Dealing with past... new boyfriend?!


Question: Dealing with past... new boyfriend.?
I was sexually abused by a family member when I was younger, from the ages of 6 - 13, and I have post traumatic stress disorder. I'm obviously not okay with it, but I deal with it alright. The thing is, my ex always said I was difficult because I got upset easily and had flashbacks a lot, and I'm scared that I'll do the same with my current boyfriend. My ex also always said I hold onto it all because I don't want to let it go but I could if I wanted to, which upset me a lot. I make a conscious effort not to mention anything or get upset, but it's hard sometimes when I have a nightmare or flashback. I try not to think about it too much or get upset, and he's sweet about it I just don't want to push him away because I know it's a lot to deal with.

They are the only people who know about it, and only because it gets hard and complicated when sex comes into a relationship.

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open up to your new boyfriend.

This is something, that unfortunatly, you'll have to deal with for the rest of your life. I hope it'll get better, but if not you're gong to need a spouse you can talk to about it. Your ex was an inconsiderate jerk. I'm really glad you're not with someone like that anymore.

Talk to your boyfriend about what you wrote in here and about the flashbacks/nightmares. You don't need to be bottling that inside.

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top and bottom answer will be find god then all will become easier but thats not easy in its self so lets fill the gap
it was terrible what happened to you and it will never go away but it can be dealt with alot easier,you have to understand yourself before you can understand others and there actions.
living by the past and letting it effect me ruined my whole life up untill a month ago when i found god and most the answers i wanted were revealed to me.
but it took along build up to find god,if you really want to change yourself then you have to put alot of effort in and usually the truth slaps you in the face but you wont accept it so you take something else,usually what you want as the truth,but where does that get us.?
i have had post traumatic stress before due to my past and it really is dangerous if you bottle it all up.because its brewing inside of you and eventually it will pop and then bad things happen to you and others around you.but it can be stopped by letting it out bit by bit.
dont go to doctors they dont help as much as they should they give you meds that dont work usually
so with your boyfriend i would say keep most it to yourself and talk to someone on here.i am willing to listen and help you as much as you want and i have been in your posistion so i am more able to help than someone who hasnt.
if you tell your boyfriend everything he will not understand because he cant
so i urge you to talk on here with real people and then as you undertsand yourself gradually you will find it easier to deal with others to tell others in a way they can understand.
you need to open up to someone and not be afraid.if you want to talk to me and want me to help then you musnt hold back because it will not help anything,i will not judge you as i dont judge anyone i undertsand and will do what i can to help you through this.
its a slow process but a sure one and you will see results over time
please do not brush it off any longer as it is effecting your life more than you would ever imagine
if you let it the past effects the present and future and thats not a good thing when you have a bad past so lets change it yes.?
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