How are/did you get over your rape?!


Question: How are/did you get over your rape.?
It's been about five years since and I'm STILL not over it.
I find music helps, along with many other unhealthy ways which I'm sure you've all been through.
Any suggestions would help.
Thank you.Health Question & Answer


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I didn't understand what rape was when it happened to me. I just knew I wanted to die, and there wasn't enough hot water and soap in the world to wash the dirty feeling away in a shower.

20 years later the memories of it all came flooding back. My emotions took on a life of their own - out of control. Depression took over my life.
One day I was at church, talking with my pastor about how my life was going. I rather casually spoke of 6 rapes in my past. He asked if I had ever had Counseling / Therapy to help me get beyond it. No, I hadn't.
It was all so embarrassing. He gave me the number of the church's counseling office - I made an appointment.
The female counselor and I went through a book together. "the Wounded Heart" it turned me inside out - helped me to understand what was happening all these years in my body-mind-and soul. This book helped me to face God with my disappointments and with my neediness. The counseling I received there was the most valuable thing I have ever done for myself in all my life. It was difficult. But I've gotten my life back. Today I view myself as valuable, forgiven, and unashamed. Truly, it was not my fault.Health Question & Answer

I was not raped per se (my 1st real boyfriend tied me down with extension cords and had sex with me against my will. i hesitate to call it rape because he was my boyfriend, but in many ways it really was since I didn't want to have sex), but the sexual assault left me very scarred. I have a great deal of intimacy issues and actually chose to be celibate for a couple of years while I tried to get my emotions back on track.
I go to therapy, am on meds to help with the effects of the flashbacks, and have found that with partners who are sympathetic and caring I can derive some pleasure from sex, albeit not without some apprehension.
If it had been a stranger I'm guessing it takes even longer. And I'm not sure you can ever be completely over it. But lots of women have suffered through it and there are some great support groups. Have you tried going to one.?
I think that you can never completely forget it, but you can learn to trust again, learn to feel pleasure, and learn to love life again.
My heart goes out to you.Health Question & Answer

I told the closest person to me, someone I barely knew and yet I trusted her so much. She was very comforting for me, and she helped me the last few weeks I was in Texas.

I felt disgusted someone would take advantage of me. The worst part is, I was asleep when he started and when I woke up, my pants were already off! Nothing feels more disgusting than a gross, over-bearing, no respecting man on you.

I couldn't look at him, and I saw him for days. What's worse, I didn't report it, and then he claimed he didn't do anything an his excuse was "he was drunk"

Wow, I realize I still hurt from it and it was two years ago.

Best thing to do, talk to someone. The girl I spoke to wasn't judgmental, she didn't blame me, she wanted to help. Which I was glad she didn't come off saying, "Well why were you there.? Why did you put yourself in that situation." Health Question & Answer

Im not over my rape.....I dont even know if you can call it that. I was kind of sexually abused for a couple of years when I was younger And I blocked it out up till last year. So recently Ive kind of had to learn all over again that I was abused as a child. It sucks. Im sorry for what happened to you. Right now Im talking to a school counselor and an outside counselor. They are so nice and they help alot. Obviously Im not going to get over it quickly, but trust me, talking about it does help. Good luck sweetie, I hope I helped, be strong!!Health Question & Answer

find a support group with other people who when through the same thingHealth Question & Answer



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