Help. I can't cope with life any longer!?!
Question: Help. I can't cope with life any longer!.?
I male and am too ugly to live and I hate it. My ugliness has caused me to have no friends or lovers and I am 19 the age when I should be living life to the full and loving life but instead I stay in my bedroom all day being miserable and depressed, I have been like this for 6 months but have been seeing a therapist though it isn't helping me much. I am tall, skinny and have horrible cheekbones, my skin is horrible and I just hate being me both personally and physically. I tried exercise, i tried counseling, I tried meds, I tried behaving confident and improving my attitude but none of it works because I'm ugly. I have basically tried everything to improve myself in general but it always come back to people treating me like I am worthless. I have been bullied since I can remember, I have been undermined and thoroughly persecuted by the outside world which is why I stay at home. When I am out I cant bring myself to look people in the eye because when I do more often than not the person looking back at me has this repulsed disgusted look in there eye by the sight of me.
I appreciate all honest answers and wouldn't say no to any ones yahoo messenger address.
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I appreciate all honest answers and wouldn't say no to any ones yahoo messenger address.
Many thanks for readingHealth Question & Answer
Answers:
It all comes down to having a thicker skin. Who cares if some people view you in a bad way, or bully you.? I know that, over time, it slowly erodes will, but you have to just keep defying them.
Everyone is beautiful, there's no one that is completely ugly. Obviously, if you've been so hurt by comments and worried about your appearance, you're certainly not a bad person at all. And frankly, I'd rather hang out with good people than popular, or 'beautiful' people any day.
And, if you want my Yahoo address, add:
legendaryed@ymail.com
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Everyone is beautiful, there's no one that is completely ugly. Obviously, if you've been so hurt by comments and worried about your appearance, you're certainly not a bad person at all. And frankly, I'd rather hang out with good people than popular, or 'beautiful' people any day.
And, if you want my Yahoo address, add:
legendaryed@ymail.com
I know it looks weird for a messenger address, but it's right :pHealth Question & Answer
talk to those that are in their 60's,almost all will tell you of their gangling or pudgy physical appearance and similar emotional experience. they will also tell you that life doesn't begin until your 40. always confer with the aged wise ones for knowledge and wisdom.Health Question & Answer
I am very sorry to know that you are feeling this way about your looks. Have you tried " COSMETIC SURGERY "Hopefully YOU have not yet and it will be the answer to your HAPPINESS. GD.LUCKHealth Question & Answer
There's only one thing left to do then..
BECOME A ROCKSTAR! Those dudes are but ugly and the get all the chicks!!!Health Question & Answer
BECOME A ROCKSTAR! Those dudes are but ugly and the get all the chicks!!!Health Question & Answer
I understand where you are coming from. We live in a world were we are judged by outward appearances. This is not fair but its the world we live in. Something you must do is find what OTHER qualities you have other than personal appearance that makes you a valuable person. You must find a way to love yourself. Inner attractiveness is what's MOST important. I have met people (men and women) who were not what you might consider to be outwardly attractive people but that had such a good, warm personality that it made them more attractive outwardly. Beauty is not everything, my friend! There are beautiful people who are NOT happy with themselves and suffer from low self esteem.
You must understand that the ones who look down on you and bullied you suffer from their own self hate and inadequacies. WE all have issues that we must work through in this life. But you must learn to love yourself and appreciate the person God made you to be.
Keep your head up. Health Question & Answer
You must understand that the ones who look down on you and bullied you suffer from their own self hate and inadequacies. WE all have issues that we must work through in this life. But you must learn to love yourself and appreciate the person God made you to be.
Keep your head up. Health Question & Answer
You just need some solid friends for starters; friends who won't judge you as you judge yourself.
At 19, I don't expect you to believe this, but as life has taught me, EVERYBODY eventually finds SOMEBODY who will love them. Yes, for some it takes longer and YES, women hate men who don't have enough love for themselves to at least feign confidence, but just about everybody crosses that finish line eventually.
The trick is that virtually no woman wants a man who can't love who he is because, in theory, if he can't love himself, how's he ever gonna love HER.? Again, you need real, solid friends. From there, if your self image is THAT bad, you seriously need to fake it until you make it.
If you can't fake confidence convincingly and just wind up defaulting to self-deprecation, you'll never get out of this funk you're in. What you'll find is that, in time (and with SERIOUS effort), your feigned confidence will be replaced with REAL confidence once you start to see just how well it works.
Women care about hygiene more than physical "beauty" in a man, so if looks are your hang-up, just make sure you're groomed and clean where you need to be. Keep hair neat and clean, nails trimmed and filed, use deodorant, a little cologne (not too much) and wear clean, neatly pressed clothes and nice shoes.
Make your outer package as respectable as you can and work on your confidence. Make a "things I like most about myself" list and focus on your good attributes. You say you're tall and skinny. Well, I'm average height and could stand to lose a few pounds, so you've got me beat in two physical levels already... and I have a wife and a solid dating history predating the marriage, so trust me, you can do this. <")))><Health Question & Answer
At 19, I don't expect you to believe this, but as life has taught me, EVERYBODY eventually finds SOMEBODY who will love them. Yes, for some it takes longer and YES, women hate men who don't have enough love for themselves to at least feign confidence, but just about everybody crosses that finish line eventually.
The trick is that virtually no woman wants a man who can't love who he is because, in theory, if he can't love himself, how's he ever gonna love HER.? Again, you need real, solid friends. From there, if your self image is THAT bad, you seriously need to fake it until you make it.
If you can't fake confidence convincingly and just wind up defaulting to self-deprecation, you'll never get out of this funk you're in. What you'll find is that, in time (and with SERIOUS effort), your feigned confidence will be replaced with REAL confidence once you start to see just how well it works.
Women care about hygiene more than physical "beauty" in a man, so if looks are your hang-up, just make sure you're groomed and clean where you need to be. Keep hair neat and clean, nails trimmed and filed, use deodorant, a little cologne (not too much) and wear clean, neatly pressed clothes and nice shoes.
Make your outer package as respectable as you can and work on your confidence. Make a "things I like most about myself" list and focus on your good attributes. You say you're tall and skinny. Well, I'm average height and could stand to lose a few pounds, so you've got me beat in two physical levels already... and I have a wife and a solid dating history predating the marriage, so trust me, you can do this. <")))><Health Question & Answer
Listen you are a teenager and you are going through a stage where you kinda deciding what you want to do with your life. And I know sometimes it may seem helpless and it seems like the whole world is against you, you have to find a way to get through this otherwise it is going to eat you up. The first thing you have to realise is that you can't expect anyone to love you if you don't love yourself. You have to able to love and appreciate yourself before anyone can see and appreciate the good in you. The best thing to do is to think about who you are and the effect You have on the people closest to you because they are the ones that matter more Than anyone else. The world is always going to be critical of what they think is not the norm but forget about them. What matters is what you think of yourself so until you learn to LOVE yourself then there is nothing that anyone can do. Aside from that I wish you all the best, you have a lot of growing up to do.Health Question & Answer
Staying in your room all day won't help anything. You are def. depressed and it's common for depressed ppl to self isolate themselves and "hide". I have done that too.
Suggestions-
anti-depressants and stay on them. Trying them out and then saying, things are the same doesn't work. You have to keep taking them.
exercise-and not just once or twice but regularly. Like 4 times a week. Make it a habit. It will release endorphins in your brain and you can lift weights to build muscle and you'll feel better than just hiding out.
penpals-find friends online like penpals. You just write to each other. They dont have to know what you look like though they will be curious.
work-do you have a job. That can help you.
pets-a kitty or puppy will love u no matter what u look like.
church-maybe you are not religious but church has been good for me. i met nice ppl and they are taught not to judge. Not saying everyone is like that, but they are taught not to judge ppl so looks dont matter.
stop worrying so much about what other ppl think.Health Question & Answer
Suggestions-
anti-depressants and stay on them. Trying them out and then saying, things are the same doesn't work. You have to keep taking them.
exercise-and not just once or twice but regularly. Like 4 times a week. Make it a habit. It will release endorphins in your brain and you can lift weights to build muscle and you'll feel better than just hiding out.
penpals-find friends online like penpals. You just write to each other. They dont have to know what you look like though they will be curious.
work-do you have a job. That can help you.
pets-a kitty or puppy will love u no matter what u look like.
church-maybe you are not religious but church has been good for me. i met nice ppl and they are taught not to judge. Not saying everyone is like that, but they are taught not to judge ppl so looks dont matter.
stop worrying so much about what other ppl think.Health Question & Answer