of your illness to feel the way you are, so together make it your first goal to trust this person. Then once you have achieved that set another goal..........like im going to get myself a new wardrobe and start feeling good about myself and just take it from there, haveing goals helped me alot and im now back at work, out and about and enjoying life, its been a long road but worth it. I know it sounds far away at the moment but time flies, you will look back in the future and understand that having had this illness you know what is important in life and that it is worth enjoyin every minute.
Yeh I still gets bouts of depression which can be quite bad but you learn the warning signs. and still get feelings of worthlessness but I look back and see how far Ive came and it does fair cheer you up.
Talk to your FRIEND and ask if maybe changin medication would help, it took me 5 attempts to find the correct medication.
dont take sleeping aids they make it worse in my opinion try havin a lavender bath at bed time and some hot milk. I like to blether that helps me.
anyway I would like to wish all the very best and hope that you beat your illness, im sure you will, as you have takin the first steps ....askin for help! its the biggest stepo on the road to recovery
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I know where you are at the moment, and no its not pleasant but believe me when I say it gets better the more effoert you put in. I went thru a very similar experience not long ago and gave my current partner a hell of a time. I was lucky enough that she helped and know 100% that she contributed greatly to my recovery. I think that by what you say this nurse is a rock for you and thats great. if she says she has no plans to leave you then you need to trust her...remember its a symptom of your illness to feel the way you are, so together make it your first goal to trust this person. Then once you have achieved that set another goal..........like im going to get myself a new wardrobe and start feeling good about myself and just take it from there, haveing goals helped me alot and im now back at work, out and about and enjoying life, its been a long road but worth it. I know it sounds far away at the moment but time flies, you will look back in the future and understand that having had this illness you know what is important in life and that it is worth enjoyin every minute.
Yeh I still gets bouts of depression which can be quite bad but you learn the warning signs. and still get feelings of worthlessness but I look back and see how far Ive came and it does fair cheer you up.
Talk to your FRIEND and ask if maybe changin medication would help, it took me 5 attempts to find the correct medication.
dont take sleeping aids they make it worse in my opinion try havin a lavender bath at bed time and some hot milk. I like to blether that helps me.
anyway I would like to wish all the very best and hope that you beat your illness, im sure you will, as you have takin the first steps ....askin for help! its the biggest stepo on the road to recovery
good luck and god blessHealth Question & Answer
i don't see a point in life every day is a drag please don't do anything silly i tryed to kill myself it didn't work and i hurt so many people. xxHealth Question & Answer
my heart goes out to you, and i hope you get the answers you are looking for.
I cant imagine what you are going through, but i hope you get stronger soonHealth Question & Answer
I cant imagine what you are going through, but i hope you get stronger soonHealth Question & Answer
I don't have any answers for you, but I'm just empathizing with you. I have experienced loneliness before and it doesn't feel good. Health Question & Answer
Its hard for anyone to give you advice as your question is really for professionals I hope that you continue to have the courage and strength to have hope, and well done for recognising your needs and not being in denial that takes a lots of guts if you ask me...... in London there are a lot of UCKG churches that may help you to feel good about yourself and make some friends to build your self esteem but always try to stay in control of who you are, sorry toe hear of your family not supporting you.
unfortunately a lot of people struggle with this, try to stay positive and build a good life that makes you happy.
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unfortunately a lot of people struggle with this, try to stay positive and build a good life that makes you happy.
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I can't answer you as a person who can give you the right answers to your questions. I don't have the qualifications, and I really don't want to say the wrong thing.
But I do want to let you know that I read your question, and it saddened me to know that you are in such pain. I wish I could help. By the way, many of us don't have supportive families. It seems to me as though you are trapped by fear.
Soon it is Christmas, and after that, the spring. There will be daffodils blooming, and snowdrops.
This is something you can be sure of. That when all is dark and gloomy, around the corner there is light, and colour and scent.
I hope you find that in your life, too.
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But I do want to let you know that I read your question, and it saddened me to know that you are in such pain. I wish I could help. By the way, many of us don't have supportive families. It seems to me as though you are trapped by fear.
Soon it is Christmas, and after that, the spring. There will be daffodils blooming, and snowdrops.
This is something you can be sure of. That when all is dark and gloomy, around the corner there is light, and colour and scent.
I hope you find that in your life, too.
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Oh my, you need a guardian angel to look over you! The world is full of good people, you need to reach out and trust others. There are plenty of lonely, depressed people out there too, and we all have low moments, even if we are surrounded by loving family, thoughts like that can creep in to anyone at any time. You need the confidence to get out there, stop depending on one person if you can, be realistic, why not start by making friends in a chat room or something like that.? Every journey begins with the first step. Next time you are among people, give them a friendly smile and say hello, you have to start somewhere, you are only young and have your whole life ahead of you. Always remember you are not alone - your life is precious, you just need a little bit of help to get started. Good luck to you, and I would be happy to write to you now and then when you need someone to talk to! Life is good!Health Question & Answer
im in the same boat as you but with different illnesses, the only thing i can think of is to tell your nurse your in desperate need of therapy and would like to get on with therapy to help you get rid of these issues
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my experiences of anxiety are different to yours, however one thing that really helped me was to let myself believe that alot of people feel like there is not point in life sometimes and i'm not all that different from them. i saw people at face value, because i never let anybody into my life nobody ever let me into theirs and i mistakenly believed everyone else coped well with life and just got on with it no sweat. but as i became more honest about my fears anxieties and paranoia i found that people share these experiences and i felt more a part of humanity. people struggle every day and they get thru it by helping each other. no one really trusts anyone completely, but you can trust in bits. trust your nurse when she tells you she will let you know before she stops coming. she is being honest with you by telling you she wont be with you forever but she will not just walk out on you. trust that. by keeping people away you are stopping yourself frm being a part of the world you ache to belong to. believe me everybody worries who they can trust, it's natural.
i think having goals would help you, its gonna take alot of little steps and hard work on your part to be able to function in society if that is where you want to get to. and yeah its hard work at a time when you feel your lowest and have no motivation or energy to do it but you got support and there is no other way cause no one else can do it for you. start with little things, open your window and stand just feeling the breeze on your face and look out, but not with sorrow at being separate frm the world but with hope that you are taking steps to become a part of it again. then think about doing the same with your front door. i dont know i'm not a professional so talk these ideas over with your nurse if you feel you want to try them, but i know from my own experience i have to take small steps and be gentle and kind to myself to get thru anxieties and insecurities. i know i have written alot and i hope some of it helps even if its just to let you know that other people feel this way and you can get thru it if you let people help you.
but remember, you struggle to do things other people find easy, and you push yourself to do them even tho it sounds like it feels for you that you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, that shows how strong you are. even tho all your strength is being used up just to keep yourself away frm the edge and you might not feel you have much strength, you do. give yourself some credit for trying to find a way thru this instead or giving up, and keep looking there is a way thru its just different for everyone.
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i think having goals would help you, its gonna take alot of little steps and hard work on your part to be able to function in society if that is where you want to get to. and yeah its hard work at a time when you feel your lowest and have no motivation or energy to do it but you got support and there is no other way cause no one else can do it for you. start with little things, open your window and stand just feeling the breeze on your face and look out, but not with sorrow at being separate frm the world but with hope that you are taking steps to become a part of it again. then think about doing the same with your front door. i dont know i'm not a professional so talk these ideas over with your nurse if you feel you want to try them, but i know from my own experience i have to take small steps and be gentle and kind to myself to get thru anxieties and insecurities. i know i have written alot and i hope some of it helps even if its just to let you know that other people feel this way and you can get thru it if you let people help you.
but remember, you struggle to do things other people find easy, and you push yourself to do them even tho it sounds like it feels for you that you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, that shows how strong you are. even tho all your strength is being used up just to keep yourself away frm the edge and you might not feel you have much strength, you do. give yourself some credit for trying to find a way thru this instead or giving up, and keep looking there is a way thru its just different for everyone.
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