Why is he so moody towards me?!
Question: Why is he so moody towards me.?
I was in a 4 year relationship with my ex boyfriend. We broke up in August as he is in a dangerous gang, i couldn't take it anymore. We have some of the same friends and whenever we some of my friends go for a night out and he's there with friends i try keep my distance from him and leave but he follows me out to 'talk'. although i still love for him i know i did the right thing. Anyway whenever im dancing he never takes his eyes off me, and gets pissed at me and calls me names. He gets into my face alot, he grabs my arm if i walk away. My friends are under the impression he is pissed off because am trying to move on. They also think part of the reason he is angry is because he screwed up badly and he doesn't want anyone else to have me. would that be true.?.I feel intimidated by him. He keeps telling me he wants me back.he wont back off me.
Please give me some advice if you can, thank you so much
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Please give me some advice if you can, thank you so much
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This looks bad, a gang... firstly that needs to end if he wants you back. Especially if it is causing him to be irritable and grab you when you walk away, it could escalate. This can also be considered sexual harassment if it reaches the point where you can't take it anymore. Did you know that school teachers can be accused of sexual harassment for simply looking at someone the wrong way.? Well, it's the same everywhere else and your ex is following you around. If he is disrespectful to you as well, calling you things, then he doesn't deserve you and he can crawl in a hole with his gang. If you do eventually "talk" things out, do it in a place where you can easily get help since he seems like one who can't take constructive criticism very well. You will have to be honest with him when/if this talking occurs. Tell him that you did love himm and now you just don't feel safe around him.Health Question & Answer
You are going to have to stay away from wherever he is. If that means not hanging out with your friends then it does. He could seriously hurt you or even kill you. Don't be a fool; jealousy is one of the most dangerous emotions there is and is responsible for more murders than probably anything else. Maybe you don't think he would hurt you. There are graveyards full of women (and men) who thought the same thing. If you really are done with him:
1. If he comes to your house, don't let him in.
2. If he calls you, don't talk to him.
3. If he refuses to leave, don't be an idiot: CALL THE POLICE.
4. If he shows up where you are, leave. Do not speak to him.
5. REMEMBER: His jealousy and anger have nothing to do with love. They have to do with control. He cannot control you and make you do what he wants and it is driving him crazy. That is not love. Don't be another woman who makes that mistake and thinks it is.Health Question & Answer
1. If he comes to your house, don't let him in.
2. If he calls you, don't talk to him.
3. If he refuses to leave, don't be an idiot: CALL THE POLICE.
4. If he shows up where you are, leave. Do not speak to him.
5. REMEMBER: His jealousy and anger have nothing to do with love. They have to do with control. He cannot control you and make you do what he wants and it is driving him crazy. That is not love. Don't be another woman who makes that mistake and thinks it is.Health Question & Answer
Sometimes if you know the "What" you don't need to know the "why".
The facts are, he is in a gang, his life is filled with violence, he is violent and you can't associate with him without getting some of it on you. What he does and how he acts is all about him - not about you.
What you do IS about you. You are going down a road that is very literally a dead end. There is no way you can write yourself a happy ending with this guy, because the tools just aren't there.
If you are serious about getting away, no more "just talking to him". Get a restraining order. Until then, don't go where he is likely to be.
You need to think and be a little introspective here. Choosing bad guys is a pattern. You have to be good with yourself before you can be good with someone else.
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The facts are, he is in a gang, his life is filled with violence, he is violent and you can't associate with him without getting some of it on you. What he does and how he acts is all about him - not about you.
What you do IS about you. You are going down a road that is very literally a dead end. There is no way you can write yourself a happy ending with this guy, because the tools just aren't there.
If you are serious about getting away, no more "just talking to him". Get a restraining order. Until then, don't go where he is likely to be.
You need to think and be a little introspective here. Choosing bad guys is a pattern. You have to be good with yourself before you can be good with someone else.
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