Question for emotionally abused teens (or really anyone who can help)?!


Question: Question for emotionally abused teens (or really anyone who can help).?
ok so my mom and dad are divorced but i see him every weekend. so anyways my dad came over to the house for thanksgiving last night and and saw my mom yelling at me for a couple little reasons. and it's not screaming like a regular parent its more along the lines of "shut the F up or F U" so my mom asked me to do the dishes and i used cold water intead of hot and she freaked out told me that I didn't do them right and threw all the dishes back into the sink after i washed them and she said "you can't do anything right let me finish them." and she started to push me away from the sink. and i said no let me finish them becasue you're gonna ask me later and she kept grabbing me and pushing me. So i just ran upstairs crying where my dad was using the computer. and he asked me what it was all about and i told him and we just laughed about how she was acting.But my dad didn't realize that she's like this all the time. It's just a series of ***** yous. so then today i went with my dad to visit some of his side of the family and on the car ride home he asked me why i never call him and why he has to call me. and he was upset because I'm never open with him or anything and he says that I act like I'm afraid of him. I just broke down crying right there and I've never cryed in front of him really ever before. and I told him that I feel like my mom is making me antisocial like i'm afraid to talk and I don't like being yelled at. After I said that he told me that I used to always come to him and talk to him about everything but he said he's seen me change over the years. and he told me that he knows what abuse is and he feels like my mom is abusing me emotionally. So anyways he told me that if I wanted to I could just come live with him. He said he was serious and he didn't care if he had to go to court over it and he told me to think about it. My dad is the type of person who has never yelled at me before and he doesn't like it when parents yell because he was abused as a child more mentally because his dad was a drunk. and he told me he used to just shut himself in his room and never really talked to anyone at school because he was afraid. and i feel like that now but I'm scared. I want to move in my dad but I love my mom so much but I just cant take it. I don't like sitting there being yelled at when I'm not even saying a word. I have good friends where I live too. and if i moved in with my dad, then I would have to make new friends and i'm not sure if that would add to my stress. at this point I feel like it would be best because I feel less shy around people that I don't know, it's just what I would be leaving behind that would hurt me. btw I'm 15 and and in 10th grade.

This isn't really a question but if anyone can give me insight into my situation, then please do so. Health Question & Answer


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Awe, I'm so sorry that you have to be stuck in this situation. But look i am a sensitive person and hate being yelled at as well. I am 15 and am in 10th grade. My mom is always yelling at me also, don't worry your mom is just taking her anger out on you which is really no acceptable. You don't deserve to be yelled at and neither does anyone. So i think it is a good idea for you to live with your dad, why should you sit being abused. If you need anyone to talk to i'm here, i know it sounds weird but i help people on here all the time.
Sbrrx3@yahoo.com is my email feel free to email me don't be embarrased.Health Question & Answer

Most people who are abusive (emotionally or physically) don't change without help. Even if you to move in with your father, tell your mother why. If you don't feel safe doing it alone, ask your father to come with you or write her a letter telling her how you feel. She could easily deny it or explain it away as stress and that she wont do it again and she may mean it but if it does happen again, you'll need to set boundaries like, "if you continue to talk to me like this I'm going to dad's." and do it so she knows you're not going to tolerate it. Remind her that you will help her through this, you love her, and that if it doesn't stop it can hurt both of you and your relationship. Health Question & Answer

if you really don't want to deal with it anymore, than move in with your dad, but i see how it could be scary to leave ur mother alone. maybe ur mom is under a lot of stress about stuff ur unaware of. but sometimes my mom is a tiny bit like that when she gets really mad, and sometimes its over the stupidest things. i learn to not take it completly personal, because it happens so ofter. just do wat ur dad did and use people like ur mom and grandpa to make u a better person in the future, and not one bit abusive

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