Did I overreact? Am I a big loser? Should I be embarrassed?!


Question: Did I overreact.? Am I a big loser.? Should I be embarrassed.?
Lately, I've been feeling like crap. It's getting harder and harder to focus on my work. It's gone beyond just the normal worry. It's become a physical blockade in my brain that disallows me to hone in on what I'm doing. I went to a therapist whose only conclusion was that my serotonin levels were really low due to family genetics.

So the story is that my boss gave me an assignment to do, but I failed to do it correctly because of my concentration issues and whatnot. It was crap I guess. He called me in the office and asked me why it wasn't correct. I listened to him as he scolded me, but I ended up letting it slip that "training should come from the top down". See, I was never trained and I really don't know the job in depth still, meaning knowing what records apply to what in all situations. He got upset and attacked my experience and told me to get it done within the next few days.

Since I've been feeling sick, I decided to just come home that day. Then I decided to just call in and quit and get my health together with the doctor's medicine and therapy (which I'll have starting December 19th).

My supervisor ended up calling me back (after failing to return my first phone call) and invited me to come in to talk to the top boss before I made a decision. I went in and talked to the boss, who is a really nice guy, who told me that he didn't want to see me quit since he didn't want this to be a negative experience for me. He went on to say many other things that were positive, but said that he wanted to one day see this as an "aberration" that one day won't mean anything to anybody. He wanted me to come back and work on my health simultaneously. And I don't have to do that presentation that I bombed and was responsible for. This has been causing me overwhelming anxiety since, especially because I now have to go back and face everybody. I live wiht my parents and have the time to stay home and look for another job full time (I have a nice 4 year degree). I feel pigeonholed at the current job anyways.

Have you heard of worse, or am I a just a big loser (which my mind keeps replaying over and over again), I know it's weird, but the biggest problem I'm having is with embarrassment of turning in that crappy assignment. Honestly, I wish what my boss expects me to do for others was done for me. I would have had a less stressful first year.

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I think people admire a person who would come back and give it another try. They would also admire that you spoke up to the boss about training. The fact that they asked you to come back says a lot about you. I think the other people in the office don't need to know a lot of details, and if they ask you why you are back, just tell them the boss called you up and asked you to reconsider, so you decided to give it another try.

Please do get the therapy and meds, and talk to the HR person at work about the employee assistance program, to see if there is anything there that would help out. Talking to HR about your condition also helps protect you from being fired etc.

It sounds like you have regular depression, a common condition. I think you'll respond well to meds and therapy and probably become a big asset to the company. Obviously, they see a lot of potential in you or they would have let you quit.

Good luck!Health Question & Answer

Calm down, first of all, we all feel like this at times in our lives. I think that your main problem is you have low self confidence. Don't feel bad about the assignment you didn't finish properly, if you weren't trained well there is no reason you should have been asked to do it. Instead of giving up, you at least tried to assignment and if what you handed in wasn't up to par, that is most likely the fault of your management for not giving you the proper training. They probably have a lot on their plates, so it wouldn't be fair to criticize them on that aspect, but it sounds to me like they aren't blaming you for this issue so neither should you. Keep your chin up, and if you dont like the job, quit, but if you are quitting just because you are embarrassed, go back to work and get over this small slip up. good luck!Health Question & Answer

Your not a loser. Don't listen to people that put you down. They are just jealous. Take it one step at a time, and remember your a good person. Stick to that job for a little bit and see how it ends up.Health Question & Answer

You can't quit. You are just setting yourself up for a very negative pattern. We are all overwhelmed and a bit anxious at times. But in order to be productive adults we have to swallow that and get through it. And I can honestly say quite a few people BS their way through jobs. Do you think everyone knows every aspect of their job. No they just have the self confidence to pretend they do! So get back in there and hold your head high!Health Question & Answer

i've heard worse and YOU ARE NOT A LOSER big or small. i sense that you have some mental issues going on that have you in a bad place. once you start treatment (and i hope that includes meds) you will start to feel better and then you can out all this behind you. since you live with your parents and have the time to look for another job. i would suggest that you take some time off, get yourself together and move forward in your life.Health Question & Answer

This soundslike a difficult situation although i have a feeling you are being much harder on yourself than your coworkers will be. It sounds like
you are valued at your company b/c they asked for you back. How about
you give it one more try before looking for a new job.? You sound very
intelligent and you may find down the road that you liked something that
youlearned from this experience. Take care.Health Question & Answer

First: YOU ARE NOT A LOSER. Losers don't realize that there is a problem and they don't look for help. You did/are.
Second: This incident did not cause you emabarrassment for the first time in your life. Trust me, it won't be the last, either.
Third: It is my feeling that you should return to work. YOur employer/supervisor is so very knowledgeable about people (you, specifically).
Fourth: it is always a good move to be "successful" at the job one has before trying to move on. Additionally,I think you could benefit from real therapy, which may or may not include medication.

You don't disclose your age or why you are living with parents, but these are things that could indicate a partial source of your anxieties. And it is anxiety that is trying to defeat you.

Please see a therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, someone.
The benefit of see a psychiatrist is that he/she can do therapy with you and presxcribe medication if needed.Health Question & Answer



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