My cousin lies any advice?!
Question: My cousin lies any advice.?
am 38 Years old and my Cousin is 13 Years old,We are currently living under the same roof.because she has come basically come from a broken home she has lied and lied to me with just about everything in just a normal conversation.the stories she told me were not true at all.
She told me lies about her Mother and her Grandfather.she even told me that one of her friends were killed which all were made up.
I have tried to ask her why she lies to me she even denied lying to me.
I feel she needs some kind of guidance but being her lies are constant i do not know what to believe any longer and feel the need to cut all contact with her because she even lies to others about her confiding in me.My Mom says to pacify it that its a stage that she is going through and to let it be and forgive her because she is just a kid.I do not believe that,because she not only lies about everything but also is an outcast at school.my question is why would she lie to people who love her the most especially her own blood.? any advice please .?thank youHealth Question & Answer
She told me lies about her Mother and her Grandfather.she even told me that one of her friends were killed which all were made up.
I have tried to ask her why she lies to me she even denied lying to me.
I feel she needs some kind of guidance but being her lies are constant i do not know what to believe any longer and feel the need to cut all contact with her because she even lies to others about her confiding in me.My Mom says to pacify it that its a stage that she is going through and to let it be and forgive her because she is just a kid.I do not believe that,because she not only lies about everything but also is an outcast at school.my question is why would she lie to people who love her the most especially her own blood.? any advice please .?thank youHealth Question & Answer
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I wouldn't advise to outcast her as you say she is an outcast at school and that might be dangerous to her mental state. I think she is searching for attention and making up lies for someone to feel sorry for her.
I think you should maybe tell her that you are ready to sever contact with her due to her lying but that you love her and really don't want to do that BUT cant stand the lies any longer. If she denies it then say.....ok I am done until you can admit it.
also be careful because if she is lying about you she may tell a lie that will be harmful to you. I mean even saying you hit her, or have drugs one never knows. So its a touchy situation that I think I would cover my butt on and only be around her with others until you figure her out.Health Question & Answer
I think you should maybe tell her that you are ready to sever contact with her due to her lying but that you love her and really don't want to do that BUT cant stand the lies any longer. If she denies it then say.....ok I am done until you can admit it.
also be careful because if she is lying about you she may tell a lie that will be harmful to you. I mean even saying you hit her, or have drugs one never knows. So its a touchy situation that I think I would cover my butt on and only be around her with others until you figure her out.Health Question & Answer
consult a counselor about her, maybe she is just going through a phase or maybe she has a personality disorder. i cannot say because i am not a doctor,but it sounds like to me she does not know the consequence of lying.Perhaps she need more positive attention from the family, explain why lying is wrong in a positive way.Health Question & Answer
I'm thinking that maybe she has suffered alot since you mention that she has come from a broken home. It's understandable for her to lie to have attention on herself, but you need to be firm with her and tell her how you feel that she's lying so much. I suggest that maybe the both of you go into counceling so that maybe it will give her a chance to open up and a chance for you to open up and let her know exactly how you feel and how bad it is for her to keep lying. This is probably one of the reasons why she is an outkast as school. Getting her to open up will hopefully help you understand and you can pull everything back together for her. And please don't just give up. She's 13 years old and has had a rough background. What she needs most is to feel loved, not to feel given up on.Health Question & Answer