How Do You Live with a Depressed Person?!


Question: How Do You Live with a Depressed Person.?
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Depressed people can be very difficult to be around, and yet they need more than the usual understanding and support from their friends and family.

The anger and lack of trust that a depressed person may have for people close to him or her is very disturbing to someone who is trying to help. At such times, the sincerity of a friend is questioned when the depressed person doesn't feel worthy of someone's friendship. Withdrawal from others, even when very lonely, can make it nearly impossible to encourage a depressed person to enter into activities that may help pull him or her out of the depression.

It is frequently difficult for a depressed person to carry on a conversation. Attempts to help may be met with defensiveness and verbal attacks. Frequently questioning him or her about the condition may be met with crying and frustration, simply because the person may not know what is wrong. Reassurance is important, although it can become a drain on the encouragers.

While being supportive and understanding, the friend must be careful not to do things that fulfill any unreasonable or unrealistic needs on the part of the depressed person. There is a very thin line between being supportive and being overly protective. Too much concern can feed an unrealistic demand for attention. Performing too many tasks for someone who "just can't seem to get things done" can bring about great dependency and also guilt over being indebted to someone else.

You can best help a friend or relative who is depressed by considering the following points:


Do not moralize. Do not pressure him or her to "Put a smile on your face," or to "Snap out of it." Often the person will feel even worse after hearing such statements. Do not expect a "quick fix."
Be available. When you are alone with your depressed friend, you might say something like, "I have noticed lately that you seem down. I care about you. I'm willing to listen." Then be a good listener.
Don't say, "I know exactly how you feel." You probably don't. But if you've had similar experiences, sharing those may help. Say things like, "This is what helped me. It might help you," or "I know some of what you must be feeling."
Urge him/her to get professional help if necessary. Offer to accompany your friend to the first visit if it will be easier for the person.
Listen and watch for signs or threats of suicide. Sometimes people who are thinking about killing themselves give away cherished belongings or say something like, "After I'm gone...," "Are the insurance policies up-to-date.?" "Would you take care of my pet if....?" If you think suicide is an immediate possibility, do not leave your friend. Contact a mental health professional for help as quickly as you can.
Health Question & Answer

I am living with a mentally depressed person for the last 38 years. We have to understand them fully and adjust. Cooperate with them. Their mind is not within their control. And they are not able to cope up with their own. They may be dull. They may not take any initiative on their own. We should not hurt them. If you hurt, it will make the situation worse. We have to be careful in dealing with them delicately. They are more sensitive people. I feel one can manage, if one has some little psychology. You can bring back such people to normal situations over a period of time. But there is a chance of relapse.Health Question & Answer

keep praying to god and make sure they take their medication everyday. talk to them and see if they wanna talk about anything.go for a walk or to the movie even thou if they don't wanna goHealth Question & Answer

I am very depressed and as long as you show some support that matters a lot. Health Question & Answer

You try and be supportive and make sure they take their medication.Health Question & Answer

talk to them, or help them get help,
basically, let them know your there for him/herHealth Question & Answer

patiently, lovingly, sometimes silentlyHealth Question & Answer



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