How can I get out of this depression?!
Question: How can I get out of this depression.?
Last night and today I've been depressed for almost no reason. I have been thinking a lot about how it seems I have no friends anymore, but I should really be focusing on the friends that I do have. And I've just been feeling so alone lately because of this and I just don't know. But I really don't think any of this is something that I need to be depressed over because its not really that big of deal because I do have friends.
I've also been struggling with the issue of how to not be shy anymore. People keep saying that I have to stop caring what people think and the thing is I don't care what people think, but than i've been wondering if maybe subconsciously I do care what people think. But its just been frustrating because i don't want to be shy and I have no idea how to break this shyness habit.
So yea, just been thinking about those yesterday night and this morning and I've just been depressed but I don't want to be depressed anymore, i feel I have no good reason to be depressed. How do i get stop thinking about these things and stop being depressed.?
Btw I use to see a therapist but because of insurance I can no longer see her until we hear back from the insurance company. Health Question & Answer
I've also been struggling with the issue of how to not be shy anymore. People keep saying that I have to stop caring what people think and the thing is I don't care what people think, but than i've been wondering if maybe subconsciously I do care what people think. But its just been frustrating because i don't want to be shy and I have no idea how to break this shyness habit.
So yea, just been thinking about those yesterday night and this morning and I've just been depressed but I don't want to be depressed anymore, i feel I have no good reason to be depressed. How do i get stop thinking about these things and stop being depressed.?
Btw I use to see a therapist but because of insurance I can no longer see her until we hear back from the insurance company. Health Question & Answer
Answers:
View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior. (I PRETEND that I'm an ACTOR, PLAYING a PART).
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave.
People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.
Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.
Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes". Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in the above techniques. Depression is addressed in section 2, at ezy build; see page R first; then young women's depression, page V, teen depression, and eventually the rest.Health Question & Answer
Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave.
People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".
Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.
Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.
Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes". Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in the above techniques. Depression is addressed in section 2, at ezy build; see page R first; then young women's depression, page V, teen depression, and eventually the rest.Health Question & Answer
Exercise hard everyday, it decreases depression.
Try getting yourself a dog or cat, pets make a person feel better.
Talk to your friends about how you feel.
Being shy is not a crime. It's totally okay. I'm sure you'll get over it with time, and even if you don't, its fine.Shy people are cute.
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Try getting yourself a dog or cat, pets make a person feel better.
Talk to your friends about how you feel.
Being shy is not a crime. It's totally okay. I'm sure you'll get over it with time, and even if you don't, its fine.Shy people are cute.
:)Health Question & Answer
Sometimes depression can cause you to withdraw and that can make you seem shyer(spelling) than you really are. Its tough to interact when you arent feeling well. I dont know where you live but the recent Time Change can really affect the mood with the sun seemingly going down an hour earlier. Try and get in touch with your insurance company. A therapist is a good starting point towards getting better and having someone as a sounding board. Your friends might not understand how you feel or really even know whats up. Maybe its time to add a few new ones. I find the best way is trying a new activity that just gets ya pumped where you want to share it with everyone. I hope you feel better soon. I understand what it feels like being alone. Hang in there it does and will get better!Health Question & Answer
The way to get over stuff like that,is to force yourself to doing something out of your comfort zone.
I was in a very depressed state for almost 7 weeks and it was pure hell. I knew that there was no way to get out of it unless I told someone who would help me.
6 weeks ,and 7 doctor's appointments later,I'm on the road to recovery and can actually smile again.
Whatever the case,don't give up. Do the things you want to and cherish the friends you do have..because those are the ones that will always be there for you.
Good luckHealth Question & Answer
I was in a very depressed state for almost 7 weeks and it was pure hell. I knew that there was no way to get out of it unless I told someone who would help me.
6 weeks ,and 7 doctor's appointments later,I'm on the road to recovery and can actually smile again.
Whatever the case,don't give up. Do the things you want to and cherish the friends you do have..because those are the ones that will always be there for you.
Good luckHealth Question & Answer
Jalana! us women worry over so much stuff!! and on top of all that, we have hormones to deal with. gosh, if you are going through pms....all this will clear and pass over! If it's just you thinking so heavy, you have to really focus on positive things about yourself and fight those thoughts. You're a lovely girl with a nice smile! You have to do things for you and really get tired of worrying what people thing about you. Shyness takes time to come out of. Take each day at a time. And if you are shy, then you are shy! it's ok to be shy!!!
Get out of that house and get your mind on other things. Go to the mall, walk around...get a bite to eat....just go by yourself!!Health Question & Answer
Get out of that house and get your mind on other things. Go to the mall, walk around...get a bite to eat....just go by yourself!!Health Question & Answer
Jalana, Maybe you need some different friends.? I am an owner in a company that has on-line (virtual malls). Our training is excellent; it will help you not to be shy and can make you some money as well. also, you will find positive people and get great life experience from these successful entrepeneurs. My son is in business with me, he is your age. He was shy, he now s an excellent public speaker and earns great money form our company. I can put you in touch with him if you like or let you know where a training may be in your area. My website is www.212north.com Check it out. If interested feel free to call me. Remember, your most important asset is time, don't waste any more of it. Good luck JeffHealth Question & Answer
Instead of just thinking about how you have friends and shouldnt be depressed think about all the tons of other things you take for granted.
Be glad you can walk and talk. Be glad you can breathe and not have to lvie on a respirator. be glad you have enough money and education to use a computer, much rather less spell correctly vs kids and adults starving to death on the side of the road.
There are so many things in life that we take for granted. once you realize how much worse it could have been, your problems dont seem that big anymore. Health Question & Answer
Be glad you can walk and talk. Be glad you can breathe and not have to lvie on a respirator. be glad you have enough money and education to use a computer, much rather less spell correctly vs kids and adults starving to death on the side of the road.
There are so many things in life that we take for granted. once you realize how much worse it could have been, your problems dont seem that big anymore. Health Question & Answer