Advice for a cutter...?!
Question: Advice for a cutter....?
I am a cutter...im just gonna lay that out there right now. I do not want to be any more but it is so hard to stop and every time i try i fail at it miserably. My best friend just told me that she is done with me until i find help and i stop this because she cant take to strain its putting on our relationship anymore...and it's not just her. I lost a really good friend because of this in about may because he too just couldn'tt anymore...im chasing people away and i want to stop but every time i try it just doesnt work. So...here is what im asking for: any advice on how to quit this! Im so sick of chasing people away and feeling extremely guilty all the time and having to wear hoodies and long pants in the summer and all of this crap that comes along with cutting. I want it to be DONE!
And just another note...in MOST cases (i cant say all but in mine at least) cutting does not mean that you are suicidal. It is quite the opposite actually...people do it because they want to feel better and get rid of their emotional pain or they use it to relieve stress or they do it to get control of themselves. It is not botched suicide and it isnt leading up to it...it is a means of moving on. Still, it is harmful and i want it to be gone. So...any advice would be great. ThanxHealth Question & Answer
And just another note...in MOST cases (i cant say all but in mine at least) cutting does not mean that you are suicidal. It is quite the opposite actually...people do it because they want to feel better and get rid of their emotional pain or they use it to relieve stress or they do it to get control of themselves. It is not botched suicide and it isnt leading up to it...it is a means of moving on. Still, it is harmful and i want it to be gone. So...any advice would be great. ThanxHealth Question & Answer
Answers:
There is NO magic cure. I think getting a counselor was the best thing I did with cutting. How long have you being cutting.? Do you have anyone you can talk to.? Why do you cut.? My counselor said to me reflect on whatever has made you cut, it works, I went 3 months without cutting then had a really bad relapse and I were cutting 1-3 times a day again. I used the reflecting thing and its sorta helping, I cut a few times a week now. Congratulations on trying to quit, realising you have a problem and trying to stop is the biggest step of trying to stop cutting. Going for a walk and doing exercise helps too because it releases the same chemical that is released when you cut. It is a big step to over come, it is difficult, I'm not gonna lie and say its easy cause its not. The 3 months that I went felt like the longest 3 months of my FULL life. I wouldn't set yourself unrealist goals like going 6 months without cutting at first; set yourself realist goals like go a day without cutting, stick to it for about 2 weeks then increase like going 2 days without cutting and so on. If you wanna talk feel free to IM me Emma.Louise_marshall@yahoo.co.uk
Edit: Don't listen to the people that say "just quit" because they probably don't how hard it is to "just quit".Health Question & Answer
Edit: Don't listen to the people that say "just quit" because they probably don't how hard it is to "just quit".Health Question & Answer
You're going to have to tell your parents. You'll probably need some medication, along with some therapy, to reduce your anxiety -- your therapist will probably also teach you some aversion techniques. Those are things that you can do instead of cutting when you feel that overwhelming urge.
You CAN do it, but don't think you have to do it alone, Sweetheart.
Best to you!!! :)Health Question & Answer
You CAN do it, but don't think you have to do it alone, Sweetheart.
Best to you!!! :)Health Question & Answer
tell your parents and they will help you find help
if you don't have a good relationship with them talk to your teacher or a doctor and they can help you.
don't be scared to ask for helpHealth Question & Answer
if you don't have a good relationship with them talk to your teacher or a doctor and they can help you.
don't be scared to ask for helpHealth Question & Answer
therapy
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so im not hear to answer your problem.. i mean i cant!! just wanted to know if you could mail me the best answer you choose.?... be kind of helpful im going through the same thing..starting to think it could be a addiction.?Health Question & Answer
seek professional help...it sounds like u try to stop but its impossible...they only real way to stop is to seek medical helpHealth Question & Answer
just tell your parents and get they will get help for you and send you to a place where they can help you move on and get through it Health Question & Answer
one word: jesus. im not even kidding. if your really willing to try anything to get rid of this burden i'd try giving it over to him. (personal experience)Health Question & Answer
get help
talk to a therapist.
see a doctor.
what ever it takessHealth Question & Answer
talk to a therapist.
see a doctor.
what ever it takessHealth Question & Answer
I am a recovering cutter. It has been 92 days since I cut myself. When I was in the M.H.U. there was a nurse who I consider my hero and she told me that everytime I felt like cutting I was to write down everything that is going on at that moment. Date, time, feelings and the situation that lead up to these feelings and the final thing I was to write down was wether I cut or not. I was told if I was to do this everytime I had those feelings to cut eventually the cutting will be replaced with the journaling. And yes you will still cut but if you wrote down 12 times that you felt like cutting and only cut on 4 of those times focus on the 8 times that you did not cut. Cutting is an addiction and its hard to stop. Even at 23 I still had those feelings I wish you the best and email me anytime you need helpHealth Question & Answer
As an ex-cutter, my advice would be psychotherapy. It is tough, really tough to stop, it becomes a habit. Please ask for the help as it is nearly impossible on your own and it takes time, it really isn;t an overnight fix. Do tell your friends this as they shouldn't expect you to just stop. Let them know you are getting help and you need their support. Good luck.
EDIT: Just read the bit you added. It is near impossible on your own, but if you insist there are many self help books. Avoiding it is not the way to go as you are not dealing with it, just pushing it aside. You can go days, weeks and even months if you put your mind to it BUT..... from experience I can tell you if you have a blip, you are so much more likely to hurt yourself a lot more than before. Feelings build up then it really hits the fan. But again if you insist, there is the red pen, elastic band.
I used this website - it is based in the UK but americans and europeans also use it. It is a support forum.
www.nshn.co.ukHealth Question & Answer
EDIT: Just read the bit you added. It is near impossible on your own, but if you insist there are many self help books. Avoiding it is not the way to go as you are not dealing with it, just pushing it aside. You can go days, weeks and even months if you put your mind to it BUT..... from experience I can tell you if you have a blip, you are so much more likely to hurt yourself a lot more than before. Feelings build up then it really hits the fan. But again if you insist, there is the red pen, elastic band.
I used this website - it is based in the UK but americans and europeans also use it. It is a support forum.
www.nshn.co.ukHealth Question & Answer
I think this is good practical advice because ive lived through something similar. Ive had a rough childhood and my mother basically did everthing to hate my self and i expressed it through various ways, nightmares and servere anxiety when i was young, bulimia anorexia, suicidal thoughts severe anxiety and extremly low self worth and esteem as an adult, i know its not the same as cutting but its all the same concept, u hate urself so much u feel like u deserve to hurt urself and be in pain, well the key to stopping any addictive and harmful behavior is to love urself i kow this i hard to even imagine, and its tough when ur surroundings have proven to u otherwise ur entire life. One way ive been abel to do this is, hey noone will everncare for me or take car eof me like I will and i mean no one and everyone else is the same way. I realized that my mom hated herself so much that she took it otu on me and people do that without even realizing it, i decided to turn my life around a few months back and im ahppy to say the differnce is amazing itl take a while for ur brain to get used to the thinking but its worth it cuz ull benefit from it the rest of ur life, love ur self no body else will liek u will ebcause guess what everyone is too busy with themselves. u deserve the best ur ur own's best advocate, best freinds everything, once this gets in ur mind, ull be one of the happiest, calmest and most confident peopel around. Oh and also say this to urself do i deserve this pain.? U DONT! but only u can take care of urself, no one will liek u will good luck my friend. please follow my advice and try it at least itll make so much sense.Health Question & Answer
JUST STOP IT
You need to find a different vent for your emotions other than harming yourself
You might think doing this is relieving stress, or helping you move on, but obviously its not!
Just look at you. the fact that you want to stop and you cant in itself means that it isn't in any way helping you.
try counting to ten, taking deep breaths when you feel like cutting
try to exercise or something else to take your mind off of it. You could take a long walk alone to help clear your head
there are so many alternatives and I just named a few.
cutting yourself isn't the answer
and never will be
I really really hope I helped
--brandonHealth Question & Answer
You need to find a different vent for your emotions other than harming yourself
You might think doing this is relieving stress, or helping you move on, but obviously its not!
Just look at you. the fact that you want to stop and you cant in itself means that it isn't in any way helping you.
try counting to ten, taking deep breaths when you feel like cutting
try to exercise or something else to take your mind off of it. You could take a long walk alone to help clear your head
there are so many alternatives and I just named a few.
cutting yourself isn't the answer
and never will be
I really really hope I helped
--brandonHealth Question & Answer