I am not too sure what is happening to me?!
Question: I am not too sure what is happening to me.?
Okay so at the moment I feel as if I have no friends, and even if they did they don't care about me.
I am a fat slob, I posted a picture on here and I got told just that.
I don't feel like anyone cares about me.
If I were to die right now, nobody would even notice.
My parents don't care about me.
Everything I do is bad, when I try to make friends its as if I'm a disease, they don't want anything to deal with me.
I am ugly and I try to photoshop my pictures to look different, but when I do people who used to judge me from my other school say, 'Woah your pretty now'
As if to say that I was ugly before...
At school people tease me.
I get starred at.
I hate myself...
My parents are struggeling to pay for my school fees. I think the world is better off without me, because then they wouldn't have to pay for me
and my brother therefore life would be so much more easier for them.
:(
You see people who are beautiful in ads, and programmes. But whenever I think about even being a model or a
actress, I know that I would fail because I am a failure and a ugly fat useless person.
I am a failure and I hide my marks from my parents. I am very dumb.
I am only 12 years old by the way...
- I don't know what is wrong. I have been like this for around 2 years.
Some people say I have a chance of being depressed but they don't know.
I very much doubt that.
Thanks for your replies, it helps very much.
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I am a fat slob, I posted a picture on here and I got told just that.
I don't feel like anyone cares about me.
If I were to die right now, nobody would even notice.
My parents don't care about me.
Everything I do is bad, when I try to make friends its as if I'm a disease, they don't want anything to deal with me.
I am ugly and I try to photoshop my pictures to look different, but when I do people who used to judge me from my other school say, 'Woah your pretty now'
As if to say that I was ugly before...
At school people tease me.
I get starred at.
I hate myself...
My parents are struggeling to pay for my school fees. I think the world is better off without me, because then they wouldn't have to pay for me
and my brother therefore life would be so much more easier for them.
:(
You see people who are beautiful in ads, and programmes. But whenever I think about even being a model or a
actress, I know that I would fail because I am a failure and a ugly fat useless person.
I am a failure and I hide my marks from my parents. I am very dumb.
I am only 12 years old by the way...
- I don't know what is wrong. I have been like this for around 2 years.
Some people say I have a chance of being depressed but they don't know.
I very much doubt that.
Thanks for your replies, it helps very much.
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Answers:
Ok a bit of honesty here. I am ugly as sin itself. I have crossed eyes. I walk with a limp. I am autistic so I have strange ways, I make weird sounds just going about my business. I have a bit of a belly so I am sort of fat. I am hairy all over like some kind of monster. When I was your age I was hairy back then too and people called me Wolf Man, Eddie Munster, Werewolf and worse. I have cerebral palsy which is a form of brain damage. I have features of AD-HD for which I must take Adderall having recently been switched from Ritalin. One of my legs is longer than the other and my feet are ugly and deformed due to things going wrong inside before I was born.
I went to school and every day I was teased by many people. In some cases the teachers who should have known better teased me. I feel you are likely depressed anytime you feel so totally bad about yourself. You are letting the painful things others say get you down on yourself. I know how you feel because, I felt the same way growing up that you feel now. All the adults in my life said the same thing these good people are telling you now and it did not seem to work for me.
You have to start loving yourself more than the other people can hate you. The kids used to call me a werewolf but you know in time I started loving that werewolf I was supposed to be. I started doing the good things I wanted to do. I started helping others and getting awards for doing so. I started focusing on things that let me shine as a person. I started volunteering helping people in organizations doing office work for the March of Dimes, as I got older I started helping out in mental hospitals, soup kicthens, teaching hospitals and other places that needed me. I even started helping ex-offenders learn how to read, do math, balance a check book, make a budget and build job skills.
In the beginning I was like you, I focued only on my negatives since thats all it appeared people saw. By helping others I found out it is a far better world with me in it than if I were to just disappear. I realized that I could make a difference in the lives of people who like me had rough breaks in life. I turned my weaknesses into strengths. Oh I am still ugly as sin, I am still fat, I am still hairy all over, I am still autistic, I still walk with a really bad limp now, I am still slow, I still get told I am retarded and dumb by people who do not know me. But despite everything that people have said about me I loved myself enough to go to college, get a good job, buy a nice house and today I am living my dream. You know lots of them very beautiful people who laughed at me or teased me in school are either dead, in prison, strung out on drugs, homeless or worse. You have not even begun to see how life will turn out for the people who have tormented you. Do not give up on life so easily little one.
Listen to me a 49 year old ugly fat hairy werewolf looking guy. I begame successful in life only after many years of trying and failing at first. The important thing is I kept on trying till I eventaully succeeded as you must do! I speak to you as a friend. Your life has hardly begun. Life will be hard at at your age always is. Life usually does not improve as a teen ager either because you are growing and changing so fast physically, mentally and inside. I read your question and you are without a doubt a bright intelligent good hearted person. You have gifts of joy and wonder to share with the world that we are all going to need when you grow up. I know you see nothing in your future now but give life a chance. Life will surprise you. All that pain will make you stronger in the future than all the people who talk about you today and your success will prove that as they are failing. I wanted to just disappear when I was young because the pain of the teasing and my doing bad in all things made me feel worthless. If I had just went away when I was young hundreds of thousands of people I have helped might have fell into crime, died or lived horrible painful lives. You exist to bring joy to the world little one do not let the mean things said and done by others blind you to the good youo can do in the world if you try.Health Question & Answer
I went to school and every day I was teased by many people. In some cases the teachers who should have known better teased me. I feel you are likely depressed anytime you feel so totally bad about yourself. You are letting the painful things others say get you down on yourself. I know how you feel because, I felt the same way growing up that you feel now. All the adults in my life said the same thing these good people are telling you now and it did not seem to work for me.
You have to start loving yourself more than the other people can hate you. The kids used to call me a werewolf but you know in time I started loving that werewolf I was supposed to be. I started doing the good things I wanted to do. I started helping others and getting awards for doing so. I started focusing on things that let me shine as a person. I started volunteering helping people in organizations doing office work for the March of Dimes, as I got older I started helping out in mental hospitals, soup kicthens, teaching hospitals and other places that needed me. I even started helping ex-offenders learn how to read, do math, balance a check book, make a budget and build job skills.
In the beginning I was like you, I focued only on my negatives since thats all it appeared people saw. By helping others I found out it is a far better world with me in it than if I were to just disappear. I realized that I could make a difference in the lives of people who like me had rough breaks in life. I turned my weaknesses into strengths. Oh I am still ugly as sin, I am still fat, I am still hairy all over, I am still autistic, I still walk with a really bad limp now, I am still slow, I still get told I am retarded and dumb by people who do not know me. But despite everything that people have said about me I loved myself enough to go to college, get a good job, buy a nice house and today I am living my dream. You know lots of them very beautiful people who laughed at me or teased me in school are either dead, in prison, strung out on drugs, homeless or worse. You have not even begun to see how life will turn out for the people who have tormented you. Do not give up on life so easily little one.
Listen to me a 49 year old ugly fat hairy werewolf looking guy. I begame successful in life only after many years of trying and failing at first. The important thing is I kept on trying till I eventaully succeeded as you must do! I speak to you as a friend. Your life has hardly begun. Life will be hard at at your age always is. Life usually does not improve as a teen ager either because you are growing and changing so fast physically, mentally and inside. I read your question and you are without a doubt a bright intelligent good hearted person. You have gifts of joy and wonder to share with the world that we are all going to need when you grow up. I know you see nothing in your future now but give life a chance. Life will surprise you. All that pain will make you stronger in the future than all the people who talk about you today and your success will prove that as they are failing. I wanted to just disappear when I was young because the pain of the teasing and my doing bad in all things made me feel worthless. If I had just went away when I was young hundreds of thousands of people I have helped might have fell into crime, died or lived horrible painful lives. You exist to bring joy to the world little one do not let the mean things said and done by others blind you to the good youo can do in the world if you try.Health Question & Answer
You have a unique devine purpose in life. Don't spend time worrying what others think of you.It's not what people say that count it's what YOU do.Do things that you enjoy in life and forget about peoples mindless opionions because all opinions are mindles.Live it, love it enjoy it, because its too short to throw away.Health Question & Answer
you need to visit a special needs class so so you can see kids who have disabilities, then you will appreciate what you do have, if you can walk and talk, feed yourself, read and write then be thankfulHealth Question & Answer
don't worry about what others say.just be in the wright path concentrating on your ambitionHealth Question & Answer
Some parents don't show their love in perhaps the way YOU need it to be shown. But I have no doubt that they love you and would be DEVASTATED if anything bad were to happen to you...in fact they would suffer terribly. Think about that. Would you want your parents to suffer so much it is almost unbearable.?.?.?.? NEVER think about doing something selfish like that. The overwhelming majority of families struggle on a daily basis to provide things for their children...it is called life. You needn't worry about that.
Ugly.?.?When you are feeling bad about yourself you feel ugly....most people do.....when you are feeling good about yourself and all is well...you will feel like you look like a million bucks.....
When you are young...other people's words hurt immensely...as you get older and are more comfortable with yourself their words may not mean as much to you.....i am not sure why some people are soooo mean.....they might not understand why some people are so sensitive. Point is....if someone is mean then it is not your problem unless you let it be. Mean people have their own problems....and when they say something to you let it bounce off because it usually has any basis in truth. It is about them not you.
Maybe on a day when things are quiet at the house; talk to your mom about feeling bad about yourself...and see if that helps.
But make no mistake; you are loved by your family. Maybe try and volunteer at the animal shelter or at the hospital...get outside of yourself and do something for someone else...it gives you a warm feeling inside to help others who would really appreciate it.
Hope that helps...talk to mom and get volunteering...and forget the idiots with the loose lips.Health Question & Answer
Ugly.?.?When you are feeling bad about yourself you feel ugly....most people do.....when you are feeling good about yourself and all is well...you will feel like you look like a million bucks.....
When you are young...other people's words hurt immensely...as you get older and are more comfortable with yourself their words may not mean as much to you.....i am not sure why some people are soooo mean.....they might not understand why some people are so sensitive. Point is....if someone is mean then it is not your problem unless you let it be. Mean people have their own problems....and when they say something to you let it bounce off because it usually has any basis in truth. It is about them not you.
Maybe on a day when things are quiet at the house; talk to your mom about feeling bad about yourself...and see if that helps.
But make no mistake; you are loved by your family. Maybe try and volunteer at the animal shelter or at the hospital...get outside of yourself and do something for someone else...it gives you a warm feeling inside to help others who would really appreciate it.
Hope that helps...talk to mom and get volunteering...and forget the idiots with the loose lips.Health Question & Answer
what you are describing is depression. probably has a lot to do with your age, actually. There is no such thing as a useless person, and the worst thing anyone can do is to worry about what 'everybody else thinks'
I understand how you feel, I was teased a lot in school for being different, and I also felt like people would be happier if I just 'went away'.
However, As I got older, and I met those same people I thought hated me almost a decade later, I discovered that they didn't hate me at all, and we actually got along really well.
The point is that if people are making comments about you it doesn't mean that there is actually anything wrong with you at all.
oh, and those 'beautiful people you see in ads' are usually nothing like they actually look in real life. they use computers to make them look better.Health Question & Answer
I understand how you feel, I was teased a lot in school for being different, and I also felt like people would be happier if I just 'went away'.
However, As I got older, and I met those same people I thought hated me almost a decade later, I discovered that they didn't hate me at all, and we actually got along really well.
The point is that if people are making comments about you it doesn't mean that there is actually anything wrong with you at all.
oh, and those 'beautiful people you see in ads' are usually nothing like they actually look in real life. they use computers to make them look better.Health Question & Answer
Listen to me,
The people in the media are made to be beautiful, they have a ton of people perfecting there face and body. You, you can't think this way about yourself. Who cares what kids say at school, they know nothing! Your probably a very smart girl with a lot of potential. Your beautiful no matter what you say. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...and I can tell your a very caring girl that's very special. Don't let others bring you down! This world we live in, it's complete garbage...it needs people with a good heart. Truly. Although I may not know you personally, I would definitely be your friend. You seem like a sweet girl, and if you ever need someone to talk to, talk to me....I'm probably the most accepting person you'll ever know. I don't like to see people getting depressed...I've gone through it when I was your age....I still feel crappy every now and then but that's life. You family needs you. Never, and I mean never give up! Everyone has a purpose, you'll find yours in the future, I'm 17 yet I haven't found mine yet, it takes time. Be confident. You should be, be confident in who you are and what you stand for! :DHealth Question & Answer
The people in the media are made to be beautiful, they have a ton of people perfecting there face and body. You, you can't think this way about yourself. Who cares what kids say at school, they know nothing! Your probably a very smart girl with a lot of potential. Your beautiful no matter what you say. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...and I can tell your a very caring girl that's very special. Don't let others bring you down! This world we live in, it's complete garbage...it needs people with a good heart. Truly. Although I may not know you personally, I would definitely be your friend. You seem like a sweet girl, and if you ever need someone to talk to, talk to me....I'm probably the most accepting person you'll ever know. I don't like to see people getting depressed...I've gone through it when I was your age....I still feel crappy every now and then but that's life. You family needs you. Never, and I mean never give up! Everyone has a purpose, you'll find yours in the future, I'm 17 yet I haven't found mine yet, it takes time. Be confident. You should be, be confident in who you are and what you stand for! :DHealth Question & Answer
You should tell your parents how you feel. Talk to your school consoler to. And so what if people make fun of you, who are they.? Why should their opinions matter to you. Those models and actresses you talk about, some of them were probably a lot like you when they were your age. Angelina Jolie was called ugly as a teenager. also, a lot of people were a little over weight at your age. Your looks wont even matter for at least a decade (Some girls will tell you that its normal to have sex by the age of 14 or 15, those girls get to become what I call 'AIDs maids'). And don't worry about not having any close friends, you've got the rest of your life for that (I had almost no friends when I was your age, hell I still don't have that many).
So,
Talk to your parents about how you feel first thing tomorrow morning, and remember that your only 12 and have your whole life ahead of you.
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I just looked at your myspace page, those people who are calling you fat are full of sh*t. I also see you like Kurt Cobain. Keep in mind that Kurt Cobain, as do most rock stars, made a lot of mistakes. If he could talk to you, he would probably advise you to take a different path in life than he did.Health Question & Answer
So,
Talk to your parents about how you feel first thing tomorrow morning, and remember that your only 12 and have your whole life ahead of you.
[EDIT]
I just looked at your myspace page, those people who are calling you fat are full of sh*t. I also see you like Kurt Cobain. Keep in mind that Kurt Cobain, as do most rock stars, made a lot of mistakes. If he could talk to you, he would probably advise you to take a different path in life than he did.Health Question & Answer
sweetheart, i know what that feels like.
see http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depressi... to read signs of depression to see if you have them.
i've been through all that & i want you to know, that you can make something of yourself.
putting yourself down only lasts so long.
i go by the motto "be all that you envy"
if you want to be a model or something work at it.
if you think you're fat, watch what you eat & excersise.
you can do it.
remember, not everyone is good at everything.
the only thing your parents can ask is that you do your best
& if you do, they'll be proud.
i'm sorry you're feeling this way but if you need anything or want to talk more about it, you can email me at hey_arlo@yahoo.com
i wouldn't mind helping you through this (:Health Question & Answer
see http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depressi... to read signs of depression to see if you have them.
i've been through all that & i want you to know, that you can make something of yourself.
putting yourself down only lasts so long.
i go by the motto "be all that you envy"
if you want to be a model or something work at it.
if you think you're fat, watch what you eat & excersise.
you can do it.
remember, not everyone is good at everything.
the only thing your parents can ask is that you do your best
& if you do, they'll be proud.
i'm sorry you're feeling this way but if you need anything or want to talk more about it, you can email me at hey_arlo@yahoo.com
i wouldn't mind helping you through this (:Health Question & Answer
stop feeling sorry for yourself. get off your a55 and loose some weight. find something that motivates you, keep it.
life's hard at 12. yeah. it is.
if you're not better than your parents then they've failed. they're working their a55es off for you, give them something back.
also stop second guessing yourself before you even do anything, you've convinced yourself that you're fat and ugly, so that's what you're gonna be. convince yourself you can and will change, and you will.
you say your parents dont care, but then that they are struggling to keep you in school. if they didn't care you wouldn't be at school. if they didn't care you wouldn't be living in their house, eating their food. off their plates with their cutlery. they've handed you more than a lot of people get and you want to piss it away.
society has an ideal image of what people should be. what they should drive, what they should eat. what they should fear. what they should hate.
yes. you should aspire to be healthy, fit, and look good. no you should not bend to the will of the masses, or the advertising companies that own them.Health Question & Answer
life's hard at 12. yeah. it is.
if you're not better than your parents then they've failed. they're working their a55es off for you, give them something back.
also stop second guessing yourself before you even do anything, you've convinced yourself that you're fat and ugly, so that's what you're gonna be. convince yourself you can and will change, and you will.
you say your parents dont care, but then that they are struggling to keep you in school. if they didn't care you wouldn't be at school. if they didn't care you wouldn't be living in their house, eating their food. off their plates with their cutlery. they've handed you more than a lot of people get and you want to piss it away.
society has an ideal image of what people should be. what they should drive, what they should eat. what they should fear. what they should hate.
yes. you should aspire to be healthy, fit, and look good. no you should not bend to the will of the masses, or the advertising companies that own them.Health Question & Answer
People really do care about you, even though on the outside some people are cruel and mean. I strongly recommend for you to not to pay attention to all the rude and offensive comments the world throws at you. also since you are young, I suggest that you change your image like workout more and study, study, study!! (It is better to do it now, than later). To survive at school and at home "one must ignore all that distracts, from success"
Good Luck!!Health Question & Answer
Good Luck!!Health Question & Answer