What should i do with my boyfriend? he's become extremely irritable?!
Question: What should i do with my boyfriend.? he's become extremely irritable.?
my boyfriend is under a lot of stress right now because of his situation. i don't want to give much away so that's all i'm gonna say... he's very stressed, very frustrated, and faces potential charges because of which he could be imprisoned (though he is not a criminal in my eyes, far from it) . he is also away from his home, family, and friends, and misses them very very much. these past 2 weeks he's become extremely irritable, always looking for an excuse to fight or to start nagging... he's become extremely passive cuz he doesn't know what's gonna happen to him, and he's starting to resolve to alcohol to make himself feel better... he gets very angry very quickly and he keeps fighting with me, saying that me that he feels like i don't care about him.
so far, i've been trying to be patient and not to get angry with him. i know this isn't who he really is, cuz even before these 2 weeks, he used to be alot happier, calmer, and tolerable.
sometimes i think he is taking advantage of my calmness and patience to empty all his frustration on me... but i keep telling myself that this is just a phase and all i have to do is be supportive of him until his situation clears up. he keeps telling me things like he doesn't wanna see me, he thinks i don't give a sh*t, and all that stuf... i keep holding on and insisting, and when i finally do calm him down, he always thanks me for not giving up on him and tells me that he needs me...
what should i do with him.? from a psychological point of view, what's the best way to treat someone like this to keep them calm and happy.? i've been trying my best but it doesn't seem to be working all the time...Health Question & Answer
so far, i've been trying to be patient and not to get angry with him. i know this isn't who he really is, cuz even before these 2 weeks, he used to be alot happier, calmer, and tolerable.
sometimes i think he is taking advantage of my calmness and patience to empty all his frustration on me... but i keep telling myself that this is just a phase and all i have to do is be supportive of him until his situation clears up. he keeps telling me things like he doesn't wanna see me, he thinks i don't give a sh*t, and all that stuf... i keep holding on and insisting, and when i finally do calm him down, he always thanks me for not giving up on him and tells me that he needs me...
what should i do with him.? from a psychological point of view, what's the best way to treat someone like this to keep them calm and happy.? i've been trying my best but it doesn't seem to be working all the time...Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Life sucks sometimes, but you don't deserve to be treated like that. If I were you, I would wait until he is calm and can speak to you like a regular person, and I would tell him the following:
I understand that you are frustrated and unsure of what is going to happen to you, but I can't take the mood swings and irritability. You know I care about you, but you need to come see me when you can sort out the difference between your girlfriend and your enemies.
Hope that gives you some ideas. Bottom line, you shouldn't have to take it because it's not your fault.Health Question & Answer
I understand that you are frustrated and unsure of what is going to happen to you, but I can't take the mood swings and irritability. You know I care about you, but you need to come see me when you can sort out the difference between your girlfriend and your enemies.
Hope that gives you some ideas. Bottom line, you shouldn't have to take it because it's not your fault.Health Question & Answer
Move on. Don't be foolish. He's going to be in prison soon. Sounds like a loser.Health Question & Answer
find a new way to get his frustration outHealth Question & Answer
I know this is easier said than done, but from an objective viewpoint, I think you should leave him and take care of yourself. I don't know what he did, but if he could go to jail for it.... I'm thinking you can do better for yourself. Life is too short to spend your time dealing with unnecessary hardships. It sounds like he is using you in an unfair way. Whatever you decide... good luck.Health Question & Answer