Guys make me uncomfortable, in fact, they seem to scare me to some degree. Help pls?!
Question: Guys make me uncomfortable, in fact, they seem to scare me to some degree. Help pls.?
Please don't take offense. Allow me to start from the beginning.
I grew up antisocial, immature until high school. Then in high school for a number of reasons I acted rash, crazy, and was pretty much called the local retard. The fault for that laid in a number of things and yes, in me. There were actually hidden reasons for my behavior as well. After I graduated, I turned completely away from all that and grew up. And I really, really do not act like that anymore, I am moving towards a respectable career. It disgusts me when I look back the still short tunnel through time, in fact, it hurts. But because of a lifetime so far of social out casting to a decent degree (I still had friends though) I am left with a lot of scars, scars that I have to try and get over.
Teenagers often put me on edge. They are a judgmental age group, I *know this from experience. Then there are guys. We all know teenage guys can be jerks, and so are not always 'equipped' to handle the local "crazy" person on school campus. But that's probably not the fault as to why I can't be comfortable around guys.
#Sighs# I don't know. I guess that if a group of giggling teenage girls in the Tafe campus puts me on edge, then I must have issues trusting people. At first I couldn't talk with new people, guys or girls, without looking downwards all the time, being unconfident or shy. Now I can talk pretty confidently to girls, I guess being one and the fact that that was the group that I always interacted with helps me to trust them. But guys,
Well they do have less of an emotion range, right.? I've been told that. I've also been told they can be insensitive. I still have issues trusting people, and at first, when this place I went to had an old classmate of mine working there I could not stop shaking around him. Now I can talk to guys and act like I'm 'normal' but I'm always distrustful, nervous and afraid to some degree that if I let them close at all they're just going to reject me, see me as some sort of freak, or something.? Or that I have no idea about guys or just how they would react to me.?
I'm trying to get over this, and I'll be heading off to one of those secret's sites soon to keep asking this stuff. Anyway, what I want form you, guys, is perhaps something that would show me that you are not a possible monster or threat.? Keep in mind that harsh words are not going to do any good in this situation, and it isn't my fault.Health Question & Answer
I grew up antisocial, immature until high school. Then in high school for a number of reasons I acted rash, crazy, and was pretty much called the local retard. The fault for that laid in a number of things and yes, in me. There were actually hidden reasons for my behavior as well. After I graduated, I turned completely away from all that and grew up. And I really, really do not act like that anymore, I am moving towards a respectable career. It disgusts me when I look back the still short tunnel through time, in fact, it hurts. But because of a lifetime so far of social out casting to a decent degree (I still had friends though) I am left with a lot of scars, scars that I have to try and get over.
Teenagers often put me on edge. They are a judgmental age group, I *know this from experience. Then there are guys. We all know teenage guys can be jerks, and so are not always 'equipped' to handle the local "crazy" person on school campus. But that's probably not the fault as to why I can't be comfortable around guys.
#Sighs# I don't know. I guess that if a group of giggling teenage girls in the Tafe campus puts me on edge, then I must have issues trusting people. At first I couldn't talk with new people, guys or girls, without looking downwards all the time, being unconfident or shy. Now I can talk pretty confidently to girls, I guess being one and the fact that that was the group that I always interacted with helps me to trust them. But guys,
Well they do have less of an emotion range, right.? I've been told that. I've also been told they can be insensitive. I still have issues trusting people, and at first, when this place I went to had an old classmate of mine working there I could not stop shaking around him. Now I can talk to guys and act like I'm 'normal' but I'm always distrustful, nervous and afraid to some degree that if I let them close at all they're just going to reject me, see me as some sort of freak, or something.? Or that I have no idea about guys or just how they would react to me.?
I'm trying to get over this, and I'll be heading off to one of those secret's sites soon to keep asking this stuff. Anyway, what I want form you, guys, is perhaps something that would show me that you are not a possible monster or threat.? Keep in mind that harsh words are not going to do any good in this situation, and it isn't my fault.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
yeah that sounds like a predicament. But you can't ask us guys to change because the problem you have with us lies within you. You need to change your perspective of us. Not every guy you meet is going to be charming and safe looking, but that doesn't mean you should never interact with them. Step outside your comfort zone and just be yourself. I'm sure you will get resultsHealth Question & Answer
Honey, I think you need to seek out a counselor and discuss why this is happening. Talk therapy is just that, talking and it can change your life.Health Question & Answer
aww that's totally understandable, that what you went through changed you. I have similar wounds that have never healed from high school. I think alot of people do to different degrees. Its a part of life and you can get over them with experience and discipline. You sound very sweet, I think guys can be insensitive, but in many ways guys are more sensitive than girls and this is why they act tough on the outside sometimes. Feel free to chat with me anytime Im a guy. :-)Health Question & Answer