Is it a bad thing, to not want to talk about my problems?!
Question: Is it a bad thing, to not want to talk about my problems.?
Okay so my girlfriend says that its in her nature to WANT to help people, when they've got problems.
I have a fair few problems going on in my life.
But I'm kinda coping with keeping them to myself.
A few times i have talked to her, simply because i had to let it out.
And just recently I've been having regular panic attacks, I've lost a stack of weight, I'm constantly zoning out, I'm regularly getting colds and i can hardly sleep.
I've been through this before, and i know its stress.
She can see me getting physically sick, and she keeps going nuts at me anout not talking to her about my problems.
I've seen 5 therapists throughout my life, and they've never really helped.
Simply because i hate talking about myself.
I hate venting.
Anyway my girlfriend said she's slowly detaching herself from me, because i wont share my thoughts.
Does anyone know how i can explain to her, that i respect how caring she is, but i simply don't want to share my problems.?
I've told her those exact words...but she's not satisfied.
By the way, she's amazing.
I don't want to lose her.Health Question & Answer
I have a fair few problems going on in my life.
But I'm kinda coping with keeping them to myself.
A few times i have talked to her, simply because i had to let it out.
And just recently I've been having regular panic attacks, I've lost a stack of weight, I'm constantly zoning out, I'm regularly getting colds and i can hardly sleep.
I've been through this before, and i know its stress.
She can see me getting physically sick, and she keeps going nuts at me anout not talking to her about my problems.
I've seen 5 therapists throughout my life, and they've never really helped.
Simply because i hate talking about myself.
I hate venting.
Anyway my girlfriend said she's slowly detaching herself from me, because i wont share my thoughts.
Does anyone know how i can explain to her, that i respect how caring she is, but i simply don't want to share my problems.?
I've told her those exact words...but she's not satisfied.
By the way, she's amazing.
I don't want to lose her.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
She may be frustrated because she feels that the relationship lacks intimacy. She knows that you are not well and there is nothing she can do to help, and it is very difficult to feel close to someone when you don't know why they're having a rough time.
In a way, you are rejecting her, when you refuse to tell her what's going on with you. She is not trying to be your therapist, she just wants to be able to be close to you. Anyone, esp. women, want and need that kind of closeness if they're going to feel like it's any kind of relationship.
If you want to hang on to her, you need to make her feel important enough that you are willing to let her into your life.
You'll find that there are very few women that don't need some emotional intimacy in their relationship. Your life will be a long line of failed or unsatisfying relationships if you can't or won't be willing to share your life with them.
Good luck.
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In a way, you are rejecting her, when you refuse to tell her what's going on with you. She is not trying to be your therapist, she just wants to be able to be close to you. Anyone, esp. women, want and need that kind of closeness if they're going to feel like it's any kind of relationship.
If you want to hang on to her, you need to make her feel important enough that you are willing to let her into your life.
You'll find that there are very few women that don't need some emotional intimacy in their relationship. Your life will be a long line of failed or unsatisfying relationships if you can't or won't be willing to share your life with them.
Good luck.
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Yes its very bad not to talk about your problems. Because i've been in the situation before and i just kept bottling in my problems and it just made me more and more depressed everyday. But finally i talked to someone about it and it just made me feel better to let it all out. It felt so much better to have someone by my side. So maybe you should try that. Talk to someone that you trust with you problems. Trust me! It really works..Health Question & Answer
Maybe try writing a diary, have you told your Friend you don't want to lose her, maybe let her read what you wrote on this site.Health Question & Answer
i completely understand. ive been exactly where you're at before
i would just try to be open and honest and explain just what you typed here.
i also think that you might benefit from short-term use of some anti-anxiety drugs and maybe an anti-depressant. i dont think you necessarily need to see a therapist or psychiatrist tho - try seeing your regular doctor and ask for something short term (like for 6 months or so) and see if it helps. ive found that adding these drugs helps me cope better with things and actually makes me more "open" to talking (IF i want to).Health Question & Answer
i would just try to be open and honest and explain just what you typed here.
i also think that you might benefit from short-term use of some anti-anxiety drugs and maybe an anti-depressant. i dont think you necessarily need to see a therapist or psychiatrist tho - try seeing your regular doctor and ask for something short term (like for 6 months or so) and see if it helps. ive found that adding these drugs helps me cope better with things and actually makes me more "open" to talking (IF i want to).Health Question & Answer
One thing I can tell you is that therapy may not be the solution for you. You need to see a psychiatrist, there are many safe medications that will help with your symptoms. A psychiatrist is only interested in diagnosing what your problem is and diagnosing the proper medication if needed. You don't have to discuss all with your psychiatrist. Just make certain that you don't leave out any details so that he can make the proper diagnosis. This is affecting your life in a serious way, there is help and this is really much easier than losing your girlfriend and living with the symptoms that you have. See a psychiatrist and then you can tell her that you have gotten help. You shouldn't have any of the symptoms anymore therefore causing her not to have to fuss at you for not communicating your problems. She sees and knows that you need help and is obviously very concerned about you.Health Question & Answer