HELP! My friend is cuttin herself I'm scared.?!


Question: HELP! My friend is cuttin herself I'm scared..?
My BFF (we went to church together when we were 2 rasing hell together :) we've always been there) starting dating this guy in 9th grade. He is sweet and kind to her never hurt emontinal, and he's black. None of us had a problem with it but she kept it from her 'rents. (we live in MS so a lot of people are racist about that) for more than a year. We are now in 10th grade and her younger sister told her folks were she had been and she got caught. They have slept together and her 'rents found out. (i know why they are mad) Her real 'rents are divorced and she lives with her father and step mom. Her mom cheated on her dad. My friend got called a ****, a among things. She is now cutting herself. She won't talk to noone and talking to her isn't helping. Im scared and I can't handle this any more! please tell me what can i do to help her.?Health Question & Answer


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Its a very difficult situation. Although there are many antidepressants in the pharmacy you can ask your friend, but the sad part is she might not listen or get irritated more.
Ill tell you a trick. You friend, as i understand, is totally surrounded by problems. She might be having a rough time at home and school.
Spend more and more time with her. Try to make her happy by telling her jokes. Search some really funny jokes out from the internet and learn the good ones by heart and tell one or two every now and then in class. Sharing your own personel problems will make her understand that shes not the only one in this world who's in deep trouble, even cry infront of her, make her your psychiatrist, take tons of advises from her, make her forget all her problems. Tell her how depressed you yourself are, but still enjoy every moment of life not caring about anything.
At the same time change the topic to some other funny topic when she starts repeating her sad story, or crying. In the school recess or break, sit with her, talk to her, take a drink and make fun of the people passing by, talk about what people are wearing and have fun. Dont let her think about the past by keeping her involved in the present. You two are very young and time heals everything.
May He put you in the right direction. AmenHealth Question & Answer

Although this would be really hard you have to tell someone. She needs help and she is probably too scared and confused to ask for it herself. Tell one of your teachers or your guidance counselor so they can talk to her and help her to stop hurting herself. As a friend you are obligated to protect her even if it means "tattling" on her. Get her help.... alot of times people want help and don't know what to do, thats where the friends come in!Health Question & Answer

keep talking to her!
do everything you can.
here is a website you should try out this guy is so nice you can text, email, or call him he has helped over a 100 thousand teenagers, he has a hopeline that is open 24/7
heres the website: dmlive.com
He will help; and it is free.
his name is Dawson.
I hope this will help!!!
Good Luck! (:Health Question & Answer

Contact this organization to see what help they can provide:
http://www.selfinjury.com/treatment_safe...Health Question & Answer

Your friend shouldnt care what people call her and just because the guy is black she has got to chill with cutting its no big deal. Just maybe she could use a phsyciatrist or something but dont be scared she will be fine if she dosent take it too far.Health Question & Answer

Call 911. Run outside and holler "Help!"Health Question & Answer

u need to call the crisis hot line and have her talk to themHealth Question & Answer

The best thing for you to do is first try to remain calm. If she will talk to you, you have to let her see your strength. If you panic, that will make you more scared and you wont be able to help her at all. If she will talk to you, first, take her by the hand and pray with her. Ask God with faith to work out her situation. It is not God's will for anyone to parish. Let her know that this situation will pass and there is more to life than what people think and a relationship when you both are only in the tenth grade. I know at that time, I THOUGHT I knew what love was but you will never know until you give your life to God and he will show what love - TRUE love is. Give her a hug and hold on to her, tell her that you are here for her and go to church with her. Dont let her go by herself, you be here too. If you need anything more or if you want to talk, email me.Health Question & Answer

Go tell your parents what's going on and let them talk to her parents. Your friend may be mad of you for a while but when she starts getting help she'll soon see sense.Health Question & Answer

Is she on any kind of psych medication.? Usually when on anti depressants, one starts to cut oneself when manic behavior sets in from the side affects of those meds.

More importantly, is she pregnant now.?

The rest of the story is just a child mimicking the behavior of the parents. Kids unconsciously repeat their parents behavior or try to resolve their parents mistakes without knowing it by getting involved with a boy friend that is like their father or a girlfriend like their missing mother, so they try to save each other rather than having a healthy mutual relationship and focusing on school and their career.

How can parents be of any help when they are dysfunctional themselves.? So, this responsibility is not yours. Your asking of yourself to help her, but you can't help her if you are upset.

You need to first handle your own emotional issues first and then ask if she is ready to get counseling from a professional because this is way over your head at this point.Health Question & Answer

I used to self harm for 4 years. I know what your friend is dealing with & it's not easy. You can't make her stop & she won't stop if people are in her face about it. Tell your friend your there for her & mean it. Let her know you love her & try to understand what she's dealing with. Cutting is a really hard addiction. Is she close to any of her parents.? maybe talk to her real mom about it. If your friend needs someone who has been there let me know. I'll give you my email so I can talk to her.- Someone who caresHealth Question & Answer



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