Girls are not worth my depression, but it is taking over my life?!


Question: Girls are not worth my depression, but it is taking over my life.?
For the record, i am 19yrs old. i dated a girl for an entire year and she broke up with me out of the blue, i am still very much in love with her and i think about her non stop. After her i had another girlfriend who i took a risk and ended up getting hurt again as she also was cheating on me. Between her i had a few girls and hookups that i am not proud of because i treated the girls like ****. That brings me to the summer. I met a girl at work and i really liked her. we went out a couple times then she started lying to me saying she couldnt hang out and then she told me she never even liked me and that i was heartless. Now i am 700 miles away from home just to get away from all the bullshit that home and girls and people all brought me. I am officially heartbroken and may in fact consider myself heartless, but im tired of being that way. I want to be in love again but im not letting myself. i just dont want to get hurt again. That is my background story, now onto my question. This girl in class is just my type but i am afraid to make a move and ask her out....what if she says no.? A couple years ago i wouldnt care, a couple years ago i had self confidence. I like her and i just need help. if anyone can please give me some advice. Thank youHealth Question & Answer


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I feel the same way too, I want to love again but after my ex broke my heart, I don't think I can go through that again. But me and you are different, you are a guy so go out there and just make your move but remember don't just give your heart away like that....take your time and let your heart and mind heal about past relationships and hopefully you will be able to give love back to her when she falls for you but for now just tell her you like her and just want to see if things can work out between the two of you. I would suggest to leave a letter for her but girls respect guys who can face them....Good luck and let us know how it goes.Health Question & Answer

sounds like you need to check yourself or up your standards... its either you or the girls you are choosing... as for this girl youre crushin' on, be cool. dont be too desperate and remember, girls dont like i when you fall in love with them after 1 week buddy... it seems desperate and pathetic... play it cool.Health Question & Answer

Wait til the last day of class and ask her out. Health Question & Answer

Dont be stupid! Choose your values wisely...Health Question & Answer

I personally think that relationships can't go anywhere if you are not sure of yourself because it will be too hard on the other to try and pick up the pieces for you. You should be rid of all the heartache so you do not punish a new love for things an old one did. But if you really insist on asking her out, then just do it. If you stand on the sidelines because of the fear, you will miss out on a lot.
But if it doesn't work out, then move on just just know that you deserve someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
If you want, read "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. It helped me out a lot with all my thoughts of doubt.Health Question & Answer

It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all! You are only 19. Chances are you will have other girls before you ever find the right one in your life. Date with the intention of being friends and see where it will lead. If it becomes a real issue, I would seek a counselor. You have to give up the past before you can go forward.Health Question & Answer



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