How do you recover from a narcissistic relative?!


Question: How do you recover from a narcissistic relative.?
I grew up with a narcissistic mother and found myself really drained and wanting to give up all the time. How do you overcome this and get on the right track.?Health Question & Answer


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That's an excellent question. A passage from Bret Easton Ellis' novel Lunar Park spoke loudly to me: "...but his sneering, sarcastic attitude had latched onto me [and] become a part of who I was."

The unfortunate part is difficult primary relationships such as these are very difficult to overcome. There is no substitute for the love that we all naturally crave (sometimes shamefully, especially with men).

Individuals who've had such experiences sometimes cope with these unresolved feelings by burying themselves in their careers, exercising excessively, or even drug and/or alcohol addiction. These deep seated feelings usually retain enough influence over the person to affect future relationships, both romantic and professional.

I suppose there is no single correct method for moving beyond such a state of mind. I'm reminded of another passage, this time paraphrased from Dr. Keith Ablow: Life is less the art of learning to avoid pain then learning to live with pain. also, a recurring direct quote from his novels, "There is no original sin. Everyone is just recycling pain.

In my opinion, the best way to combat this disaffection is to fill your life with passion. It sounds cliche, but really focus on yourself by improving your diet, and maintaining a strict Hygiene/exercise regiment. Balancing your life can really revitalize you and relieve that "drained" feeling you spoke of.
Seek whatever help you feel will most benefit you. Whether that help is spiritual, psychological or even psychiatric, if it helps than that's what matters. Do whatever you feel is necessary to redirect that defeatist inner-dialog that compells surrender. Otherwise it may destroy you, as it does so many.Health Question & Answer

What, like my daughters' beau bragging to my father about his new GPS that took him a hour out of his way, or my daughter (jobless with child) showing up at my parents house with a lap top asking if they had WiFi.? Show offs and braggarts. I walk away.

How do I overcome the fact that my daughter now thinks of herself better than I am or any of us in the family.? Let's just say that I haven't talked to her in months because I can't stand her anymore.

Some people are just emotional vampires and don't know where to draw the line. Run, and save your sanity. I've seen it more times than not where this happens.Health Question & Answer

The only answer for a friend of mine was to sever the relationship.Health Question & Answer

be stubborn...it helpsHealth Question & Answer



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